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Ring Shopping: Modern or Traditional?

Lynnie, on April 23, 2019 at 11:05 AM

Posted in Parties and Events 177

Who picked out your engagement ring? Were you involved in the shopping process, or was it a complete surprise? Traditionally the bride had no input on her new rock, but nowadays 20% of couples pick out the engagement ring together! Did you take the modern or traditional approach to ring...

Who picked out your engagement ring? Were you involved in the shopping process, or was it a complete surprise? Smiley diamond

Traditionally the bride had no input on her new rock, but nowadays 20% of couples pick out the engagement ring together! Did you take the modern or traditional approach to ring shopping?



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  • Tris
    Expert August 2019
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    He wanted to be traditional and asked for his great grandma's ring. His mom said no. 馃槬 It was a beautiful $10,000+ ring that she gave to her 18 year old daughter (which I understand) and her daughter later pawned it. The family doesn't know where the ring is now. She wears a different ring. It's all very upsetting because him and I have been together the longest and are getting married all on our own, without help like our other siblings have had.

    My ring is beautiful 馃槏 I still stare at it all the time even after our two year engagement. We had to be modern about it and we went to the jeweler together. My fiance picked the ring. I couldn't love it more!
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  • Vicky
    Devoted June 2019
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    Traditional! I didn't know what to expect & didn't tell my FH what I wanted. To me it was super special that he chose the one he thought fit for me. The ring is perfect!
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  • Amber
    Devoted May 2021
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    A mix. We looked at some options together to see what we both liked, but in the end, he had my ring made to his specifications.
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  • Elizabeth
    Devoted October 2020
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    We took the modern route, I'm rose gold or white gold because of my sensitive skin. OMG! I ended up a beautiful platinum set, I also wanted the traditional wedding set 2pc. My FH wants a gold ring with diamonds. We have previous marriages he's had bands and decided this is OUR last marriage go round, I've never owned a 2pc set before.
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  • Kristine
    Savvy September 2019
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    Kind of a mix, I guess. I told him what cut I wanted (cushion) and he took it from there! He did a great job - he had my ring custom designed and I LOVE it!

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  • Chloe
    Beginner September 2019
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    He picked it out with my sister and best friend so he would have a better idea of my personal taste in jewelry
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  • Abby
    VIP March 2019
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    Traditional! I had dropped hints of the kinds of rings I liked but he picked it out himself. It was perfect!
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  • Cathy
    Devoted October 2019
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    He picked it out. Here鈥檚 how he sized it:
    one day, we were doing chores in the garage, and I found a small hose clamp. As a joke, I put it in my finger and said 鈥渉ey look! World鈥檚 cheapest engagement ring!鈥 He took one look, tightened the clam, and said 鈥渢hat鈥檚 funny.鈥 Embarrassed, I took the clamp off, and he in medieval grabbed it and took it as my ring size to the jeweler.
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  • Mrs. C
    Super May 2019
    Mrs. C
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    Sort of both? We went and looked together MANY times because I had NO CLUE what I liked or wanted. He wanted to make sure of the styles I liked. Ultimately he made the final choice! Smiley smile

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  • kymarmck
    Super March 2020
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    I had no involvement in the ring process so it was a total surprise! The only thing I said was that I wanted something simple!

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  • Lizzy
    Super October 2019
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    We were traditional and he did it himself. He did have my friends get ideas over the course of a few months though
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  • Tara
    Master May 2020
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    Surprisingly we did it traditional. I kept trying to pick out rings and send him links of some, but he refused and said he would pick out a ring completely by himself.
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  • Meghan
    Rockstar October 2019
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    I picked out the style I liked. I showed my FH a few rings that were my favorite and FH chose from there!

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  • Brie
    Dedicated September 2019
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    Both I guess? He had taken me and had me try on rings, but little did I know, he already bought one! He basically took me to see if i liked the one he picked and how it looked on me, without me knowing he had already bought it and had planned on proposing. Only difference was the one they had me try on was gold which I don't care for. The one he bought me was white gold and it is perfect!
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  • Lauren
    VIP February 2020
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    Modern! FH & I went ring shopping together, and I tried on a several styles of rings. I LOVED this one ring, and FH said he knew he had to get that one because of the way I looked at it. I did give him a few more options, though, but they were all the same style. He wanted my input because he didn't want to spend a ton of money on something I didn't like!

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  • VIP September 2019
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    Modern. I went with him on a whim. We picked out the engagement ring and matching wedding band. Now we are trying to find his band.
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  • Mrs Sullivan
    Expert June 2019
    Mrs Sullivan
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    I showed him the design I fell in love with, he took that to our custom jewelry maker and they made the changes to the design so it would work with the round cut stone we had picked out
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  • maryann
    Expert June 2019
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    It was kind of in between I told him what kind of ring I wanted, and I even went to the store and picked out a handful of rings that I like, however, the final decision was his....

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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
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    My fianc茅 picked out the ring and did a great job. I had nothing to do with it. We never went ring shopping. So I was completely shocked and happily surprised. 馃拫馃惄
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  • SraDeCarrillo
    Super August 2019
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    Modern: he proposed without a ring after being too confused by the varying styles on my pinterest. So we went ring shopping together.

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