Overdone and over it?

Bridesmaid proposals. I have two that are still bugging me about me proposing to them. They have their dress and the wedding is next month. I am not spending anymore money to give you a fancy proposal you can go brag on Twitter about. I am already spending money on their robes, hotels, nails, and food the day of. I shouldn't be expected to do this much for bridesmaids when ya know, the wedding is more important for me to think about.

@Melissa- I can't believe they are asking for the proposal!!! I didn't realize they were a thing until I saw them on pinterest.

I am over destination weddings. I had to take off work and spend loads of money so that my friend could have a more affordable wedding.

I also dislike when people overly try to be "different." I video weddings and have been to countless and they are all basically the same.

Things I'm over at weddings- people that are too "cool" to dance to just sit and glower, my racist, homophobic uncle making inappropriate comments, brides feeling like they have to lose weight for their wedding to "fit in their dress" (like no, the dress is made to fit to you).

Things I'm not over- decor of any kind that te couple chooses for any reason, trendy, Pinterest-y or not. Including rustic feel, beach themed, Disney, Harry Potter, etc. All of these are so fun to me, and I love little elements of each of them!

Black Tie Optional... pick one, it's black tie or it's not.

Black Tie Optional? That is one I have never heard of.

Last night I opened up the box with my table runners in them. They were supposed to be blush, they are rose gold. I guess I am over my own decorations now.....lol

Oops I have some of these. I am rustic but no burlap! Its more vintage country. I also am wearing boots, as is my wedding party. I grew up in the sticks, as did almost all my wedding party.

I am suuuuuper over adults wearing flower crowns.

Camo on wedding party. I seen ALOT of people do it for prom in high school because it was just a school dance. At weddings I think it looks ridiculous. I have yet to see a wedding dress in camo that looks nice.

I hate anything hunting themed. Also pictures with the bridesmaids in some cute robes, they all look the same. Oh and the getting ready pics- I cant stand the typical shots. Why does everyone take pics with their shoes and the ring?

It really is weird that people 'hate' navy blue suits. ??? like black is the only color he can wear? FH wanted navy blue. I figure, it should be his choice what he wears on a day he's spending $thousands-K to host others.

Chalkboards, speeches, and childish themes

Vow renewals as the 'real wedding they never had.' I don't know why. It just rubs me the wrong way. I mean, we plan to have a kickin' ass anniversary party in a few years but we're happy with our intimate wedding ceremony we'll be having in November and we'd never consider it to be anything less just because it's the two of us. If you want the bigger party, push your date out, and plan for it.

Mine might be an UO.

Tbh this thread is kind of gross to me. Like we're not disagreeing about important things such as guest comfort and properly hosting, this thread is purely bashing people's stylistic choices.

I am wearing a blush wedding dress and wearing a (half) flower crown, which clearly people dislike. Whatever.

Honestly I just don't see what good this thread does. Most threads will educate people or at the very least are somewhat helpful. This one is just nasty, imo.

I came in here knowing people would list some if the things I'm doing for our wedding. I'm not upset that they don't like my sign or decor or whatever. I don't like some of their things either but they're not upset. It's just a thread that lets people vent about what they see ALL. THE. TIME. The people that hate rustic won't go onto a rustic BAM. I won't insult your chalkboard. We won't insult your blush dress. No one is being singled out or attacked. It's just objects we've seen and don't like. You can't tell me you've never seen a shoe that you thought was ugly. That's a stylistic choice too

Of course I've seen ugly wedding shoes and decor I personally would never choose. The difference is that I'm not making a thread about it and openly stating what I think is ugly. It's just unnecessary.

We would never tell a person their wedding anything is ugly. And no one here has said any of this decor is ugly. They said they didn't like it. There's a difference. I think chalkboards can be cute but I still don't like them. I love my boots but I don't want them in my wedding party. Tell me how that's rude? If you don't want to join then don't but it isn't mean spirited. I painted wine bottles and dipped the bottoms in gold glitter. You can bet your buttons someone reading this is cringing but I think they're beautiful. No hurt feelings

This thread is really nothing to get upset about. For me this post was very helpful and informative. I made this thread knowing for a fact that many of the things I'm doing would be on this list. And look at that. Like 90% of comments mentioned rustic. Am I offended? Not one bit! However, I have reconsidered the couple of Mason jars that I was thinking about including after hearing a few opinions on them. So this thread helped me! There were several comments on hosting guests properly, being considerate of your guests time, or your bridal parties budget, and many other non style related issues. Therefor it is not "purely bashing people's stylistic choices." yes many people stated how they are tired of seeing certain styles, but that's their opinion. Everyone has one, and we don't all have to agree. It's pretty silly to get upset about people saying they don't like a certain style that they see everywhere. They are simply answering the question.

The last wedding I went to was a vow renewal and it was probably like 6 years ago. LOL. I agree with all of you guys, rustic can be beautiful, but that seems to be the only thing now. And it's time for something else

Lol ok I'm not going to argue about this because clearly we have very different opinions on the intent of this thread, and that's ok! You do you. If you want to comment on here that you think chalkboards are tacky at weddings and that makes you feel better to write it out, then okay.

My only point was that I thought this thread was unnecessary and kind of hurtful in my opinion.

No one is arguing. I'm sorry that you think it's hurtful, but most people on here realize that everyone is just sharing their opinions and there's nothing wrong with that. I'm not sure if you actually read all of the comments because you don't seem like you have an accurate idea of what people were discussing, but it was very helpful to me and it gave me things to think about for my wedding. If you don't like a post you always have the choice to just skip over it and go to one that is more uplifting or supportive. A pp earlier gave a great idea to another person who got worked up over people opinions and suggested that they make another thread talking about wedding elements that they do like and then you can see the positive side of this discussion. For me, I had a pretty good idea of the thing people like at weddings and I wanted to know what types of things I should avoid. And I got really helpful responses. Sorry that you didn't find it as helpful, but I would love to participate in a thread about our favorite wedding elements