Plus ones for every single single guest?

You don't have to extend plus ones to everyone! Especially, since you want a smaller wedding, if you do that, you will have a large wedding. Plain and simple. As long as they know someone there, you should be fine. Even if they don't, you don't have to extend a plus one. You can seat them at a table with others that they might enjoy being with. We only extended plus ones to bridal party, family and close friends, but they had to be in a relationship. No relationship, no plus one.

Honestly unless you have the budget for it, I dont see why you need to invite people you wont even know.

only married people get to bring their spouse to my wedding unless they are in the wedding party or have been together many years.

Im only giving plus ones to people who are in serious relationships or wont know many people at our wedding. But if they’re a family a member who is single, I’m not going to give them one, they’ll know more than enough people that it wouldn’t be weird for them

We are not allowing single people a plus one unless they 1) are in a relationship or 2) wont know anyone else there like a coworker for example. I'm sorry but weddings are too expense to spend money on random people we don't know. Especially since some of our own family/ friends aren't invited due to costs.


I guess if she is okay paying for all of the extra guests then ok (I still think a wedding should be more of an intimate gathering) but otherwise, I would stick with the original decision. Good luck!

The way you did it is completely fine. You have to draw a line somewhere. Is your mother helping to pay for the wedding? If not, tell her to get off your website unless she is rsvping for herself and who you invite us up to you and your FH. Your mom is being unreasonable

We have a few single people coming to our wedding, but being that they’re all friends with each other, no need to add plus ones. Now if it’s the case where you’re inviting someone that may not know anyone else at the wedding, maybe give them a +1 so they can feel more comfortable.

Your mom is in the wrong here. Plus ones for single guests are not required for you to give. She'll get over it!

Sounds a whole lot like my mom! Currently, she is trying to talk me out of my (DREAM) outdoor wedding bc of the amount of money that will be spent on the wedding dress. And bugs. And weather. She keeps trying to convince me to do it in a tent, but NO! That's not what I want!
But back to you!
So I crossed this bridge with my mom too. She thought it was ridiculous that not everyone had a plus one. IMO, if my single guest knows more than two people at the event, I will not include a plus one for them. My fiance and I are paying for this wedding, so we had to draw the line somewhere. As far as dealing with your mom, I would calmly explain to her that this is YOUR wedding- your one shot at beginning your life with your future husband. She has already had her event (if she had one), and YOU are the bride calling the shots for YOUR EVENT. It wouldn't hurt to find some sort of common ground with her on this issue, but if money is the problem I would explain to her that you have a budget and unless mom wants to contribute, the guest list is staying as-is.

We didn't give any single people plus ones unless they were in the wedding party.

This is you and your FH's wedding! Whatever your vision is for the day is how it should be. A guest list with a minimal amount of single guests - sure. However, once that list reaches a certain number - oh noooo!! Even if you wanted to extend a plus one to every single guest, larger guest lists can make this decision very difficult. I am about to send out my STD's and had encountered this very dilemma. We are extending plus ones to those that we know are in long term relationships or we've met the significant other.

I only did plus 1 for couples that I know who have been together 4 a while.. everyone else no plus 1 cuz they are coming with ppl already invited

Its your wedding not hers tell her to myob

I definitely don't think you're being unreasonable. If people were in relationships at the time invites were mailed, then we included their significant other, but other than that we only gave a plus one to one person (my great aunt that can't travel very well by herself).

It's your wedding! I don't think not giving every single person a plus one is unreasonable. My FH and I are giving everyone a plus one but that's us.

No one in my wedding has a plus one unless they are married or engaged. The rule my fiancé and I are using it no strangers at our wedding. If we both haven’t met them, why would we buy them dinner? Your not awful, just practical. Remember it’s your day, do or don’t do what you want

I agree with you. You aren’t Awful. You just sticking to your numbers

I was going through the same dilemma. Most of our guests will know at least 5 people at the wedding, so I think they will be comfortable. If we really believe there will be people that are lonely, we will add the plus one. I invited 2 of my coworkers and was wondering if I should add a plus one for spouses. I ended up adding the 2nd coworker as a +1 for the 1st. Our list is already at about 130 and I feel like I want a list of people I know and love and that I know will appreciate my day with me.

You absolutely do not have to give everyone a plus one. Several of my cousins are coming, and two of them aren't in relationships - I only gave one of them a plus one, because he is in the bridal party, and my other cousin doesn't care less, as our entire family will be there. We are having a small wedding, 60-70 people, and invited some girls at work I became close to only recently (wedding is two months away). None of them have plus ones except the one who is engaged (which is technically not a plus one). All of them are thrilled to come and haven't given me any grief over plus ones. It's your wedding, you can do as you please. Everyone is an adult I think they can get through one event without needing a buddy lol.

Your mother has boundary issues.

I did not give any single guests a plus one. Sorry, but I'm not paying thousands just so that they can bring their rando Tinder dates.

I think you have every right to do what is best for you. I didn’t give plus ones to people who aren’t in relationships or in a new relationship with someone we’ve never meet. They can choose to not come and I’m fine with that. We have a budget to stick to and my wedding isn’t a free date for them. I know that’s an unpopular opinion, we have also been told so by my FMIL but we are paying, it’s our wedding our rules.