Rant - IT IS NOT YOUR DAY

They don't revolve their lives around you and your planning/events does not make them bad friends.

No, you can not pick out a $300 dress without asking your BP their budgets and then get mad because Sally can't afford the dress "even though it is your day."

No you can not skimp on etiquette in the name of "it is your day, you can do what you want."

Your guests will buy you very nice gifts. Some will take off work and rent hotel rooms and cars. Some will buy plane tickets. Some will buy new clothes and have to hire a baby sitter or pet sitter. These people are doing so much for you so no it is not just "your day."

There are things that you get to choose: flowers, decor, your dress, etc. but you do not get to be a tacky bridezilla and expect everyone you know to accept it and not say anything just because it is "your day." Don't buy into that mindset and don't listen to people who tell you that it is okay, because those people won't be dealing with the hurt friends and family members...you will. And people don't forget things quickly.

Preach.

Can we be friends? You're fucking awesome.

*standing ovation*

One more time for the people in the back!

Yaaaaas. This is everything. This needs to be a sticky for sure

Well I just get a little sick of people being divas and thinking that they are queen of the world just because they are getting married! And it is even worse when people tell brides that this behavior is okay! One day these ladies are going to look back and think either a) I am so glad those people were blunt and told me this was not ok

Or b) all of my family and friends are mad and talking about me and I wish I hadn't been so rude.

Agreed. You're getting married. So am I. So is EVERYONE here. It's hardly extraordinary. Most people will do it at least once in their lives. Yes, it's special and beautiful and wonderful, but then it's done and you're married. And I'd much rather be married with friends and family that still like me.

Preach!

Agreed, mostly. I mean, you want to have a backyard wedding? It's your day, do it. You don't want a religious ceremony. It's your day. Do it.

Hosting properly is important, though.

I'm applauding this post. Bless you, OP.

I'm also watching it because I can't wait to see some white knight protest all of these things. That'll be a treat.

I just don't understand how kicking someone out or any of those things could ever be an option. Seriously. Did they not have any morals instilled??? The entitlement I saw in that post about eliminating two bridesmaids made me sick. Some of the brides saying "they should understand" or "it is your day". fuck that! These are people!!! They have feelings and it is just rude to even think about kicking them out. Smdh

Agreed!!! Almost all the details I'm thinking about my guest, not only about me. It's our day to other people. So let's think about them!!!

@ALC the location is one of the things you get to pick...nobody will disagree. But even then you still have to consider your FH so it still isn't just your day. You just don't get to be rude and tacky because "it is your special day"

@jay - surprised that they haven't started in already lol

@meg, they're all in a group chat, formulating a new plan, since you just dismantled all of their usual arguments.

Completely agreed. People don't have to be involved or even attend. Be gracious and courteous hosts.

The ceremony is about you and FH/FW. The reception is for your guests - a thank you for coming. That's when it is no longer about you!

Get over your booty-bothered selves special snowflakes and for God's sake, don't be an ASKHOLE.

OP is a hero, just want to thank all the brides on here for different perspectives

Seriously! Just because you're getting married does NOT give us the right to be a$$holes and disrespectful to the people we hold near to our heart. Grow up!

That phrase always makes me shudder lol. Also when girls say it's their day to be a princess....or pwincess...........

Pssh...FH treats me like a princess most days but if I tried to pull that crap with uninviting guests or kicking people out of the wedding, he'd yank my crown off real quick. We both know that our guests are a huge part of our day...what is the point of having our dream wedding if none of our guests want to share it with us because we were rude as hell.