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Parental Permission: Modern or Traditional?

Lynnie, on April 23, 2019 at 11:05 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 166
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One of the most important pre-proposal traditions has always been asking the bride's father for their permission... or as the tradition has (thankfully) evolved - asking your future in-laws for their blessing!

The results of our 2019 Newlywed Report showed that 67% of couples still ask the parents' blessing. Are you cutting out this tradition and jumping straight to sharing the engagement news? Or is this tradition still important to you (or your parents)?


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166 Comments

Latest activity by Sweetness, on December 25, 2020 at 1:39 PM
  • Future Mrs. K
    VIP June 2019
    Future Mrs. K ·
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    Traditional, he asked my dad weeks before proposing to me!

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Traditional. She didn't necessarily ask for my mom's permission, but she did ask for her blessing.

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  • Caitlin
    Savvy July 2019
    Caitlin ·
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    No permission asked! He didn't see the point haha, it wouldn't have changed him asking me!

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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
    Kelsey ·
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    Traditional. FH did ask for my dad's blessing

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  • Kristen
    VIP June 2020
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    Modern. I explicitly told FH not to ask permission, and he actually had never heard of the tradition. He did call my parents a few days before to tell them when and where he was proposing and to invite them to a dinner that night to celebrate
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  • Allie
    Master August 2019
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    Traditional! He asked both my parents.

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  • OnCloudRawls
    VIP June 2019
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    He didn't ask for permission. In his mind, my answer is the only one that mattered.

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  • Nicole
    Super October 2021
    Nicole ·
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    I was on the fence but it was very important to my FH, he asked for my dads permission and blessing
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  • Jessica
    Super May 2019
    Jessica ·
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    Modern. No asking for my hand from anyone....especially since we've been shacked up for years anyway. No one really to provide input on that. LOL

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  • Jen
    Super May 2018
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    Modern. No permission/blessing was asked for before he proposed.

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  • Alyrae
    Super February 2020
    Alyrae ·
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    Modern no permission needed .... we have been together since high school so it was about time haha
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  • Talia
    Super October 2020
    Talia ·
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    Traditional. He went over to my house when I was getting my nails done and asked. Both of my parents were there lol!

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  • Ashley
    VIP December 2018
    Ashley ·
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    Modern! I would have said no if he has asked my father first 😂
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  • Caitlin
    Dedicated November 2019
    Caitlin ·
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    Traditional! He asked both my parents a few weeks before the proposal. I didn't really care and my parents are very progressive about it but it was important to him and his parents are very traditional and recommended he ask.

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  • Justine
    Dedicated August 2019
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    Traditional. He had dinner with my parents separatly and asked them. Then he went on to take my youngest two siblings out and asked them. Lastly, he took my older two sisters and my younger sister out to talk to them.
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  • Catlyn
    Dedicated May 2019
    Catlyn ·
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    Traditional, He asked my dad and when he proposed that was the first thing i asked before I said yes.


    There's something special about knowing your father or mother approves who you are going to spend the rest of your life with.

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  • WifeyPoo
    Devoted July 2019
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    Even though I'm 40 years old, we've dated for 4 years, and this is my 2nd marriage, it was important to my FH to speak with my parents, and they were so appreciative of him including them. He even made sure my brother and sister were there when he asked. My family is very close-knit. My ex never asked my father and I think he was a little hurt by that. If you are from a Latino family, you likely know what I mean. He asked over 2 months ahead of time and I'm shocked they never spilled the beans. lol

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  • Sarah Eliza
    Dedicated May 2022
    Sarah Eliza ·
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    He didn’t ask permission. My dad died when I was a teen and I’m not super close to my mom. My aunt is more of a mom and my mom more like an aunt.
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  • Danielle K
    VIP June 2019
    Danielle K ·
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    Traditional. FH met my parents for coffee and asked them for their blessing. my parents and I both were surprised and so happy he did

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  • Kelsey
    Savvy August 2019
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    Modern. I told him I would be very upset and offended if he asked my parents before me. I am the one making the decision to marry him, not them.
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