Stag and Drag Party

I have never even heard of a stag and drag...what is that?

Is this like a Stag and Doe party for fundraising for your wedding? I just heard about that for the first time this weekend... I guess it's pretty common in areas of Canada.

Hi Kelly ~ Welcome to WW

Do you live in Canada or someplace where Stag parties are popular? They sound like a ton of fun!

When you say "drag" Does that mean you plan to have your guest dress in Drag?

I agre with Jessica, I've seen it called Stag and Doe or Buck and Doe.

A stag and drag (as referred to in the NW Pa area) is akin to stag and doe. It is a fundraiser for the bride and groom (and just a really good excuse to party with friends)! Depending on who you talk to, it is put on by either the bride and groom or their wedding party (this being the most common). You buy a ticket or pay $5-$10 at the door which includes free beer and food. They sell shots or jello shots for 50 cents or $1, and have gambling games. Usually before the end of the night the drinking party games like beer pong end up being played. The tickets pay for the beer and door prize and party expenses mostly. It's the shots and the games that make the money for the bride and groom, so it's up to you how much you want to "donate".

My problem is that I am running out of ideas for the games. 50/50 raffle and chinese auction (sort of like silent auction) are give-ins, but I want to have some games that are different and fun, that people will have a good time playing. Any ideas?

I'd skip on the stag and drag party and just charge your guests admission at the door on your wedding day.

I never did understand the point of raising money for a wedding ... when you're spending money on a party.... save the cash and put it towards a day that you and your groom can afford.

Kimi K.... did come to this site to be insulted by you. Thanks for wasting both of our times on your post. Have a nice day.

Kimi didn't insult you Kelly, she was just giving her opinion. When you come here that's what you get. People's opinions.

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I have to agree with Kimi. And my no means was she insulting you.

As someone who loves throwing parties no matter how I receive from others chipping I always spend more than I receive.

If this is truly something you want to have I'd weigh the pro(s) and con(s) of the money expected to be made vs. the money being shelled out.

You may find that saving and planning to purchase things needed for your wedding on a monthly basis may be more fruitful.

I also have to agree with Kimi- I don't see a point in having a fundraiser party for your wedding. I would skip it and just save the money for your actual wedding.

But if you're still up for having the party then some games you could play:: http://bridalbasics.ca/article.jacknjill.games.html

Hi Kelly

I think it is a Great idea because it is something that is Done in your area. When it is an area where it is not common, that is where people become offended. I hope it doesn't drive you away. There are LOTS of great ladies on here with really good ideas.

These have Candian names to the games because they seem to be really popular up there... but you get the idea....

If you do stick around, please change your image.

- Drop the coin in the shot glass ( a water jug from a water cooler filled with water - if it falls in the shot glass they win a free drink) ** Use a broom handle and put it in the shot glass to hold it in place while you fill the jug with water

- In the balloon popping game participants tie balloons to their ankles with a string and try to stomp on each other's balloons. The last person with their balloon intact wins a prize.

- "Hammer Time' You get a big tree stump a hammer and super long nails. Whomever hits the nail down with the least number of hits wins ( EVERY little tap counts even to readjust) Guys get super competitive for this one and keep playing to win. One guy spent about 80 bucks to win. Keep track of their name and number of hits on a big chart so people will keep playing. Bring safety glasses and keep the stump on the floor (too easy if it's on a table or something).

You can go to to the health units and picked up a ton of condoms (they're free there hehe), I put in them in a large restaurant sized mayonnaise jar and charged people $1/guess, whoever got the closest won the jar. the catch? you can guess using someone else's name, so it could be embarrassing for someone to win a huge thing of condoms

- A Texas Mickey. Basically you have a huge bottle of liquor or we did Liquor store gift cards and you buy tickets like a 50/50. Sell them for $10 for half and arm length and $20 for a full arm length plus a little extra.

A lock box game. There are like X number of keys and you have to pay whatever to buy a key ($5, $10, etc.). If your key unlocks the box, you get the prize that is inside. (I would make it a cool prize)

Do a jail, ppl put their friends in an area for a $1/minute while you're in jail.

Fish insurance, guests pay $1 to be insured, if they don't buy it and win a prize they have to swallow a fish to get the prize...

Jokers: Tape an entire deck of cards face down on a posterboard, and sell each card for a set price, which can vary depending on the sizes of your guest's pocketbooks. As the cards are sold, allow the buyer to write his or her name onto it. When they are all sold, find out who's got the jokers, and each get a percentage of the pot, with the house taking the rest. Variations of this game have the Ace of Spades taking half, and the couple the other half, but either works fine. A good game to advertize as they walk in or are buying beer tickets as your guests already have their cash out and will be more willing to spend

a food auction - the groom & bride will sit in a kiddy pool with goggles on and the guests get to bid on food like - chocolate syrup, eggs, etc. At the end - a bag of flour... whoever is the highest bidder gets to pour the items on them.. it mades a ton of money and you do it near the end of the night so it keeps ppl sticking around to watch and drink (buy) more.

You can do a theme (moustache and mini skirt) if the guests come in either they get a ticket to put in a draw for wearing one or both. at the end, do a draw for a prize

And since you say it IS popular in your area.... Don't forget to talk to local vendors and ask if they want to contribute anything for prizes.... doesn't hurt to ask. Tell them you will have some kind of advertisement to promote their business.

~ congrats ~ and happy planning

Hayley C. and Honey B.-- Thanks so much for the ideas! They are really inventive. I'm sure when the time comes, my bridesmaids and groomsmen will definetely use a lot of them!

And whether you all agree or not, the "charge at the door for my wedding" comment is insulting. But whatever, such is life. Thank you for your responses.

Sounds neat..also I'm in NW PA, I didn't have a stag and drag..but I HAVE seen at least 4 people that have had them announced on my FB and periodically see signs around town, you know like arrows for b day parties and things.

It's easy to call something tacky if one has never heard of it or they don't do it in their part of the country..kinda like the discussions we've had on here about the dollar dance.

I have never heard of one of these but I do not at all think it's tacky!!! I think it sounds awesome. Also seems like a good way to get your wedding party together to hang out and get to know one another if they are not already friends with one another!!!

Im glad I found this post. I just posted a similar post and was attacked with negativity. I agree with Abby, its a GREAT way to go everyone together before the wedding when not everyone knows each other! We will be doing the same idea. And those who are saying you will spend more than you receive.... in most cases, the bride and groom are NOT the ones dishing out the money, the people throwing the party are paying for it. Whatever is earned goes to the couple!

Not to rain on your parade, but in PA you technically need a gambling license to hold 50/50 raffles and chinese auctions.... I used to put together fundraisers for the Special Olympics at my college and doing it without a license was a BIG NO-NO! If you're doing something small at your home with a few friends you can likely get away with it... but if you're holding it at a venue, do NOT be caught without one.

Same goes for selling alcohol.... You can get into huge trouble if you're busted by the cops.

And if any of your guests were to get a DUI or into an accident that night, YOU would be held responsible for serving them.

I would suggest investigating your options to hold a safe and legal event