Question about alcohol

@Jenny

"I don't know why people don't respect seriously held religious beliefs on the matter. If someone's religion is such that they passionately believe alcohol is sin and can't even be around others drinking, then that's that."

I feel sorry for those people. They obviously live by some odd rules....after all Jesus turned water in to wine. Therefore, wine is nectar from the gods.

@Becca...guess I would be drinking water at your wedding. I don't do coffee nor sodas. Gee, it would be a lot of fun. ;-)

If you know 100% that no one else you have invited drinks then don't waste the money. You still haven't said if your wedding is during meal time or not. But I think allowing one or two drinks a person would be fine. If the person drinks then they usually will not even get a buzz off a few drinks so there shouldn't be a problem. What are you going to toast with?

@kathy-but isn't water fun?????

I totally agree with you about the drinking age. Ours is 18 where we live. However we have allowed the kids a beer or two before they turned 18. They never went crazy at the bar on their 18th. It was dinner and a couple beers and called it a night.

@helena, now that you mention it...you may be right. I'll need to apologize to my bottle of Jack when I get home.

Ooh sorry Kathy!! What other drinks do you partake in besides water and alcoholic beverages? Anything else you'd recommend aside from those two? Maybe tea?

Yay fun!!! It's all in the attitude! I appreciate your humor with this topic!

My brother is a big drinker and recently attended a dry wedding. I believe it was a dry wedding for a religious reason (maybe). He complained so much to us. But when the day came he went with it because the groom was his best friend and it was his day. So if you are only inviting people who are close to you and they know how you feel, it wouldn't be a big problem. Ultimately, this is your day. Just know that people might make complaints about it (to you or behind your back). "Properly hosting" as a reason to have alcohol is a load of crap in my personal opinion. If you make the party fun, if you're feeding people and otherwise taking care of them, why is alcohol necessary? The answer is--it's not. If someone wishes to choose alcohol over celebrating with a friend on the happiest day of her life, then it seems that they might need to get their priorities in check. But, alas, if you'd like to still provide drinks for those of your guests who might loosen up a little more after a glass or two of wine, I also second doing beer/wine, but you don't have to have copious amounts of it. You could limit it. And then do interesting "virgin" drinks, like virgin margaritas or piña coladas. Who knows, maybe those will have a placebo effect

Kathy, there are more religions than Christianity.

@Becca...I drink water, wine, gin, vodka, bourbon....

Seriously (not being snarky) that is what I drink. I do not do sodas (blech) and coffee and tea do not like me. ;-) So, it is water all day and wine with dinner (or a cocktail).

@Jenny, that is true....about more religions. BUT, it seems that many "good Christians" use this claim. "We do not drink due to our religion." Which is a BS excuse.

Haha oofda. Well it's good you stay hydrated with the water! And your teeth probably like you for staying away from those sugary drinks!

@Becca, that is true. No sugar teeth problems....nor coffee stains on my teeth. ;-)

@becca-but you have never heard that this bottle of water pairs with your meal nicely........

Lol Helena!!! I have to admit, I've never heard that before!

I've been to plenty of weddings with no alcohol and had a great time. People can still dance, talk and laugh. I say do with out it!

@Kathy, as an atheist, I really don't know much about Christian scripture but I do see so very many different approaches of varying severity and it's hard for me to judge one religious practice over another. If for whatever reason the couple and their families interpreted religious dogma as excluding alcohol completely and passionately followed this "alcohol is sin" belief in their lives (especially to the degree they would leave/avoid situations where it was served), I'd let them be. I agree with you that religion shouldn't be an excuse to save money.

Have a dry wedding. Have good food, good music and a beautiful design.

Wow @JennyB, what do you have against vegetarians?

I've been a vegetarian for ~13 years. I've never lectured anyone. And we are having a variety of foods at my wedding, including meat, because I care about our GUESTS. Just because I don't won't be eating it, doesn't mean I'll deny other people.

Kind of how "non drinkers" should still supply alcohol.

I'm totally on the same page!! Alcohol is a debate with my wedding too. We're not a fan of it, but my family serves alcohol at every event. Especially in weddings. It's the "goal" to get the husband drunk.

@Becca O, the caricature artist sounds great. I would so attend your wedding and give it 5 stars. Sure, I drink at weddings but I don't have to to have a good time. i love your ideas and unconventional spirit.