Question about alcohol

' I don't know why certain things are such an issue on here but in real life I have seen it's not that big of a deal.' No one's going to say it's an issue to your face. I just don't get this whole, 'we do don't drink, we don't like alcohol' so therefore don't want out guests to partake in in attitude. I've said it before but I'm a vegetarian. I don't like meat and have a moral issue with eating it myself. However I would never deny my guests meat meals because of my vegetarianism. I have no problem with them eating meat, it's just something I have chosen myself not to do.

Teresa, your logic is faulty. But you keep on believing it.

Perhaps beer and wine only?

My fiancé and I don't care for alcohol either. & most of our guests won't either since they'll mostly consist of our church congregation. We aren't going to spend money on it it's not worth it.

Still waiting for the party line on why Christians don't drink.....

Again if most of your guests don't drink then you will have a very small bar bill at the end of the night. Great! but don't not give your guests the option.

This is YOUR wedding and YOUR money. The ENTIRE day is for you and your husband. If you say no alcohol then that's what it is. People will either get with it or get loss. I am planning a cash bar because I personally don't drink and I refuse to pay for grown ups to drink.

They don't get how flawed their logic is, not many of our friends drink therefore we don't want to spend the money on alcohol. Um you just said not many of your friends drink therefore if you do have a consumption bar, you won't end up spending much money on alcohol!

Uh oh Lesha. Don't go there!!!!

I've said it before and I'll say it again:

Dry wedding/cash bar threads are like zombies. They always come back, they never die, and they eat your brains.

@Lesha did you read any of the comments to read how that is a selfish and asinine mentality to have for your wedding day?

Just get to the point, you're cheaping out on hosting people you invited to your wedding.

Lesha- That is a very self centered way of thinking. The ceremony is for you...The reception is for your guests.

Get over yourself.

I've been to non alcohol weddings. 1 was because of their Religion the other because of NA group they were part of. Both cases their invites did address it. Thank goddess the food and Dj was good. I can say the weddings were beautiful. We're having wine beer and 2 signiture drinks.

@Jay hit the nail on the head.

@Lesha it is you day, BUT you should still have the decency to host your guests properly. Your guests come to celebrate the union and should get professionally catered food and drinks since they are taking time out of their lives for you. And cause they brought you a gift in some shape or form. OP should just do a consumption bar and since her guests don't drink she won't have a large bill. It's better to give them options instead of nothing.

@Kathy yes, that's what home insurance is for, and yes, I understand that for a backyard wedding and why insurance is necessary, but I think it's a harder case to prove in terms of liability if the event is at another venue

Nice attitude Lesha. You know what? I think adults can also pay for their own honeymoons and towels.

While you're at it, why don't you make them pay for their own food?

This is her wedding and if not being able to drink is an issue for a guest then they should stay home.

Wow Marianne, you must really want these people at your wedding. Either like it or don't come? I hope they put that out there before anyone spends a cent on you for gifts. Make sure to include that line on your invites!!!

Maybe its just me, but in my family, we've always considered the ceremony to be about the couple ("Its your day blah") and the reception is the thank you from the couple to their guests.

Most people enjoy a drink with their dinner, so even if you DON'T drink or don't like alcohol, as a thank you to your loved ones, you provide a catered meal with at least wine and beer, if not spirits as well. All of this at no cost to your guest.

I don't understand the selfish attitude of "If they don't like it they don't have to come." You want these people to come and be a part of one of the best days of your life...why wouldn't you want them to enjoy themselves? Yes, sometimes enjoying oneself involves having a glass of wine or 6. YOU don't have to drink it, but adults should be given the option to partake or not.

@Kristen, no it is not more difficult to prove at a venue. Trust me, I have experience having to represent people (from the insurance side in my past) who found themselves in such a position. It applies to backyards, as well as hosting in a professional venue.

What you are failing to understand is that anyone can sue for any reason. They may not win...BUT...and this is a BIG BUT...they will file a suit, draw everyone that they can in to it and force the defendants to pay for legal representation. They may lose the case, but without the proper coverage, you (not meaning you personally...I use the term you to mean the person who hosted) will be out thousands and thousands of dollars.