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Jasmine
Devoted August 2015

How long were you together before getting engaged/married?

Jasmine, on December 20, 2014 at 11:08 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 72

The FH and I were together for almost 3 years before announcing the engagement (which was done on mutual decision that we discussed for almost 6 months, instead of popping the question) and will have been together for almost 4 years by the time we have our wedding. I'm getting a lot of talk from my family on how we haven't been together long enough to get married.

What are your thoughts? How long is long enough or too short to be together before getting engaged? Personally, I feel 2 years is a good time, especially if you've lived together for one of them, if you get what I mean. Lol Smiley smile

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Latest activity by Holly O'Neill, on December 29, 2014 at 10:22 AM
  • Rena S
    Super March 2015
    Rena S ·
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    We were together 7 years before we got engaged . We have been engaged for 18mos...

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  • Finally Mrs Gee
    Master April 2015
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    We got together September 2010, moved in together September 2011 and he popped the question December 2013! We will have been together 4.5 years almost to the day when we tie the knot!

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  • AlexisM082
    Master February 2016
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    My FH and I were friends for 9 years before we started dating. If we would've dated when we met in our mid 20's it never would've lasted and I wouldn't be marring him in 400 and some odd days lol. We both had a lot of things we needed to go through before getting to where we are now. Oh he proposed to me a year and a month after we started dating.

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  • AlexisM082
    Master February 2016
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    I'd like to add that my brother proposed to his wife 6 months after they met... Married 8 months after the proposal and 10 years later, they have got to be one of the happiest couples I know! But every situation is different.

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  • Laker0107
    Devoted August 2015
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    My fh proposed right before our 2 year dating anniversary and we will be married right before our 3 year dating anniversary. His brother proposed 6 months after meeting his fiancee and they will be engaged for 9 months. Time doesn't dictate whether you'll make it or not, your love and willingness to work together does.

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  • Nicoletta
    Super January 2015
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    We were together for five years before got engaged a year ago.

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  • CeCe
    Master May 2014
    CeCe ·
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    6 years before we were married and we lived together for 3 of those.

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  • A.
    Dedicated June 2015
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    We were together a year and a half when he proposed. We will have been together for two and a half years when we get married. I completely agree with what some of the others have said, the length of time you have been together doesn't dictate how much you love each other or how long your marriage will last. I've know people that proposed after knowing someone for 3 months and had 3 month engagements and others that have been together for 13 years and engaged for about 6 months with no immediate plans of marriage. Every relationship is different. There are some times you just KNOW. Don't let people make you second guess your decision or relationship.

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  • Angel_D
    Master October 2015
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    2.5 years together before engaged

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  • Larissa
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    Larissa ·
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    We've known eachother for five years. Been together almost 3.

    We got engaged after dating a year and a half. We will be married after being together for 3.5 years.

    My parents have been married 24 years, they got engaged after 8 months and married within a year and a half of knowing eachother.

    My friend had dated her man for 4 years, got engaged and married within 5years of dating, and they just got a divorce.

    I don't think years matter all that much. I think it depends upon the person and your relationship.

    My brother thinks differently. He feels he needs to be in a relationship for at least five years before he purposes because then he will know for sure. This may change when he meets the one, but as for now that is his philosophy.

    As long as you two are happy thats what matters! Smiley smile

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  • K
    Dedicated August 2015
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    We'll be together 5 years almost to the day when we get married.

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  • Soon2BeMrsLevy
    Dedicated September 2015
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    Almost 3 years before the engagment and almost 5 years before the wedding

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  • FutureMrsMerritt
    VIP September 2015
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    We have been friends for 4 years. Dated for almost 3 before getting engaged and when we get married will have been together for a little over 4 years!

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  • Margaret
    Master September 2015
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    FH and I were together for almost 9 years when he proposed. We had talked about it many times and knew we wanted to get married, but we both wanted a traditional proposal and e-ring. We will get married 10 years from when we met/started dating.

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  • HeLovesMe
    Dedicated April 2015
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    He proposed on our one year anniversary.

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  • OG Ruth
    Master October 2015
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    We were together 7 years when he proposed.

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  • Miss S Dot
    Expert October 2015
    Miss S Dot ·
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    I have known my FH for about 20 yrs. We dated for a year in high school ( my first love), broke up, and we reunited back in 2011. We were together for two years before he popped the question and will be together for 4 yrs by the time we get married.

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  • OG FMP
    Master August 2015
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    Together for 8yrs prior to our engagement on 7/13/13

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  • Kathleen
    Devoted March 2015
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    2 years and 7 months Smiley smile

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  • ValZtoB
    Master March 2015
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    12 years before we got engaged. 13 by the time we get married.

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