I has a (slightly selfish) sad

I don't feel like I can talk to my MOH about this as she is extremely busy and has been melo-dramatic about everything about this gathering. I'm seeing one of my other BMS today and going to talk to her about it, but I seriously feel like maybe I should tell my mother/ SIL not to bother. FML

I would be bummed, too. It's less about the presents and more that you want people to be excited for your shower.

A lot of times people come to an event and don't RSVP. Even if a lot of people don't come, it could still be a really fun intimate event. As far as the gifts, maybe people just want to surprise you and didn't mark it off the registry. Maybe people didn't buy gifts and are giving you cash instead. Either way, try to enjoy the night and the company of the people that came.

Some peopl may not have rsvpd on the site but will still show. Same thing with the registry... they may have looked at it and decided to buy something similar somewhere else! Buck up! Dont be sad until after the day if ppl really dont show.

I was going to say the same thing Imani did about people not RSVPing.

As for the gifts part, let's all be honest, the majority of the women would be bummed or taken aback by seeing nothing in their registry purchased (i personally wouldn't care, but that's just me). It's natural especially when your emotions are already flaring because of the stress and hectic nature of planning a wedding.

To that I say, (and i know you know this) but really TRY to believe that it's not about the gifts (because it isn't), and try not to take it personally. All of this is all because you want to marry the person you love....everything else is just a bonus regardless of how it plays out. Hang in there....and try to think positively.

If I was going to a bridal shower & wedding where the bride had a store registry (Like Macy's or Target) and a Honeymoon registry, I would buy from the store registry for the bridal shower and then either give cash or buy from the honeymoon registry forthe wedding gift.

And also, people procrastinate. If no one called and asked about their missing RSVP, they aren't going to RSVP. And they won't go shopping until Friday or Saturday.

I'm asking the other BM to ask the few she knows so my MOHzilla doesn't have a coronary over me asking her. (yes I'm having other problems with my MOH. No, jettisoning her out the airlock is not an option.)

I agree with Sara P. People procrastinate! (I'm one of them) lol and then I was also a little upset when i saw 0 gifts purchased 3 weeks away from our wedding!!!! EEEEK!

But I calmed down and I thought, it’s on a Sunday, people will go shopping on Sat even!!

Good luck, hope you have an awesome time at your BS. I did at mine and i only got like 3 gifts from our registries... (most were for ME ex. lingerie)

I would be upset too, you have every right to be, but dont give up, some people are weird and do things late.

Good luck and id be upset as well

That's a bummer, I would be upset too. I am not having a bridal shower for this reason. I don't have mnay girl friends in this state. :-/

Check with your BMs... Mine hadn't followed up with phone calls or they would have learned that certain people didn't even get an invite

Check with your BMs... Mine hadn't followed up with phone calls or they would have learned that certion people didn't even get an invite

Before WW, I didn't know that shower gifts were supposed to come from the registry. I always got lingerie (if I knew her well enough) or a gift card to a useful household store like Target or BB&B.

To be honest, I will only attend a bridal shower if I a) am a bridesmaid or b) am not a bridesmaid and will be unable to attend the wedding. Either way, I only purchase one gift.

Also, you note you have multiple registries (most brides do) and were trying to "steer people to the honeymoon registry" If your guests are like me, they will take a look at all registries and determine which gift they can afford. And if they are unable to purchase anything on your registry, they may choose not to purchase anything, or purchase a gift card in a denomination they can afford.

However, I do agree with the ladies. You should have your BM follow up with the guests who have not responded.

In my circle, a lot of people don't actually respond on Evite unless they do it right away, so those RSVP sections always look a little sad. But that doesn't necessarily mean people aren't coming.

Maybe just gently tell that BM you happened to see the Evite and noticed many people didn't respond, and ask if they've followed up. You can't control it, so I would just show up ready to have a nice time with the people you know are coming for sure, and then you can be pleasantly surprised if others show.

As far as the registries, a lot of people bought off-registry gifts for my shower, and some of them went to Crate & Barrel that morning. (I know, they told me.) So don't fret or take it to mean nobody's coming b/c of the registry.

Don't stress, it will be great.

I know that when I go to a shower, I usually buy a gift that morning. I'm also notoriously bad about RSPVing for showers (though I'm always really good about weddings!). It doesn't necessarily mean people aren't coming and aren't getting you a gift.

Another note on the registry items no being purchased - I have a budget that I work off of, as I get paid twice a month, I would indicate which cycle I will purchase your gift on. 1st or 15th - As your shower is Sunday, and I just got paid today, I would go get your item on Saturday. Another thought could also be is they are giving you gift cards.

Relax and enjoy your shower regardless of who comes and what gifts are received.

As far as the gifts....I think maybe they will wait for the wedding for the gifts?

I just wanted to say something about evite in general. I set up a whole list for my FI's surprise 30th and NO ONE received the invites through evite. I had to do them all over again and call everyone and individually email or text and everything in order to get in touch with people.