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Holly
Devoted August 2012

Is it ever ok for a bride to walk down the aisle by herself?

Holly, on May 3, 2012 at 9:30 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 24

Ive only met my father one time and never really had a father figure either.. I have 3 children, they are the 2 flower girls and the ring bearer. Ive played around with many ideas on how to do this but im just stuck at this point. I thought about having my 2 girls walk in front and my son walk with me but i think that will be a little hectic (they are 8,6, and 4)... So then i thought maybe they walk down and then i just walk so many steps behind them, and kind of walk my self down the aisle. I dont really mind walking by myself but i just dont want to look lame lol. Any ideas on how i can do this? i brought up to to fh maybe me walking halfway and him meeting me and walking with me the rest of the way but i think he would rather stand up there and watch me walk to him like normal so i dont know

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Latest activity by BarbVK, on April 29, 2014 at 4:20 PM
  • Tach
    Master July 2012
    Tach ·
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    You can walk by yourself, it's no big deal. I was gonna do that until my grandfather offered to walk me.

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  • Honey B.
    Master May 2012
    Honey B. ·
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    Plenty of brides walk themselves down the aisle Smiley smile

    Some brides who's fathers were in the picture even decide to walk solo its no biggie, its whatever you feel comfortable doing.

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  • Maci
    VIP October 2013
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    I see no big deal. I want to walk down the aisle by myself.

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  • Mrs. Jaclyn Willson
    Master April 2012
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    It's definitely okay. There's nothing wrong with that.

    I think it'd be super cute if he met you half way though. I know if I'd not had my dad walk me down, that's how I would have done it.

    I was scared to death walking down having all eyes on me. The only thing that kept me calm was getting to my husband.

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  • Blair
    VIP September 2012
    Blair ·
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    I am! my dad and I have an ok relationship but for me its all about my independence which is super important to me

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  • Jen H.
    Master October 2012
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    Perfectly ok! =)

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    Absolutely!~ Lots of my brides walk by themselves!

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  • Julie B
    Master May 2012
    Julie B ·
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    I'm walking down by myself, unless I get too nervous, then FH will walk up and escort me down. My father passed away in 1988, and I will really miss him this weekend, but no one is giving me away this time. I am walking freely into this new venture, and it's a big yay!

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  • Brandi
    Super June 2013
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    It is ok to walk by yourself. If you do not want to what about asking your mother to walk you.

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  • Tina~Bo~Bina
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    Tina~Bo~Bina ·
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    Yes, I'm walking down by myself as well

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  • Holly
    Devoted August 2012
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    Ok thank you all!! Thats what i was leaning towards but i wasnt sure how it would look. Im walking down to "Marry Me" by Train. I even considered my mom walking with me because i didnt want her feelings to be hurt because shes all i had and has always been there for me, but in the end the vision i see in my head is me walking by myself to him with that song playing...(and she already told me that it wouldnt hurt her feelings at all)

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  • A
    Dedicated July 2012
    Ashley ·
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    I kinda want to walk by myself- but I think my dad would want to so I'm going to let him. =)

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  • Lindsay™
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    Of course it's okay! That's what I will be doing Smiley smile

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  • Kathleen
    Devoted June 2013
    Kathleen ·
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    I think its perfectly okay to walk alone! Smiley smile

    I also think its an amazing idea to have your FH meet you halfway or even just walk you down the aisle. Its definitely a nice gesture if you guys do a first look also since the surprise of it will already be done when you take photos.

    I'm pretty sure I will be walking down the aisle solo just because my dad is handicap and it would be a little difficult to push him in his wheelchair down the aisle. Although he said he didn't mind it and/or didn't care if someone else pushed him beside me. I also felt bad if people would take all eyes on him (you know how it is when someone is 'different' out in public) but he said he didn't care, people can look all they want Smiley winking

    I thought about potentially having either my grandpa walk me or my FH's dad. I also considered my mom, but again, she is very old and has health issues that interfere with her walking a lot (even if its down an aisle). And I don't want that pressure on her.

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  • Holly
    Devoted August 2012
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    Ok and in the cases where the bride walks herself, what do they do with the "who gives this woman away?" part or do they just cut it out completely?

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  • Holly
    Devoted August 2012
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    Thanks everyone, sorry i guess i just didnt realize how common it was. I had never personally seen it. Everyone here is so helpful, so glad i found ww Smiley smile

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  • RWC
    Super February 2012
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    I walked by myself - nobody gave me away Smiley smile i don't think it looked silly (but i am biased)


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  • Trista
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    I actually wanted to walk by myself because I just don't feel that close to my dad and he's not all that supportive but FH was afraid it would hurt his feelings so I'm walking with him.

    I don't see anything wrong with walking by yourself, I've seen it many times.

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  • Jamie
    Devoted July 2012
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    My father and I dont' have a good relationship, and my parents are getting a divorce and fighting for custody over my 2 younger siblings. I didn't have anyone to walk me either.

    BUT I'm having my best guy friend who i've known for 13 years walk me down. He was honored when i asked him to walk with me. I'd have walked alone, but i'm a chicken and thought if i didn't have someone to "lean on" I'd fall on my face. (I'm super clumsy, hA). Plus, he's been here for me all these years, I couldn't ask for anyone better to be by my side on such a big day ! Smiley smile

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  • Nancy Taussig
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    Holly, I don't ask "who gives this woman?"

    I ask who represents her family AND I ask who represents his family.

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