Lynnie
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My fiancé(e) is as involved in planning as I am - true or false?

Lynnie, on August 27, 2019 at 11:39 AM

Posted in Planning 184

Has your fiancé(e) been carrying the weight evenly when it comes to wedding planning? Or are they not quite as involved? "My fiancé(e) is as involved in planning as I am" - true or false? Next Question: Finding my wedding vendors has been easy Back to the Beginning: True or False?

Has your fiancé(e) been carrying the weight evenly when it comes to wedding planning? Or are they not quite as involved?

"My fiancé(e) is as involved in planning as I am" - true or false?


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Back to the Beginning: True or False?

184 Comments

  • Mary
    Beginner August 2020
    Mary ·
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    SUPER FALSE! Lol . He says he "trusts in my decisions." I ask for input/help but don't nearly get as much I'd like.

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  • Crystal
    Devoted September 2021
    Crystal ·
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    False, he was and has been really helpful when I tell him I need him to organize or find something ie: the caterer,his family’s head count, and groomsmen attire but outside of that he’s like whatever you like go for it!
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  • Ivy ORP
    VIP October 2019
    Ivy ORP ·
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    100% true. She lets some of the tasks fall to me if it's my thing but never hesitates to offer an opinion when asked or see if there is something I need her to do. I'm so lucky!

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  • Rebecca
    Dedicated October 2020
    Rebecca ·
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    False! He keeps saying it’s “my day” but it’s really “our day” he’s not the planner in the relationship anyways
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  • Taylor
    Savvy September 2021
    Taylor ·
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    False! This has been frustrating, as he started the process by saying he didn’t have opinions on the matter, but since has disagreed with me on plenty of things! But he seems to get frustrated by talking about planning (financial reasons), so it’s tough to bring it up.
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    Thankfully NO!!! He’s not really into the planning and details (otherwise I’d go crazy). This is definitely my area, so I simply run the ideas by him and he’s cool with it. In the beginning, his main interests were the venue and the date. Later he’ll only be interested in selecting the DJ, the food and his attire. So this makes planning extremely easy on me.
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  • Devin
    Super October 2019
    Devin ·
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    True! ❤️❤️
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  • Sierra
    Dedicated December 2019
    Sierra ·
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    100% same here, he's mentioned a couple things that he would like to include, but most of the time, his only input is when I ask for it. I feel like I have to shake it out of him half the time!

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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    False! He doesn't have a clue about wedding planning. I specifically ask him to help with very specific things. If I didn't, he probably would've just left it to me Smiley laugh

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  • Maggie
    Super April 2020
    Maggie ·
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    False ish: he wasn’t originally but we had decided to split things up- he deals with us getting a house, I deal with the wedding stuff, but now that we have the house, he is involved in a lot of the wedding plans
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  • Chinda
    Devoted November 2020
    Chinda ·
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    True! My FH loves when I just pop up with my notebook and pen because he’ll have ideas as well.
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  • Mrscase2022
    Devoted March 2022
    Mrscase2022 ·
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    True! My FH has has been on every phone call with me with the wedding planner and other vendors.

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  • Sara
    Expert October 2020
    Sara ·
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    False... I am the planner in the relationship!

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  • MD
    Super July 2019
    MD ·
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    Soo false.

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  • SraDeCarrillo
    Super August 2019
    SraDeCarrillo ·
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    False. Its like 70% me and 30% him. I’ve asked him a ton of questions along the way because his input is important to me but sometimes he really has no opinion on the specifics.

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  • C
    Savvy December 2019
    Callie ·
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    My man has helped make decisions which has been nice. We checked out a few venues together and discussed a few things together.If I need help he jumps in to help make a decision. He works a lot and is paying most of our bills so I have done a lot of the work and paying for the wedding.
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  • Kristal
    Expert February 2020
    Kristal ·
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    False. He gives input when asked and comes to all the meetings. He will even do a DIY project or two if asked but on the whole, he just doesnt have the time. I have all day at work so getting in touch with vendors, shopping online, and all that stuff is mostly me.

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  • A
    Devoted July 2020
    Ali ·
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    Hes not *as* involved, but hes involved.
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  • NextChapterReady
    Super October 2019
    NextChapterReady ·
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    True! it's his wedding too and I love that he wants to be involved Smiley heart

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  • Rachel
    Devoted October 2019
    Rachel ·
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    TRUE!!! We've made this adventure something we're both tackling. He has been at every meeting, weighed in on all decisions and really been there each step of the way. I love it because I feel it really has made it OUR wedding and not a day just about/for me.

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