Staying apart on for the night before the wedding?

Hi!


Even though you’ve been together for so many years, I believe there is something special in sleeping alone the night before. You’re about to start a new season in your life, and I think this is a great way to close and open a new chapter. It’s also the last night of your un-married life, you should spend it alone and give yourself that last night before my wedding me time. Time to rest, reflect, and get excited for that big day! You’re only getting married to him once so I think separating for that night makes it different to your norm, because you want to feel like your wedding day is like no other!

View Quoted Comment I really appreciate it. it's nice to hear someone else's point of view on that that didn't go the traditional way.

I think we'll be staying together. We didn't get engaged until 5 years in, and it was 2 months after that we moved in together (we weren't waiting to be engaged, that's just how our circumstances worked out). After spending so many nights sleeping alone in my bed wishing we could spend the night together more often, I feel like I need to make up for lost time! We are already doing a first look so he'll see me before the aisle, but one of my favorite things is those quiet morning hours where we have coffee and just talk, and I'd like the opportunity for that on our wedding before the crazy descends upon us. We'll still be separated for hours before the first look, and I am going to look like a totally different person than the bed-head half-coherent one he woke up next to!

We will have separate rooms. I'll be with my parents and he'll be with several of his family at another place nearby. We've never slept together and our first kiss will be at the ceremony so that isn't an issue for us. We will see each other the night before at the venue but after we head off to our own places to sleep we won't see each other until I come down the aisle.

Not sure if it's too late, but wanted to throw what we did your way.

We stayed about an hour or so away from our house for our wedding. We had separate hotel rooms the night before and my room was where we stayed the night of, so I didn't have to move my dress and everything all around. My husband checked out of his room the morning of the wedding and got ready in my brother's room and just hung out with him and the guys the day of. It made for a nice relaxing day on my end and helped with the build up to the ceremony.

Even though our rehearsal and wedding was at the same place and we lodged there the entire weekend my husband still stayed in a separate room! We were together for 5 years before our marriage— so we didn’t need to per day to the traditional thing but it made it much more exciting and special to wake up that morning with just myself. Looking back at it, that time in the morning before I was surrounded by everyone else was a really nice and special memory for me.

We're staying apart but I'm really introverted and I think it will be good for me to take some time alone to reflect before the big day. I also think I'll probably sleep better lol.

We've been together a long time too and I think it would be weird/give me weird anxiety to sleep alone the night before and therefore I wouldn't sleep well and I want to look rested AF LOL. I'm not sure what the point of upholding the "tradition" would be unless you've never slept together before and you're waiting until marriage but that doesn't seem like the case for you. I'll end up leaving early in the morning to get my hair/makeup done and then won't see him until first look. So, we'll still have a little time apart to get excited before we see each other in tux/gown. We also didn't want to spend the extra money for an extra room for one night for a "tradition" for the sake of "tradition" that wasn't important to us.

My fiancé and i have been together nearly 3 years! He is going to stay the night with his best friend the night before the wedding. This will be the only “traditional” thing we do for our wedding best wishes to you for a lifetime of happiness!!

We decided to stay together in a hotel the night before because knowing myself I am going to be very nervous the night before and being with him will make me feel less anxious, and that out weights any tradition for me.

I have thought about this for some time too as we have been together and already have children lol but for me personally I do want that experience. I will be staying at my parents as we have to travel for the wedding as well and our older children will be at the hotel with him and our youngest will be with me.

We are planning on calling each other first thing, and have written letters to one another. We will also be doing a family prayer with our children prior to the wedding (but we will not see each other) where we get to hold hands.

Hello , Well we are super excited about our Wedding Day ...We will spend the day together the day before the Wedding then see eachother on our Special day .

Would definitely go for separate rooms. After wfh over a year together, I’ve learned that distance makes the heart grow fonder and I want his heart to be pumping when he first sees me all dolled up in a wedding dress

View Quoted Comment Definitely agree. Very well explained!

My fiancé and I live together and we decided for that night to stick to tradition and sleep apart. We’re getting married in a venue an hour away from our home as well. I’m going to be at a near by hotel the night before, so I’m staying in the bridal suite with my sister, which will become our honeymoon suite the very next night (to save $$ and for logistics of being able to stay in the room late without paying an extra night). And he’s staying at home and getting ready with his parents at his parents house. We figured it’ll make it even special the moment we see each other when I walk down the aisle.

My finance and I get married in 2 weeks and we will be staying separately. We choose to not sleep in the same bed together nor live together until our marriage night. We both have a strong faith and convictions and wanted to be in alignment with God's guidance/scriptures so that is what we choose. Although difficult at times, we are excited that we are going to be victorious in our goal and desire to wait till we get married to be together in that way. I plan to stay in a hotel near the venue the night before to make hair & makeup easier and not have to get up early to avoid traffic. We are getting married outside LA and during a holiday weekend so planning for holiday traffic unfortunately. He elected to stay at his/our future home the night before and drive down early in the morning. Hope that helps give a different perspective. Best wishes whatever you choose. Listen to your gut and what will make it special for you.

We're gonna stay together. I dont think its ever occurred to either of us to stay apart. We're also planning on doing a wedding party breakfast the morning of to get the day started with everyone.

I’ve been w my fiancé for 13 years. We’re getting married 9.4.21 - similar situation as you, about an hour away. I booked us separate suites for the weekend. We’re going to spend the night before apart. I have my girls coming to my room for hair & makeup in the am & he can do his own thing w the guys. I’ll see him for our first look before the ceremony. We’re not traditional but this was something I was always planning to do. My brother & his wife didn’t get separate rooms the night before & over the years, it’s actually something they have both told me they regretted.

We wanted to be traditional and spend the night apart just because we thought it was a romantic tradition. But, since we will now marry at a couples only destination resort ( just the two of us), that's not happening. We'll breakfast together, get him ready ( including his getting ready pics) and out the door, them my HMUA team will arrive and we won't see each other again until our ceremony. Congratulations!!

We are staying separate for the fact that the night before I am going back to the venue to decorate (next town over by 30 minutes). We can't get in to decorate until 9pm so I don't want to be driving back to our house at like midnight. If this weren't the case, I would be staying at home in my own bed LOL