More Money Doesnt......

Despite not personally liking tulle, one bride's tulle is another bride's satin. Personally, I could care less about someone's decor, I am all about the food, booze and music.

Very true Carole!! That's what counts to the guests and should be very well taken care of by the bride groom....the rest is how the bride and groom wants that day in her memories...and DIY is just not in mine cause I can't do it lol

It's not a competition, so if you have the money to spend, and want to spend it, by all means, do so! I'm someone who's money is worth more than my time, so I'd rather DIY some things. If your time is worth more than your money, hire a pro, by all means! At the end of the day, your wedding should reflect you and your love and should treat the guests well.

That's my only problem with Four Weddings, the competition mentality that it condones.

The best weddings I have been to all have one thing in common. The bride and groom are so happy that you can't help loving the day! Celebrating their love and commitment to one another with a happy, joy filled heart just makes me smile! I don't care what I'm eating, what the music sounds like, or who I'm sitting with in a room I don't care about; if the bride and groom are happy, it's a great wedding!

Hopefully my family and friends don't show up to my wedding and think to themselves "this was a waste of money and the drive".

Bigger isn't better but that doesn't mean if you have the cash you should feel guilty spending it if its what creates the vision you want.

Edited to add: What if the 10 tier wedding cake was totally for her? Maybe she didn't care if anyone else liked it? Just because she came in last doesn't mean she threw a terrible wedding.

@Sami B I don't think that any of the guests brides said she threw a terrible wedding. The experience from the guest brides and judges just wasn't enough for her to win. She was used as an example. She spent $150,000 and the winning bride spent $10,000. I am sure everything she had in her wedding was for her but it was a TV show for all to watch.

@Yardiegirl, I didnt comment on her taste. I merely just stated she had a 10 tier cake and gold crowns ( which the crowns are a part of their culture. That was a description of things that were in her wedding, not a comment on taste.

This post was to make brides not feel bad about their budget and know that anything is possible. If you have it by all means spend it how you want it. I love seeing lavish weddings but just because you don't have tens or hundreds of thousands of dollars to spend doesn't mean that you can't have a wonderful day.

Again it's all about the experience and how you treat your guests.

I agree! You definitely can have a wedding on a $1000 or $3000 budget....can I??? not happening because NJ is so freaking expensive!!!!!

I Agree 100%

I took Kimberly's comment to mean she had more expensive things like a ten tier cake and belly dancers accompanying the bride and groom and still didn't win.

People who will have nice wedding will do so with whatever budgets they have. If you have a 10,000 budget and you are wearing a 3k dress. Well that is your choice but that money could be better spent towards the wedding.

I agree, but... Many times when brides pull off a wedding for very low amounts, it turns out somebody else did many things for them. Dads bought food, uncles cooked. Cousins took pics and served as DJs.

So sure, it's possible if you don't count free labor.

Mrs. S you bring up a good point. You have to count if someone is buying your dress, free photography, etc.

Weddings are so expensive.

Yes that's what I always think Mrs. S! It's definitely the free labor that people have...the venue is at their house, friends do stuff for cheap...unfortunately not everyone has that luxury

Don't I know this. Well said.

Preech!!!!! I have a co-worker getting married in July and all she talks about is the designer of her dress, designer of her shoes and how she is upgrading her ring... I can't!

I agree! I actually feel bad for the women who feel that they need to spend a ton of money on a wedding like that. As far as spending $1,000-3,000, it is definitely do-able but a person will be more involved and have to be much more creative...not necessarily a bad thing either. My parents had a small wedding for a small budget and my mom swore off making potato salad for any event after that X-D

I am working on a small budget. I am on tract to pull it off for under $5000. We been brutally honest where our money is going. I spent probally double for clothing that most brides do since I dressed 90 percent of my bridal party and My Mom. So would of loved to spend even the "average" amount of money for the area but its not gong to make my day better. And no one else has paid for anything toward my wedding and I don't expect them too.

As long as you take care of your guest! I'm not good with DIY, so I will be paying more. It's all on what you can afford without taking loans and going broke. We've been pretty lucky and have a bigger budget than some brides, but none of that matters, my first priority is that FH and I and our guest are having a good time! Small budget or big budget be happy planning!! Feed, entertain, and thank your guest!!

I really agree with this! I am a budget bride but not because I had to be. I had college funds that I didn't use because scholarships funded my education. In 2010 when FH and I started planning, my parents offered me those funds for the wedding. I was planning huge and extravagant. But about a month in, I just stopped. It didn't feel right. Fh and I are modest and low key people. A several thousand dollar wedding with 200+ guests was not a reflection of us. I asked my parents to roll that money into college funds for my daughters and some went into a retirement fund. We are now planning a wedding that reflects us- modest, ecclectic, and very intimate- and funding it on our own from what we could pay in the eight months between setting a date and the actual wedding. We are both really excited about sharing this special moment with our nearest and dearest. For us, spending more money doesn't mean better. It's about what is important to you and your SO, and what it's worth to have that.

Yep, I totally saw that episode.

I agree! I needed to read a post like this after the crap I've been dealing with my aunt.