My sister refuses to wear Proper Wedding Attire

I also would never, under any circumstances, wear a creamy yellow gown with plum flowers on it.

Ever.

I would think saying, "Hey sis, your tits are showing so you can't be in these pictures" will, in fact, highlight the OP's rudeness.

Crystal, I hardly think anyone is trying to shame her, people are just shocked.

I mean, I wouldn't care if my sister showed up in a burlap sac or a thong bathing suit, it's significantly more important to me that she is there.

SO when it's obvious that someone doesn't care about their own sister, it's a little sad and shocking to people who care about their family.

I can understand your frustration, but at the end of the day, you cannot dictate what other people will wear. If she wears something horribly tacky or revealing, well... I think she will just embarrass herself, not you. Really... I wouldn't add this to your list of things to stress about. It is just not worth it.

"doing special little duties on our wedding day in lieu of gifts." What the...

You must have a family of saints if they're putting up with that attitude. They don't have to buy you gifts and you don't get to dictate what tasks they can perform instead of buying gifts.

And everyone else hit the nail on the head with respect to your sister. She won't wear anything you approve of? Your religious friends disapproved of her outfit? That's all just crazy. I don't always love what my friends or family wear, but I would never have the audacity to dictate how they dress. Bride =/= Dictator. Just because it's your wedding doesn't mean you get to treat your sister so poorly. I would rather have my sister show up to my wedding wearing her most revealing clubbing outfit than not show up at all. If what your sister wears is so important to you that you would rather not have her at the ceremony, you are the one who needs help.

I wanted to add that many guests at the wedding asked me how they should dress or what they should wear. My response was always.... whatever makes you comfortable! I wanted the people I loved to be there celebrating with me. It would not matter to me if they were in a ballgown, jeans, or a sundress. That is not what matters.

Wow wow wow, I just read this from the "how many people did you invite" thread. You are having the ultimate tiered wedding and reception. You are truly being a wedding Nazi and bridezilla. Have none of your friends and family told you this yet? I just can't get over that you have "waiting list" and people know about it! This isn't how this works, this isn't how any of this works ...

We have room for 50 family members & 10 friends....

No reply by a certain date & we will be inviting others that are on a waiting list to come in their place...these are people that would be coming to just the reception after dinner only or just to the ceremony, knowing that we have limited seating for dinner...I have talked to a lot of them, they are just waiting for a cancellation or no show so they can be there to fill the seat & share our special day...

There are many people who do not RSVP, I just delete them from the list...

EVERYONE that will have a seat will have a placecard...no placecard, no seat for dinner....no exceptions....if they can't be considerate enough to respond, I am not paying for their meal & exclude someone else that really wants to be there....family can be so rude, much more than friends...

I'm going to play the devils advocate here and ask people what they would suggest a bride do if a guest showed up in a outfit that wasn't even legal coverage? Or barely legal?

Or what if a outfit is so extreme that a church or wedding venue wants the bride to get the person leave?

It's very easy to just say that the bride can't control what her sister does, but the wedding venue may not see it that way.

Though I think it's reasonable for a bride to just look at it as 'I can't do anything, so it's on her not me' come the day of the wedding she may be held responsible and have people coming to her to try and get her to take care of the situation. I had my wedding at a church with little to no rules, all fine as long as we didn't' burn the place down. Not everyone is in that situation.

Is there anyone that can maybe take her shopping for a wedding outfit? If your sister is willing to take a escorted shopping trip, that may be a option. Good luck!

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@Crystal in cali, so nobody should say that she is wrong for telling her sister that she can't come to her wedding because her outfit isn't good enough for Jesus, who hung out with literal prostitutes?

My sister's are bridesmaids (you know, actual wedding party members whose outfits I get to have an opinion on) and unless one of them wanted to wear just pasties, I would have them in my wedding no matter what they wore.

@StitchingBride, OP didn't say that the venue had rules about attire. If that was the only reason, no one would have commented the way they did. Your hypothetical situation is just that - hypothetical. She simply does not like the way her sister dresses and finds it embarrassing. It's obvious from the description of the outfit that she is covered enough not to be arrested for indecent exposure.

ETA: I do think if a venue, church, etc. has modesty or attire rules, that should be communicated to the guests in advance. And no, there is no such thing as "legal coverage"

Stitchingbride Please pardon my ignorance but what is "legal coverage?" Also, I am fairly certain that no reputable venue, religious or otherwise would have the bride ask someone to leave because of their attire.

Legal coverage?

I need a glass of wine after drinking this....

ETA: READING this. This is a ridiculous thread.

Legal coverage is covering nipples and vag, I believe. But I'm no lawyer.

Just tell her if she doesn't wear what you want, she has to come wearing nothing at all. That'll show her!

Excuse me while I chase down my eyeballs...again. @.@

I need wine. . And lots of it.

Brides should not be bouncers at their weddings. If she shows up in three bandaids, I'm sure someone from the venue, or the OP's designated 'preacher' will show her out.

Celia- A bandaid down there? Ouch...

There are no words for this poster. She commented on another thread, not only is she having a tiered wedding but also a B list. She was at least kind enough to let them know they were B listed. They are all anxiously awaiting their FB invite when someone declines.

Lets all show up to OP's wedding wearing three Band-Aids each.