Lynnie
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My fiancé(e) is as involved in planning as I am - true or false?

Lynnie, on August 27, 2019 at 11:39 AM

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Has your fiancé(e) been carrying the weight evenly when it comes to wedding planning? Or are they not quite as involved? "My fiancé(e) is as involved in planning as I am" - true or false? Next Question: Finding my wedding vendors has been easy Back to the Beginning: True or False?

Has your fiancé(e) been carrying the weight evenly when it comes to wedding planning? Or are they not quite as involved?

"My fiancé(e) is as involved in planning as I am" - true or false?


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Back to the Beginning: True or False?

184 Comments

  • Paulette
    Expert April 2021
    Paulette ·
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    Because I've been married twice before, I let him choose some of the vendors and the colors. He really doesn't realize how much is involved in planning and thinks I'm trying to take over. I'm at my wits end right now because I am not as far along with the planning as I should be because of him. I would have preferred a destination wedding or even at city hall but he wanted this. He was married before but didn't have a wedding so I am not going to deprive him of what he wants but he really needs to let me make this special for him. You know what I mean?

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  • Lauren
    VIP February 2020
    Lauren ·
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    False! I always get his opinion when making a decision, but he hasn't really decided anything on his own... except for songs for the DJ to play. He's good at making playlists so he wanted to put together songs for the DJ!

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  • Kelli
    Dedicated September 2021
    Kelli ·
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    Hes starting to.
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  • Amanda
    Expert October 2019
    Amanda ·
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    False, he told me just tell him when & where to be on the day of 😆
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  • Carlette
    Dedicated August 2020
    Carlette ·
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    True and false. It really depends on the day. Sometimes he is extremely opinionated and others he is just like do what you want. It is frustrating to say the least.
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    False. I do 98% of the planning. However, when it comes to making final decisions, she always contributes.

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  • Anna
    Savvy August 2020
    Anna ·
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    Same, we sat down to register for gifts and I kept asking what he wanted to register for and he was like "I don't know"

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  • Katelyn
    Expert October 2020
    Katelyn ·
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    I mean, he’s been involved, but I’ve definitely been directing the entire thing... so, I guess false.
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  • Suzette
    Dedicated November 2020
    Suzette ·
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    False...he engages when he thinks he needs too. When deposits need to be made...thats his que😀❤
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  • Amanda
    VIP December 2020
    Amanda ·
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    FALSE Smiley xd

    After we picked the venue, bar, food and DJ he has set himself on cruise control. He writes checks and agree's with colors, it's honestly very nice.

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  • Tanyia
    Expert February 2020
    Tanyia ·
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    False false false false...
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  • Laura
    Master October 2019
    Laura ·
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    DEFINITELY false. He feels that the detail are all up to me since he's the one paying for the big ticket items like the hall, food, drinks, and officiant. I wish he'd help some because i'm a bit overwhelmed.

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  • Tanyia
    Expert February 2020
    Tanyia ·
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    We picked the venue, band, rings, and food... then— exits man, stage left!

    He transfers me $, I pay and keep track of the payments and let him know what else we need. I’m good with it though. Haha!
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  • Katie
    Dedicated August 2021
    Katie ·
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    False. My fiancé isn't very helpful. Our wedding is 8/14/21 so he thinks we should wait until next year to start planning. I kept telling him the sooner we start planning the better off will be. So for now it's like I'm the only one who is planning this wedding.
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  • Paula
    Super September 2019
    Paula ·
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    1/2 true. He's really involved but probably wouldn't go over things as much as I want to

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  • Laura
    Expert September 2019
    Laura ·
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    That's a huge FALSE! haha He'll help with some details here and there, but I've done the majority of planning.

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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
    Chrysta ·
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    False. So much false lol He will give input only when I ask for it.
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  • Jasmine
    Dedicated August 2020
    Jasmine ·
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    I have done all of the planning and have paid for everything. I will just give him half of the bill and bill him later. It’s not that he wants to be uninvolved, it’s just that I like planning.
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  • Monica
    Devoted July 2020
    Monica ·
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    False. It’s mostly me, but he participates when I ask him to. This works great for me since I am detail oriented and perfectly happy to manage the particulars! I consult him before any decisions are made, such as hiring vendors.
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  • Marlena
    Expert June 2020
    Marlena ·
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    False, he looked at venues with me and is enchare of the 1 vendor but I've done most of the planning on my own.
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