Plus ones for every single single guest?

I second this! Seems to be very odd that she went and did this. Perhaps an aunt complained to her? I don't know why she would even think to do this... very peculiar

It's your wedding. If she is paying for the extra people then add them, if not then she shouldn't complain about it and needs to respect you and your FH's decision.

Our wedding is fairly large - 180 guests were invited. Even after the RSVPs came, there were still 160 main guests. We cannot afford for every single, single person to have a plus one. The only ones that we gave plus 1s were the wedding party and married couples. In the case of married couples, we addressed them both on the invitation. There aren't many singles invited that don't know anyone in our case. Our friend groups are fairly large and co-mingled, so no one was necessarily left out. If you have an 'oddball' invite who wouldn't know many people, I would definitely give them a plus one.

Something we did try was having a wait list for plus 1s if you are trying to keep your numbers consistent. Bringing in a plus 1 for someone when your main invitees can't attend works well. However, at the end of the day, remember it is YOUR WEDDING. Do whatever you think works best for you and your honey.

We gave all those who were single a plus one. We just wanted everyone to be comfortable. Some might choose not to bring anyone, but wanted to give them the option.

We haven't given everyone plus ones. We've said we want people who mean a lot to us at the wedding and not strangers. Giving people plus ones that you don't know and having them forever in your Wedding Photos.... I don't think that's a good idea. They'll forget about the day afterwards but you will always have them in your photos. That's my take on this.

I'm with you on this one. Weddings are expensive. When I was single, I went to probably 6-9 weddings solo, including ones where I was given a plus one and declined. IMO, why should a couple getting married need to spend an extra $100 on someone they don't know and who has no significant meaning to anyone at their wedding? Also, I'm sure there were weddings that the couple invited me to because I was just one person, and if I had needed a friend with me they might have not had the space for two more guests. At most of those weddings I knew just the couple or maybe had met 1-2 other people a time or two before, but I still had a great time, as the couple made an effort to seat me with people with common interests, and I made friends pretty quickly. Plus if I had had a date at those weddings, I would have been responsible for making sure my date had a good time (and they'd know even fewer people that I did), and it would have squashed my opportunity to meet and dance with the other single hotties at the wedding!

TBH, I think plus ones are just crap. We're giving two relatives of my FH a plus one because his mom asked us to, and I'm not thrilled about it, but his family is chipping in more than enough to cover them. Now, I do think it's appropriate to invite the partner of a guest who is in a serious relationship (even if you haven't met their SO before) because that other person is likely to enhance the experience of your intended guest. Once my FH and I were dating and living together, I would have been pretty lonely and sad to go to a wedding without him. If someone is completely single, dating around, or a new relationship though, they can go to a wedding solo just fine.

I think your mom's heart is in the right place, but I can imagine her reaction is a little stressful to deal with! She may not realize just how common it is to be choosey on plus ones. Personally, when I was single, going to a wedding without a partner was always a blast! I don't think your single friends will mind as long as there are other singles to mingle and dance with. You're not an awful person. It's your party and you can do what you want to! I am literally planning this wedding alone (except my FH is planning the food and bar) and it's been smooth and stress free! If there's "too many cooks in the kitchen", it robs you of an experience that could actually be fun! I'm sorry it has become stressful, but try not to stress. I think in this day and age, your approach is much more common. We have plus ones for some single people, but not for all. We DO have plus ones for long term relationships. And people who are flying thousands of miles to get here are allowed to bring kids, but the local friends aren't. They can find a babysitter.

You make the rules.

Only if they ask and I have the availability.

Oh man I guess my mom was right people do type in other names to see who is invited or not. My mom talked me out of online RSVP's for this reason. Only in this case it's your mom snooping and being upset. We did not give anyone a plus one unless they were in a serious relationship and/or lived together. We didn't even give co-workers a plus one and a couple of them we knew might be dating someone. Our thought if we hadn't meet them in the time we were dating or mailed out the invitation then they didn't need to be at the wedding. I totally agree on not having to give plus ones to family who will know other family. Sorry it's your mom giving you the problem.