My sister refuses to wear Proper Wedding Attire

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I just saw your response on this thread. No offense, but you sound like a jerk. You are demanding people wear a certain color to your wedding AND B-listing guests. No one in your life has slapped you and told you how terrible both these ideas are?!

Oh god, i just noticed this wasnt even for a bridal party. forget everything i said. your guests are not props.

b-listing guests, inviting people to the reception and not the ceremony and vice-versa, demanding guests wear specific colors... good lord. its too early for this shit.

For what it's worth, I don't associate myself with this impostor Faith.

OMG @Jersey Jen I just went back and read that..what.the.fuck.

Holier fuck. What is wrong with you?

The first few comments reacting to this scared me. I'm glad more people with my opinion came in on this one.

Is she your bridesmaid? No. Why are you "approving" what everyone is wearing? And you want to uninvite her because she doesn't want to perfectly match your color scheme? You expect all 60 people to match your wedding? I'm sure you will come out and call us all rude bitches, but I mean this whole heartedly when I say that your expectations are way too high and your attitude about this whole wedding is ridiculous and you need to check yourself. Even the royal wedding didn't pull this shit.

You can't dictate what your guests can wear. They don't have to adhere to your colour scheme.

You also can't "punish" your sister for not wearing what you approve of by not inviting her to your ceremony. She's your sister not a disobedient child.

All you can do is request that your guests dress appropriately and respectfully for the occasion.

Everything PP said is on point. I just couldn't bring myself to say it so directly at 3:34am

Who cares what the program passer (is that even a thing) is wearing?

"Program passer" lol.

Whoa, Sweetie! Take a breath. Then another. Then decide what's more important to you--your family and friends or the color scheme.

If someone told me what i had to wear, I would be so much not nicer than your sister. But then I'm funny like that.

Hope you reconsider and stop being such a Bossy Bosserson. Enjoy your wedding (meant sincerely)

MissEtoMrsB, that is exactly what we did for SS's busty/flaunty gf to wear in church!

OP, you have crossed a line so far you can't even see the line anymore! You're giving guests a color scheme and "little duties," but they don't get the honor of standing beside you. Nope nope nope. Let your sister wear what she wants (if she looks ridiculous, that's on her, not you). Your guests are not props; they don't need to fit into any mold that you create. This is absurd.

My friend and I were talking about that one day. She says her sister wouldn't be caught dead in a dress so I would be moh not her sister. I was like oh fantastic lol not that I wouldn't want to be moh it's just she isn't engaged and if she plans on marrying her bf now I'll have a hard time coming up with a speech

I have to admit I didn't read much beyond your original post and a few comments. Because they made me a little nauseous. Especially yours, since you try so hard to sound like Miss Manners but you really sound more like her evil twin when the bubbles rise.

You need to get over yourself, and you need to do it soon. These people are your friends and family, not servants or props. They don't have to 'comply' with anything, they don't need to have 'special little duties", and they don't need to help in any way. YOU are supposed to host THEM, and if your sister ruins your tableau, you might want to ask yourself why she is so demonstrative in what you consider to be disrespect for you.

Stop being a diva, start being grateful that you even HAVE friends and family (who apparently have nerves of steel and patience of saints...) Or you'll be sitting in an empty room.

But at least the color scheme will be on point.

Besides what the previous posters have said. Just because she gets your approval on an outfit, doesn't mean it's the one she will show up in. I understand that any of us may be embarrassed by what someone wears but the point is there's a separation you're not acknowledging. They are individuals and not an extension of yourself. Your embarrassment should be tendered with compassion for them not self aggrandizement.

Hoooooooooly cow. Alright. You do not have the right to dictate what your guests wear. Also, you don't get to hand out "duties" for your non bridal party guests to "comply" with. Honestly this sounds absolutely insane to me.

I just cannot believe you would un-invite your own SISTER because of how she dresses. That is one of the most ugly things I have ever read on here, and that's saying a lot.

FFS. Jesus doesn't care how short your sister's dress is.

Who cares if your friends talk? They sound like the kind of people who enjoy bitching about other people.

Take a chill pill. She isn't in your bridal party, just let her wear what she wants, she is your effing sister.

Do you even like your sister? It certainly doesn't sound like it. While it's certainly your decision if you'd like her to participate in your ceremony, and I can understand being embarrassed if she shows up in "hooker clothes" whatever that means, she is still your sister and the fact that you would completely uninvite her from the ceremony AND dinner solely based on her outfit is so appalling to me