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Jasmine
Devoted August 2015

How long were you together before getting engaged/married?

Jasmine, on December 20, 2014 at 11:08 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 72

The FH and I were together for almost 3 years before announcing the engagement (which was done on mutual decision that we discussed for almost 6 months, instead of popping the question) and will have been together for almost 4 years by the time we have our wedding. I'm getting a lot of talk from my...

The FH and I were together for almost 3 years before announcing the engagement (which was done on mutual decision that we discussed for almost 6 months, instead of popping the question) and will have been together for almost 4 years by the time we have our wedding. I'm getting a lot of talk from my family on how we haven't been together long enough to get married.

What are your thoughts? How long is long enough or too short to be together before getting engaged? Personally, I feel 2 years is a good time, especially if you've lived together for one of them, if you get what I mean. Lol Smiley smile

72 Comments

  • NotAllWhoWanderAreLost
    Master August 2015
    NotAllWhoWanderAreLost ·
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    We were together for 3 years before he proposed. 2 years long distance, and then a year living together. We had been talking about it and it was pretty much a given for over a year before it happened. I don't think there is any definitive time you have to be together. 2 years seems like a good number, but it really depends on the relationship. I have known couples ready at 6 months, and others who have been together for 6+ years who still arent ready.

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  • FutureMrs.B
    Super August 2015
    FutureMrs.B ·
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    We were together only 6 months when FH proposed, but we had talked about it and knew that's where we were going. We will have been together for 2 years and 3 months when we get married. I could always have waited longer, but it doesn't bother me that he asked so soon Smiley smile

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  • His #1 Lady
    VIP April 2015
    His #1 Lady ·
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    We got engaged on our 5th anniversary and we're getting married on our 6th

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  • Future Mrs. Haynes
    Beginner May 2016
    Future Mrs. Haynes ·
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    FW and I got together June 2010, moved in together December 2011, got engaged December 2014, and will have gotten married year 5 June 2015

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  • Kim8815
    Super August 2015
    Kim8815 ·
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    We'll be in our 15th year as a couple when we marry.

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  • ThefutureMrs.C
    Expert March 2015
    ThefutureMrs.C ·
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    Together a little over 6 months when we got engaged and we will be together 16 months when we get married.

    When you know you know. There is no magic number on how long you should be together. I was with my ex husband for almost 3 years when we got engaged and married at 4 years. Our marriage lasted 10 years. Just because you're together longer doesn't mean that your marriage will last longer. I know that FH is the one and I don't care what anyone else has to say. The people that matter to us, are happy for us.

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  • Karley
    Super November 2014
    Karley ·
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    He proposed after 10 months, and we got married exactly one year after that. 22 months from our first date to our wedding day.

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  • B-2-Z
    Super February 2015
    B-2-Z ·
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    Got engaged after 4 years, getting married the day before our 6th anniversary Smiley smile

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  • S&R
    Super September 2015
    S&R ·
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    We got engaged after 10 months, moved in together at our 1 year, and will be getting married after 3.5 years together.

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  • MrsE
    VIP August 2014
    MrsE ·
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    Here's our timeline of being together, a hand-painted canvas as a wedding gift from my friend. The second is a picture of the plaque on our bench on the college campus where we met, fell in love, and eventually got married. It's located right outside of the chapel.



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  • J
    Beginner February 2015
    JustOneSpark ·
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    We had been together just a few months shy of 3 years when my fiancé proposed, and we are getting married on the 5th anniversary of our first date. Smiley smile

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  • Futuremrs.
    Expert August 2015
    Futuremrs. ·
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    We were together for 3 years before he proposed.

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  • J & S
    Devoted August 2015
    J & S ·
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    He proposed right before our one year anniversary and engaged for 18 months. We will be married in August so 2.5 years together on our wedding day..

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  • Cheri
    VIP September 2015
    Cheri ·
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    We were together for almost four years.

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  • S
    Just Said Yes October 2015
    swimfan93 ·
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    Moved in after 4 months, proposed after 11 months. We've been engaged for about 1 year and we're getting married October 2015.

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  • Annie & Javi
    Master October 2015
    Annie & Javi ·
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    Most of you know the story behind us with the car accident, in technicality we were only dating for three months. We have been together for a year at this point.

    When you realize, you realize!

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  • annakay511
    Master July 2015
    annakay511 ·
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    We started dating in 2010 and got engaged August 2014 so just shy of 4 years together. We're getting married this July so it will be before our 5 year anniversary.

    I think 3 years together is plenty to decide if this is the right person for you or not!

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  • Ariella
    Super February 2016
    Ariella ·
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    2 years together before engaged.

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  • R
    Devoted August 2015
    R ·
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    4 years together before engagement, will be 5 when we get married. FH knew right away he wanted to get married, but took me a little longer to figure it out!

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  • Lady O.
    Super March 2015
    Lady O. ·
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    We moved in together at 6 months, got engaged at 8 months, will be married at 1 year and 4 months. Definitely not the timeline either of us had in mind, but when you know you know!

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