Plus ones for every single single guest?

You're not an awful person lol. We're giving plus ones to every single guest, it's just the way it's done in our families.

I've definitely heard that generally you only give plus ones to the wedding party and people that are in "long term" relationships. I only gave everyone a plus one because the wedding is so small that all together that's only 6 plus ones (if they were all to come) for people that had not had a significant other I knew that could be included on the invite. I would say as long as they don't have an issue with not bringing a plus one, your mom shouldn't either.

I only gave plus ones to the single friends that I knew wouldn't know anyone else. My college girlfriends that are single but will all be seated together, will not have a plus one. They'll be fine.

Only those in relationships need to be given a plus one. If your budget and venue allow for extra guests, you can extend a plus one to single guests but it is not required nor has it ever been. You will get opinions on everything during the planning process. Unless they are paying, they don't get a say. Plan your wedding however you want to.

Nope, nope, nope. If they aren't in a relationship and you want a small wedding, why would you give everyone that's single a plus one? I understand what some people are saying on here if those single guest's don't know anyone else, I get that. But if they are coming with their families, I don't see the issue. I went to a wedding by myself but that was because a ton of my college friends were going to be there and it wasn't an issue.

It's your wedding, you make the rules and the guest list. Unless she is paying for the whole thing, she only gets a small amount of a say.

I also used the "if you aren't in a relationship when we send out invites, you don't get a plus one" rule. it might sound a bit harsh, but we weren't just trying to fill a room with warm bodies and we didn't want to pay for a bunch of random people we didn't even know. when I was single, I never thought twice about not getting a plus one. I would have never considered just bringing a random friend just so I wouldn't be alone lol. my husband and I ended up making a few exceptions for people who specifically asked us if they could bring a plus one, including one friend who wanted to bring his brand new girlfriend that he started dating after he got his invite. go figure she ended up being one of our happiest and most excited guests even though we'd never met her before! you are absolutely not obligated to give everyone a plus one, but do consider that it can be done on a case-by-case basis.

I'm doing a plus one for those married, bringing a kid, or in a relationship with someone. We don't want a massive wedding and if someone is completely unattached they can attend an event "alone" surrounded by a bunch of people. I don't think there is a wrong or right way it's a personal and financial choice.

I think what you're doing is completely fine, but I also think it's pretty creepy that your mom is accessing the RSVP list that way.... I was a very involved MOB (at daughter's request) and even I think that is crossing major boundaries. In my opinion, you are not "mean" nor an "awful person." I'd give her a day or two to cool off and then try to talk with her. The purpose of talking would be to make it clear the guest list stands as you and FH decided, and let her know that both accessing the RSVP list in that way and definitely in her reaction, her behavior was over-the-top and not okay. So sorry.... I hope she realizes her behavior was inappropriate and backs off, but either way, stand your ground. You're a grown woman getting married and mom needs to understand and respect boundaries. Good luck!

Sorry to your mom, but I'm 100% on your side with this one. Giving plus ones to people who are not in a relationship? No way! We didn't want random people who we had never met at our wedding, nor did we want to pay loads of extra money per plate. Stick to your guns!