Lynnie
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My fiancé(e) is as involved in planning as I am - true or false?

Lynnie, on August 27, 2019 at 11:39 AM

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Has your fiancé(e) been carrying the weight evenly when it comes to wedding planning? Or are they not quite as involved? "My fiancé(e) is as involved in planning as I am" - true or false? Next Question: Finding my wedding vendors has been easy Back to the Beginning: True or False?

Has your fiancé(e) been carrying the weight evenly when it comes to wedding planning? Or are they not quite as involved?

"My fiancé(e) is as involved in planning as I am" - true or false?


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Back to the Beginning: True or False?

184 Comments

  • Keri
    Expert November 2019
    Keri ·
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    False. He wanted to see the venue and try the food. He is planning the honeymoon though Smiley smile
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  • Julie
    VIP February 2020
    Julie ·
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    The falsest statement ever. He went to the tasting (duh)
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  • Kelisa
    Dedicated November 2020
    Kelisa ·
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    False lol. I ask his input and we compromise about things dealing with the wedding, but I'm the planner.

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  • Rochelle-Anne
    Dedicated September 2021
    Rochelle-Anne ·
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    True. And it wish it weren’t the case. Lol. But to be fair...he’s helping me stay focused and not become a bridezilla.
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  • R
    Just Said Yes May 2021
    Rhonda ·
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    True. Unbelievable but he is going right along with me. Not as enthused I'm sure, lol.

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  • A
    Expert August 2019
    Aliciabilly2019 ·
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    Lmao ...ive been doing all the wedding planning myself he has no clue what hes walking into and thats how he wanted it ...he had say in 2 things well sorry 3 if you include his tux but he didnt get to pick the color lol ...he helped pick out wedding favors and i picked out centerpieces then my lady who's making them sent me a text one night and sent me something else shed been working on i liked it showed it to him he loved it so we went with that one and his tux i told him idc what it looks like as long as it doesnt have tails and is charcoal grey lol ...other then that he has not wanted to help and has let ne do everything else ...so i got him something special for our wedding to say thank you bc he wanted choc and peanut butter cake and some people are allergic to peanuts so i did a grooms cake with his choc cake and peanut butter buttercream frosting for him with Reeses PB cup chunks and his fav football team miami dolphins so hell be so happy cant wait to see his reaction 😁
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  • Diana
    VIP December 2019
    Diana ·
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    False!! He’s helped with every step of the way!!!
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  • Shireen
    Devoted September 2020
    Shireen ·
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    False!!! He does ask about it and gives his input when I ask but it is overwhelming all of the planning so he just says whatever you want babe lol and I am ok with that.
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  • H
    Super September 2019
    H ·
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    False-ish. I usually am the one who brings everything up, but once we start talking about whatever it is I bring up, his ideas usually start spilling out from there.
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  • Chloe
    Devoted October 2020
    Chloe ·
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    False lol. We go to all planning meetings together and we discuss things of course but he is not actively planning anything hahah!
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  • J
    Dedicated June 2021
    Jasmyn ·
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    True! We’re a team in all aspects of life including wedding planning ☺️
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  • Christina
    Dedicated October 2021
    Christina ·
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    False! It’s kind of our dynamic anyways- I’m the planner, he’s happy with whatever. But specifically with the wedding, I wanted to elope and he wanted an actually wedding SO he gets the wedding I get to make all the choices. The only thing he cares about is wearing his work boots that day (he promises to get a new pair for it 🙄) I’ve tried to fight that but if it’s his only wish, I am happy to let it go.
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  • Jessica
    VIP October 2019
    Jessica ·
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    I gave mine 3 tasks.... so far I've had to do the other 2.
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  • Jennifer
    VIP October 2021
    Jennifer ·
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    No, he is NOT. He wants things “X” way, yet won’t help. I get he’s suppppper busy- and stressed- but he can’t have the “I’m outta this, and you picked whatever without me/my day & now I’m going to complain!”.

    I have tried the talk about it on a certain day of the week, I’ve tried once a month, I’ve tried wait till HE brings it up- and we are behind where I am comfortable on in certain things, I’ve tried being a bit@h, I’ve tried bribery- helllllo lingerie, I’ve even tried the cute “So, you’re getting married Quiz book”. And it doesn’t matter, sigh.

    Any advice?
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  • Mrs. H
    Master September 2019
    Mrs. H ·
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    Definitely false, lol. I've done the bulk of planning, but he does give his input when/where needed

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  • Shilo
    Dedicated October 2020
    Shilo ·
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    As of right now, false. I'm sure when the wedding gets closer that he'll decide to be more involved.

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  • Vanessa
    Expert September 2019
    Vanessa ·
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    False but he is involved for sure and likes to be involved. But... I have the final say 😂
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  • Leslie
    Devoted August 2019
    Leslie ·
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    False! She’s away at military training and needs to put her focus there so she can graduate and we can move!
    She wants to be part of the decision making and help as much as she can, but it ended up me filling her in after the fact on a lot of things. She helped with a lot of little things whenever she would visit though.
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  • Ashley
    Devoted July 2021
    Ashley ·
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    True! My fiance is wonderful and he's just as excited as I am. I've made more phone calls and sent more emails, but only because I have a desk job so I can sneak them in while at work. But he does other things and he's incredibly helpful. I stress easily so he's great about trying to make the planning process as easy and fun for me as possible.

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  • A
    Devoted September 2020
    Anna ·
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    False!!!! He knows practically nothing
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