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My fiancé(e) is as involved in planning as I am - true or false?

Lynnie, on August 27, 2019 at 11:39 AM

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Has your fiancé(e) been carrying the weight evenly when it comes to wedding planning? Or are they not quite as involved? "My fiancé(e) is as involved in planning as I am" - true or false? Next Question: Finding my wedding vendors has been easy Back to the Beginning: True or False?

Has your fiancé(e) been carrying the weight evenly when it comes to wedding planning? Or are they not quite as involved?

"My fiancé(e) is as involved in planning as I am" - true or false?


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Back to the Beginning: True or False?

184 Comments

  • Denise
    Super September 2019
    Denise ·
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    False. He's involved but he's nowhere near as involved as I am

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  • Aubree
    Dedicated January 2020
    Aubree ·
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    Very false! We just had a talk about him participating more!!
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  • Ashley
    Savvy September 2020
    Ashley ·
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    True! It’s the best
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  • Anna
    Super August 2020
    Anna ·
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    True. He is so interested in every detail it surprises me everyday.

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  • Jacquelene
    Dedicated October 2021
    Jacquelene ·
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    Super true. He’s enjoying meeting with the vendors. We have “wedding talk” each weekday for an hour. Weekends are free fall.
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  • Destiera
    Devoted March 2020
    Destiera ·
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    True? kinda, he’s involved when he needs to be. he knows i have my own vision and wants to make sure the wedding is my dream wedding. he’s just there to look cute lol
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  • Heather
    Devoted February 2020
    Heather ·
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    False. I try to make sure he feels involved but half the time he doesn’t really care. He’s become more involved just because I can’t make a decision half the time lol
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  • Ashley
    Dedicated August 2021
    Ashley ·
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    False. I know he wants to be, but he can tell how much I’m enjoying it, so he let’s me be. I do ask him his opinion about everything and we sit down together a couple of times a week so that I can recap all ideas and progress.
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  • Kaylee
    Dedicated September 2020
    Kaylee ·
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    😂😂😂😂 FALSE! He's opinionated on some things and then other times he's just kinda like "give me a time and a place" kinda thing. I will say getting him to do some of the small tasks that are up to him to do are kind of a struggle to get him to do. He just is so busy and it's the last thing he's thinking about. Not the fact that we're getting married because he's excited about that but just all the small "irrelevant" parts I guess you could say that are apart of it. If that makes sense. I feel like that sounds bad but every guy I have talked to all said it would be that way because most guys just don't care that much. 😂
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  • Shay
    Savvy August 2021
    Shay ·
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    False. He assumes I will just do what I want anyways (psh, no, I'm not a control freak!) But, I really do want his ideas and input. I can't tell if the details of a wedding really aren't important or if he truly feels like his opinion isn't important time, because it is, even if we disagree on things.
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  • Kassandra
    Dedicated October 2020
    Kassandra ·
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    FALSE! He has said that he wants me to keep him in the loop but that's about it. He has gone to meetings and met the vendors but that's about it!

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  • Shay
    Savvy August 2021
    Shay ·
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    Oh my gosh, same! I sent my save the dates 2 months ago, still waiting on him or his mom to get addresses of HIS family and friends. I'm about to just do it myself. The ONE thing he is like set on, is a seating chart and that was something I was like SURE I didn't want. Like, for Christ sakes, we are having a backyard BBQ wedding.... But we about to orchestrate what gingham print picnic tablecloth tables our guests sit at??
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  • Izzykern
    Super April 2021
    Izzykern ·
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    Definitely FALSE — his mom and I are pretty much planning the entire wedding, but I have to say it is nice that he is so calm and relaxed about it because we never run into conflict with decisions!
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  • Sarah
    Devoted November 2021
    Sarah ·
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    Every decision is run by him so far. I've done all of the research and organizing thus far, but I wouldn't make a choice without him. To keep from driving him crazy we have "Wedding Wednesday" and I'm not allowed to talk about wedding stuff on any other day 😂
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  • S
    Devoted October 2019
    Summer ·
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    Mine is not, all he wanted to plan was what we were eating and drinking, the where, and by who lol. I got him to help pick our first dance song by telling him I was gonna make it a beetles song if he didn't help with it (he HATES the beetles lol). His 8 year old son loves helping plan stuff though 😂🥰
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  • Julia
    Beginner July 2021
    Julia ·
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    So false. Initially it was like i was pulling teeth just to get a yes or no answer. He is now doing a bit better at answering the questions but still seems so uninterested.

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  • Stephanie
    Super August 2019
    Stephanie ·
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    Definitely false. I planned almost the entire thing on my own, with only occasional input from hubby! Then, a few weeks before the wedding, he got super into it and was happy to help wrap up the remaining plans, which I was thankful for, because it was all the details that I really did need help/want his opinion on!!
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  • Yoice
    VIP March 2019
    Yoice ·
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    Umm a little of both. He was involve and had an opinion but mostly if I asked. He only had a strong opinion on certain areas he really care for.
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  • Samantha
    VIP October 2020
    Samantha ·
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    False. He's gone to all the vendor meetings and if I ask him to do something, it gets done but he won't take initiative and set something up.

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  • Tiffany & Charles
    Dedicated October 2020
    Tiffany & Charles ·
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    False, I keep him in the loop but for the most part he's pretty chilled about everything Smiley smile

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