Parental Permission: Modern or Traditional?

He tried to ask my dad, not because we believe in this part of the tradition, but because he knew that it was something my dad would appreciate. However, due to family issues, my father made it impossible for my FH to even try to ask him. So he eventually just asked without "permission". But come on...I'm 34 and this is my second marriage. I give myself permission!

No father in the picture, he asked my grandfather for permission 💚 Especially lovely because my grandfather won't be able to come to the wedding due to severe dementia..FH got him before his health went downhill.

Traditional!❤

Traditional, it was important to me that we had my father's blessing.

Traditional! He asked my dad a few days before the proposal!

Modern. My Dad made it clear he had no say in my decisions and would only (jokingly) tell FH to run for it if asked. I’m 42, I haven’t needed my father’s permission for anything for a very long time. To me it would have been ridiculous for FH to ask him/seek his blessing.

Traditional!

My FH actually proposed following his basic training. He did not have access to a phone for the duration of his time in training, and he asked to use a friend whom was with myself and FH's family to call and ask my parents for their blessing! I was actually shocked that he took the time to do this. We have been together since 2007, engaged in 2016, and I just didn't think he would make that traditional decision to ask! I loved it!

Chris asked both my mom and my dad since they are divorced. So I guess thats a more traditional approach.

Traditional! I don’t talk to my dad, so he asked my Mom for her blessing 2 years before he actually proposed.

Traditional, but it was more of asking for their blessing, not their permission. He went to my parents’ house the night before he proposed, and didn’t just ask my stepdad, but also my mom, grandma, and brother.

Traditional. Fiancé and my Dad went to the shooting range together, and he asked there.

Traditional! This was actually very important to me as I see it as a sign of respect. He took put my parents as well as my brothers and asked all of them.

Traditional! I've very close to my family so I wanted my FH to ask my parents, although, he was going to anyways. We don't live in the same town as them and only see them every few months, so he FaceTimed my parents to ask.

Traditional. He had talked to my mom and dad about 2-3 weeks before proposing.

My FH asked my father's permission & shared his serious intentions. My father blessed him after he discussed it with my mother & then he proposed the next day! In this way he showed respect & received his blessings to be my caretaker! ♥

FH asked my dad's permission first. It was important to us that my dad give his blessing!

My mom already knew we were going to get married eventually so he didn't ask her as he knew she'd be excited!

My FH asked my parents before he asked me

My fiancé asked both of my parents for their blessing.

Modern. It wouldn't have changed our minds about getting married, so why ask? But my parents were excited for the news and are enjoying the wedding planning process with me

Traditional (and I’m not a very traditional girl). But to my surprise, my fiancé asked my parents. We got engaged while on vacation in Hawaii. The day after he proposed , I excitedly called my parents to let them know and my mom laughed saying, “We already knew. He called to ask for your father‘s permission.“ I was so very touched that he involved my parents, that it brought me to tears again.

I’m from SoCal and he’s from the south. So I feel like traditions are more maintained in the south than in the west. 💋🐩