If you're not doing a garter toss/ bouquet toss ... what are you doing?

Not really sure in regards to mine, but i always thought that was a cute idea as I always thought the garter toss was embarrassing lol

We did the anniversary dance, which is what you are referring to. All of our older guests loved it and my parents/grandparent's friends especially thought it was very sweet.

I've always wanted to do the bouquet toss, because I think it's fun. But I've read it makes the girls "uncomfortable" I've stood up there a few times and never thought that. I actually caught one and FH caught the garter AT THE SAME wedding So I think it's cute. Any ideas for the 2 that catch the bouquet and garter? Instead of the guy putting the garter up her leg (which that I could see being awkward)

@Maria I've never been to a wedding where the guy puts the garter on the girl.. I had never heard of it til WW Our family has always just had the two who caught them take a picture with the bride and groom.. then they get a copy of it.

Those are traditional FUN things.. however we arent doing them. WE've been married for 10 years and all our friends and family are already married, lol.....

We aren't tossing anything either. We are doing the anniversary dance. My parents never had a wedding reception because they eloped. They have been married 51 years. I made them a red and gold bouquet. I am keeping my garter for my daughter.

Where we come from the person who catches the garter, puts it on the person who caught the bouquet. At the last wedding I was at, a 20 year old caught the garter and I caught the bouquet. I do believe I have scarred that poor young man for life!

I don't really like the idea of a garter toss. I may do one, to pacify my FH, but I would rather not. The bouquet toss is fun though.

My FH caught the garter and I caught the bouquet at my sister's wedding Roughly a month before he proposed.

I really want to do the anniversary dance! but I will also be tossing the bouquet & garter. I won't be making the two people do anything stupid though, probably just take a picture.. I DID go to a wedding once where they had this 12 year old boy (who caught the garter) put it on the gal who caught the bouquet (who was luckily wearing pants) and he was beet red from embarrassment.. and it was awkward.. I vowed that would not happen at my wedding.

I like the whole toss thing, in my family, we dont have many weddings, for some reason people just dont want to get married. So being that I will be the first to have a wedding in years, I want to do it. But I also like the thing you are doing with the DJ.

I'm planning on dedicating/giving my bouquet to my Grandma and giving a short speech about how much I appreciate and love her:-)..also btw when I've seen those anniversary dances the DJ usually has the bride and groom just stay on the whole time so they can enjoy the song together.

I don't plan on doing a garter/bouquet toss, but Maria I love the idea of giving the bouquet and garter to the longest married couple. I will talk to the DJ about this!

We are also skipping the bouquet toss for the anniversary dance. FH's grandparents have been married 63 years. So we wanted to honor them

Maria,

It doesn't replace the bouquet toss, but one idea that has been a lot of fun is "Singing for Kisses". It replaces the clinking of the glasses. We ask each table to sing part of a love song to the B/G after which they kiss. If there are a few guests who aren't afraid to sing, you get some very creative love songs.

I do like the Anniversary Dance. Last weekend the winning couple was married for 67 years, which I think was a personal best for me.

Dan

I don't want to do the garter toss , but I will do the bouquet toss. I just asked FH and he said it don't matter. Would that look crazy to do one and not the other.

We are doing the anniversary dance.

No bouquet toss... most of my friends are already married. At my best friend's wedding in Sept, her DJ called all the single men up and then her groom handed my FH the garter and made a speech about how he wished FH well and fully expected us to be next up. We were and he knew that. It was really sweet. We may do that for one of our guest who is seriously contemplating proposing to his girl.

We are also doing an anniversary dance, but I'm placing our small bouquet with the statue of the Blessed Mother in our church. It's a Catholic thing.

We skipped the garter and bouquet tosses, and didn't substitute anything. We gave one of our bouquets to the one guest who was local, and the other to the staff at the synagogue where we were married. No one complained.

We aren't doing the bouquet or garter toss, pretty much everyone is already married, and we don't want to 'single out' (pun intended) the single people anymore. We aren't replacing them with anything, but I do like the dancing idea!