My sister refuses to wear Proper Wedding Attire

If I were your sister, I'd tell you to go fuck yourself. The fact that she still WANTS to be a part of your wedding makes her seem like an amazing person, seriously.

I strongly suggest you reassess your priorities and reconsider your requirements for having her as just a guest at your ceremony. You don't get to decide what she wears as a guest. That's her decision as an adult, SHE has ownership of HER body.

If it bothers you that much OP, skip the meanness of telling her she isn't invited, and just invite her as a guest. It sounds like you have made up your mind already. You can't make her wear what she doesn't want to wear. And the conversation you're considering having is pretty hateful. "Do what I want or you can't come?" I would never say that to my sister. Her feelings would be so hurt. Just invite her as a guest if she can't "comply".

OMG you totally made my day @Spazzytazi!!

Maybe your sister dressing like a hooker is appropriate. Jesus hung out with prostitutes, after all.

(please everyone see sarcasm and don't let this start a religious argument)

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I can’t get over your hypocrisy in trying to justify your sister not wearing the ensemble of her choice under the pretense of “religious conviction.” This type of judgmental attitude is what drives people away from the church. Show love instead.

#creamcoloredweddingslave

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You sound like a snot.

You don't get to 'approve' of your guests attire.

OP, my Mom and I weren't invited to my cousin's wedding, but she B- listed MOST of her guests because she wanted to keep her ceremony super intimate (there were under 70 invited anyway). Well, ALL of them were extremely upset about this! And the A-listed ones felt very awkward! My cousin also barred her own MOTHER from taking part!! Her Mom had to watch the ceremony from OUTSIDE of the church because of religious reasons. I don't like bashing religions, I'm Catholic myself, but there are just some lines religion crosses that I would NEVER stand for! Barring a family member from a ceremony is HURTFUL and WRONG. No. Just no.

Also, holy crap the slut shaming!!! It is not your God-given duty to correct the wardrobe choices of another grown ass woman. If my sister (if I even had one) was a freaking nudist she'd STILL be invited to the ceremony!

I just can't get past the 'special little duties' and OP your being a dick.

I'm still confused about how boobs aren't good clean fun. Who doesn't like boobs? #hater

Also. Stop slut shaming your sister. That is 'distasteful and disgusting'

She's passing out programs not communion. Have some chill.

Alicia ftw!

I don't understand making your guest wear something specific....A guest of mine said she was going to wear black and my brother said he wanted to wear jeans! Guess what I said? I said "okay! Sound good, I can't wait". Who cares? It's just clothes.

Guess how my fsil and fss (who are standing up with fh) are doing their hair for my wedding? They're having mohawks and dying them the colors of the wedding. Guess what? I don't care. Know why? Because it's not about what they're wearing or how they're doing their hair. It's about the vows that will be made that day, between myself and my future husband. From this post, it sounds like you priorities are seriously messed up, OP. No one will be there for your sister and the focus will be on you.

Not gonna lie. I've done this. Oops.

Let her wear what she wants. why start a huge fight over this? be grateful she shows up at all.

"Special little duties" ew. "Comply" who do you think you are?

I feel you here....but yeah...you can't force her to wear anything. I would focus on the things that you can control. What you can control is how many pictures she's in. It's probably rude, but I think you're past that now and you can get away with this without people noticing or making it awkward.

It sound's like you're getting a lot of heat over your priorities on this thread because your choices are uncouth and not aligned with the norm, but just remember that no one should make you feel bad or shame you for how you choose to execute your wedding. Likewise, you should probably take that same attitude toward your sister.