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Ring Shopping: Modern or Traditional?

Lynnie, on April 23, 2019 at 11:05 AM

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Who picked out your engagement ring? Were you involved in the shopping process, or was it a complete surprise? Traditionally the bride had no input on her new rock, but nowadays 20% of couples pick out the engagement ring together! Did you take the modern or traditional approach to ring...

Who picked out your engagement ring? Were you involved in the shopping process, or was it a complete surprise? Smiley diamond

Traditionally the bride had no input on her new rock, but nowadays 20% of couples pick out the engagement ring together! Did you take the modern or traditional approach to ring shopping?



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  • Kaylee
    Dedicated September 2020
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    Modern. He took me to look and we picked out a couple together. One was an oval and the other was a pear and he asked which one I liked the best and I picked the pear which was his favorite too. That's what he ended up getting and when it came to the proposal it was still a surprise and very special. I think it was fun getting to go together and pick the ring out as a couple. We both have the same style in everything.
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  • Alicia
    VIP August 2019
    Alicia ·
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    Modern. We picked out the ring together, bought it from Etsy instead of brick-and-mortar jewelry store, and it's not a diamond.

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  • Kelsey
    Savvy August 2019
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    Modern. We designed the ring together. We used diamonds that belonged to each of my grandmothers. This meant so much more to me than letting him spend thousands and thousands on a ring I might not even like.
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  • Sara
    Expert June 2019
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    We picked together. Smiley smile FH proposed with a loose stone in a little baggie haha. The stone was from his mother's engagement ring, and had come loose many years ago. We went to the jeweler together, picked a setting, and had the stone set that day while we waited at a nearby restaurant. It was perfect!
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  • Arkilia
    Super November 2021
    Arkilia ·
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    I picked it out, but that was my only involvement. I didn't know when he purchased it.
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  • Janet
    Dedicated June 2019
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    I had no idea what I wanted so I just told him I didn't want a sharp shape LOL (square or pear) in case it would snag on things. But otherwise, I'm good with whatever.

    He ended up designing the ring himself with our jeweler and he knocked it out of the park.

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  • Alyssa
    Super July 2019
    Alyssa ·
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    A bit of a mix? FH asked me what kind of ring I would like and I told him labradorite. Otherwise, he handled the rest.
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  • Dita
    Expert August 2019
    Dita ·
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    Kind of a mix I guess. He knew what I liked, but he did the shopping himself.
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  • Nicole
    Super October 2021
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    We went together to look at rings and discuss options. I listed a lot of things i liked, with the hope he would incorporate one or two. He listened to every thing I liked and incorporated it all. So I say he designed the ring because I gave him options, but he says he made no decisions LOL

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  • Kaitlyn
    Dedicated July 2020
    Kaitlyn ·
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    Kind of both. I gave him an idea of what I liked.
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  • EllieRose
    Expert February 2020
    EllieRose ·
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    Traditional! He went to his dad's store and picked from a bunch of settings! Took him almost an hour because he didn't think any of them were exactly right!

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  • Allie
    Beginner October 2019
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    I told him what I liked and he had something custom designed and surprised me with it!
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  • JustKidding
    VIP April 2018
    JustKidding ·
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    We went together to shop for the ring. I wanted a say in the thing that went on my hand every day for the rest of my life.

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  • Kelci
    Just Said Yes October 2020
    Kelci ·
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    Modern. He proposed with a family ring, but we found someone to custom design the ring using the stone from his family ring (at his family's encouragement). So I got to meet with the jeweler to make it exactly what I wanted!

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    Devoted September 2019
    ALYSSA ·
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    Modern: I had sent him a picture here and there, but ultimately we went to pick it out together. TBH I don't trust his taste when it comes to picking clothing/accessories for me, and while I try not let it be an issue I could not risk it with my engagement ring. Maybe that makes me a brat, but when you spend so much time imagining this perfect, once in a lifetime moment, I just needed to know the part I keep forever was going to be perfect.

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  • Heather
    Expert April 2020
    Heather ·
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    I guess a mix. I told him I didn't want the same type of ring everyone was getting at the time we talked about it. I also told him no yellow gold and it couldn't have CZ, however, I didn't care the gem otherwise. Other than that, it was a surprise, he created a custom ring and I think it's so beautiful. He did a great job!

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  • Nora
    Expert July 2019
    Nora ·
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    Kind of a mix? We went together but while I was looking at one end of the counter my FH found the ring on the other and I just loved 😊
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  • Rachel
    Super May 2019
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    Traditional - I 100% believe that the ring is supposed to be a physical part of the gesture, not some super expensive ring that I pick out for myself. My proposal was a complete surprise and I love that. And I love that he somehow knew I don't believe in engagement rings and got me a $10 silver mermaid fin ring to seal the deal. For me, it was perfect and I wouldn't change a thing.

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  • Mrscolón
    Super September 2019
    Mrscolón ·
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    My FH chose my engagement ring. For years, we spoke of what I was interested in and he shared his likes. My ring is 100% his decision!Smiley smile

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  • Aubree
    Dedicated January 2020
    Aubree ·
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    So I did pick the style of my ring and I thought I picked my actual ring but my fiancé surprised me with a totally different ring and way prettier! But I still got a round cut as requested
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