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TheBestieEsti
Dedicated December 2017

Is a cash bar okay for wedding?

TheBestieEsti, on August 30, 2016 at 10:18 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 342

Hi everyone! We are getting married next year and are paying for everything ourselves. My FMIL told me that we were "cheapskates" for having a cash bar and not an open bar.. It made me feel really bad but at the same time, SHE is not paying for the wedding. Just wanted your thoughts on a cash bar at...

Hi everyone! We are getting married next year and are paying for everything ourselves. My FMIL told me that we were "cheapskates" for having a cash bar and not an open bar.. It made me feel really bad but at the same time, SHE is not paying for the wedding. Just wanted your thoughts on a cash bar at our wedding. Thanks in advance!

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  • VC
    Master May 2017
    VC ·
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    Yes Melissa, you can absolutely minimize the variety of beer and wines. Talk to your vendor and see what options are available to serve. Some places let you choose the specific bottles of wines to pay and specific types of beer as well. You should be allowed to control what type of alcohol is served.

    Glad you are going to serve alcohol.

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  • A&W
    Master May 2017
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    @Melissa, that's perfect! I'm perfectly happy at a beer and wine bar.

    ETA: ???

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  • Mrs. Sasswood
    Master October 2016
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    GymRat, right there with you. SMH

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  • SleepytheDwarf
    Master June 2017
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    Sigh.

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  • L
    Master March 2016
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    Just to set the record straight, open bars are not trendy. Cash bars were considered rude and tacky back when I got married. And that was 50 years ago.

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  • bellamae
    Master March 2017
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    Nope never ok. Do beer and wine only or cut your guest list. you still have plenty of time to save up.

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  • Going to the chapel
    Master July 2017
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    OP, a variety of beers and a couple types of wine would be perfect! Nothing better than a cold glass of wine wine and a slice of wedding cake. Yum!!

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  • CMarie
    Devoted October 2017
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    I was going to respond but I just don't think I have the energy for this right now.

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  • Jennifer
    VIP July 2016
    Jennifer ·
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    Wow, go out to get lunch and the whole world explodes!

    ETA to take off everything I'd had. it was long and involved and I don't wanna.

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  • Sangele
    Master April 2016
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    So OP only read the "nasty" comments not the dozens of suggestions that said "beer and wine is perfect"......

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  • Sangele
    Master April 2016
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    So OP only read the "nasty" comments not the dozens of suggestions that said "beer and wine is perfect"......

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  • Kaylie
    Master May 2016
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    Holy run-on sentence Batman. Punctuation, it exists for a reason.

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  • Hot Like Bea
    Master January 2017
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    Eeeewwww, Ashley. Just eeewwww.

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  • L
    Beginner September 2018
    Lakesha ·
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    I dont feel like you have to serve your guest alcohol to entertain them. Its ur wedding your getting not your family, if they want drinks, they can drink after. Depends on how your family is with alcohol.

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  • Shanna
    Super September 2016
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    @ashley. No.


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  • OGJessieJV
    Master July 1867
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    Oh Ashley, your ideas are so so sooooo wrong. Please elope.

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  • K.M.
    Master September 2018
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    Oh my gosh. Now let all of the white knights show up. Ashley there are so many things wrong with your comment. I don't know where to start...

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  • SleepytheDwarf
    Master June 2017
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    Oh, for fuck's sake, Ashley and Lakesha.


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  • A
    Just Said Yes October 2018
    Ashley ·
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    Not when your ranting

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  • SleepytheDwarf
    Master June 2017
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    Oh, for fuck's sake, Ashley and Lakesha.


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