More Money Doesnt......

Taste accounts for ALL of it. People with bad taste can spend a million dollars or $1,000 and still have a crappy event.

I just know that it will take me a certain amount to do what I envision and it's not in the $1,000 to $5,000 range.

Well said Kimberly!

We had a very unorthodoxed destination wedding weekend. Mostly everything was DIY. My adult stepsons still talk about it being the best wedding, including their own, that they had ever attended. It was exactly what DH and I wanted(minus the messed up DOC). We didn't break the bank either.

I thnk the success of a wedding is not about the decor, chiavari chairs, a 10 tier cake, etc. It's all about how you treat your guests.

Amen Sister!

I FULLY agree!! I think I saw that episode (did the 150k one have fireworks and the bride a party planner?)..? I think the exact thing when I watch 4 weddings or "Say Yes to the Dress"." I saw an epicose os SYTTD where the bride literally didn't care what her dress looked like, she just wanted "the most expensive dress in the store." That was literally the only qualifer she had and ended up paying over 50k for a dress!!! "What a moran?" is all I can think!!

I think that as long as there is a lot of love and the Bride and Groom try to make it fun for everyone that it will be. The most important ingreedient is love.

@Sara, no the one with $150,000 had an Egyptian ceremony complete with gold crowns during the ceremony, a 8 foot cathedral veil and the beading on it was sewn by hand by her Mom and Grandmother, at the reception she had a belly dancer and live muscians bring her and her FH in when they entered.

@ Yardie girl, taste does account for SO much. But, everyone has different taste and many ppl have NONE. I don't think that a wedding needs to be one way or another. And even tacky weddings can be a lot of fun. But, I think it's important to spend the money where it counts; to waste $ on stupid things in leui of a great event is tacky in a way that takes away from the success of any wedding. I would rather spend less on my own my weddnig dress than sacrafice appatizers during cocktail hour or a stocked and free (for guests) bar.... who cares if the bride is wearing a $20k designer wedding gown if the guests are hungry and thirsty! Same for flowers, I LOVE flowers, but I would rather spend the $ on a great DJ or a place with great atmosphere than spend $15k on flowers. It's all about where each bride sees the value, and for me I think the value is in the experience for everyone.

.....I just can't imagine spending 150,000 bucks on one day...because truthfully ladies...that is exactly what it is...one day. But if you got it like that.....*shrug*

Very well said, Kimberly

@ Kimberly L~ OMG, that wedding just sounds WAY too over the top and embarrassingly lavish. I do not understand the need for SOO much attention on your wedding day, it's already your wedding day. Who needs that much attention? It almost seems pathalogical! Yikes.

You could have bought a house with that and lived in it for 30 years!!! Smh

I couldnt agree more Kimberly!

I could not agree more - I am very much a diy er and will spend money were necessary or on things I want or like - but will not do it because it is expected or tradition.

For all of you on a strict budget - ask yourself what really matters to you - and forget the stuff that doesn't. One place I always question is favors - are there really needed and will people really use them? The only one I really use is a heart wine stopper. A single glass or something with your name and date - will probably get tossed out or put in the garage sale pile. Something edible will get eaten.

I will probably only spend a couple hundred on flowers if at all - our ceremony will be 16 minutes long - so I see no reason to but flowers out and decorate for it - I would rather spend it on the centerpieces - sans flowers - which people will see for longer.

You ever watch those Gypsy weddings on TLC where they spend like $17k on a poofy sparkly cinderella looking dress??

They say it's because this is their only day to shine and after that they go live in a trailer park and just clean up and cook for their man and kids for the rest of their life. So, maybe like a red car bought by a 50 year old man...those over the top opulent weddings are just over compensating for a boring life to come?? lol

I also don't think it comes down to taste. Everyone has different taste. How does one define tacky? What I find elegant, others may think its tacky. Taste and Tacky are subjective.

I think it boils down to not treating your guests as though they are a mere prop on what the bride considers "my day."

I agree 100%!

Mrs. Carole....you hit the nail on the head. I cringe whenever I see someone refer to something as being "tacky" well just because it is not in your taste or you do not like it doesnt make it "tacky" that would make someone that is using tulle in their wedding feel as though you are calling their wedding tacky because you personally think tulle is tacky.

@Kimberly - aren't you contradicting yourself a little?

You stated that the wedding that spent $150k didn't win and she had a 10 tier cake and other expensive things...seems like you are commenting on that brides taste in weddings

she might not have had to spend that money but if she had it to spend then why bust on her?? she had her day and she liked it...

I said it all comes down to taste because one person might like a DIY bouquet...another person might enjoy how a professional does it...the professional will cost more

I so love this post! Thanks Kim!

@ Carole, I agree it's all about how you treat your guests and I intend on making mines feel comfortable and have a great time!

I so agree here. The best wedding I have ever been to was 50 people on a deck of a waterfront restaurant that with open bar cost $2500. I loved every minute of that day.

AGREED!!!

I love your posts more and more Kimberly. Very well said.