Overdone and over it?

Why would any of you avoid doing a BAM because of this thread? You'll never find a single negative comment on a BAM. Also OP asked what *you* (as in each individual) don't like but as a guest I don't care what you do as long as I got food and booze. I'm celebrating the bride and groom, not their burlap mason jars.

LOL at everyone getting offended.

Who gives a flying fuck what trends people are tired of seeing. If that's what you want to do, do it. My Lordy!!! As long as you're feeding your guests, not making them pay for alcohol at your wedding, not asking them to pay for your honeymoon and there's a seat for everyone's ass .. go to town with whatever it is you want to do. Stop getting all up in arms.

Also stop calling people who are having big fancy weddings "prissy" and "stuffy". I'm neither of the two. I am also doing the basic bitch color scheme of navy, burgundy, dusty rose and gold. Anddd I love watercolor floral print. How trendy is that shit?? And guess what? I don't care if someone doesn't like it and I'm also not here whining about it either.

I think big fancy weddings are prissy and stuffy though. I don't necessarily think the people throwing them are. I think it's a bit hypocritical to basically have a whole thread slamming rustic weddings and telling people to not get offended by it, but when a few people post that they're not a fan of big fancy weddings then we need to cut it the fuck out.

There is nothing at all hypocritical about what I said at all. You should probably look up the definition of what that word actually means before you try to use it against me. I'm just telling you that I'm having that and I'm neither of the two words I mentioned. Here's the difference between you and I .. I don't give a shit if you think it's stuffy or prissy. But I'm not here whining about it.

But my real question is this .. Why do you care?? You love what you're doing? Good for you. Who cares what people on the internet say.

ETA: someone literally said "prissy persons wedding" soooo

@ksquared I don't think anyone is slamming them they are just saying that it's not their style and that it has been overdone (thanks to Pinterest). Fancy weddings aren't your cup of tea either and that's okay. I'm not taking any offense to what anyone is saying on here. It's just personal preference. And I fully plan on posting my BAM. I was being sarcastic in my last post.

ETA: I'm having a more formal "prissy" wedding but at least it's going to have a fully open bar, great dancing music, and tons of food!

Eh, I think I have the definition of hypocritical down pat. For the record, I never called people throwing large elegant weddings stuffy or prissy. I get that it may be their style but it's not mine. Just as it seems rustic isn't a lot of people's style. I'm not taking offense though so I'm not sure why you are because some rando on the internet isn't a fan of your style of wedding.

Lmao ok. Have a good day.

Bridesmaid proposals, bridesmaid matching outfits, long destination bachelorette parties, engagement parties in general, prioritizing the dress over the guests, rehearsal dinners that are a second wedding reception,

Oh. And those DREADED chalkboard signs. Your guests are not incompetent. They know what a bar is.

I hate burlap , the texture of it makes me cringe, it's like hairy ha.

Most of the weddings I have been to have served two different types of meals:

-BBQ

-fruit, veggies, chicken fingers, and mashed potatoes (not a meal. If I'm at your wedding I want dinner.)

I am so over the new standard wedding food where I am.

I'm also not a big fan of the sparkler send off but that's because sparklers freak me out. I can't imagine wanting to walk down a path of fire in my wedding dress.

My comment is the first one on this thread and called out rustic weddings. It literally says that some people do it well but it's overbearing when looking for inspo pics.

This thread is just comparing opinions and preferences. If you can't handle this thread you probably can't handle this forum.

Grown people using the words wifey/hubby... no thanks!

@H yes to the ugly carpet!!

Omg yes the carpets! And then they put a tiny hardwood floor square thing for the dancefloor. Why not have the whole room be hardwood so the dance floor can naturally be larger? I don't care if someone's wedding is that way, I just don't understand why venues do that.

I agree THE CARPET!!! Venue I like has all hardwoods but there are so many places I'm like well crap this bright red carpet doesn't match my beach theme....

Also (sorry if this offends people) blush pink. I used to sell bridesmaids dresses and literally 9 out of my 10 brides wanted blush pink. Don't get me wrong it's really pretty and before I worked there, I wanted it. But I've seen it done too much.

Signs for everything. Where to choose to sit, what's to drink. I get a few signs can be cute but come on I don't need a sign to tell me this is the cupcake table.

Carpet is my enemy! There was a beautiful venue just down the street from our church that was a great price- then I saw the carpet and walked right out. Ewwww

Bride tribe, Rustic,

I didn't shit on anyone's wedding, BTW, rustic or not?

And I've been to a few weddings where guest hosting seemed to be the least thing, on the couples' list of importance.

Just tried to defend my choice and the choice of many others that I know.

I don't know why guests being extremely well hosted (food/drink), with fabulous service and entertainment in a formal setting would become an object of such hatred.

Just politely decline the invitation, so people don't have to spend over $200 trying to host your prissy/stuffy hating self.

Someone mentioned tying knots, lol. We are tying a unity (square) knot, but that's because we met at a Boy Scout camp, where I taught knot tying. (We actually wanted unity bonfire, but the venue said no, lol.) It makes sense with our personalities and story, but can totally see how it could be out of place at someone else's wedding.

I'm not a fan of the cake toppers with the bride dragging the groom, the bride dragging the groom away from a video game, anything that implies "game over" for the groom, etc. Gross. I also hate all the line dances (electric slide, chicken dance, etc). We're getting around that by having a jazz trio.

ETA spelling is hard before coffee lololol