How do you word on an rsvp that they are not allowed to bring a guest?

When I did mine I put something like this on them:

We look forward to celebrating with you; please reply by

(Blank)

Name______________________________

____ out of ______ coming for the wedding

Sorry, unable to attend ____

Then one the part after the name, put the amount of people you are inviting, so it will look something like this :

____ out of __1__ coming for the wedding

or

____ out of _you 1_ coming for the wedding

or

____ out of __2___ coming for the wedding

or whatever the amount of people in the family you are referring to. It will take some extra work, but it's worth it. Hopefully there will be no confusion with that.

I'm putting ____ seats have been reserved in your name. Then I'm filling in the blank. I don't care if they scratch it out and put a smaller number, but I'll raise hell if they put a bigger one!

We just put, ______ number attending and when they RSVP online they will see they only have so many spots. That has been a stress of ours for 2 weeks. Boo to that!

My reception card reads:

We have reserved ___ dinner seats and plenty of room on the dance floor in your honor.

There shouldn't be an issue with them understanding that they can't bring guests, because you have only reserved those (or the one) seat in their honor.

I definitely would not put who is NOT invited. On the outer envelope simply list the name of the individual who is invited.

I like the idea of saying ____ out of 1 will be attending. That's pretty obvious...at least you'd hope so. People have to understand that they can't just bring whoever they want. Weddings are expensive!

I would think that all you would need would be to only address the card to them, not so and so plus guest, but a lot of people don't get that.

So I really like the "___ out of _1_ attending."

That's a good way to put it.

Whoever it is addressed to is invited. If you put on the RSVP something like others mentioned or I was trying to figure this out as well..

something like

M__________________

M__________________

1 ______ 2 ______ able to attend

1______ 2 ______not able to attend

This is how we will more then likely be doing ours. It's soo important that the correct amount are attending (or not) so you don't have extra (unwanted guests)

side story--

an ex-friend of mine.. her boyfriend is invited to a wedding this summer, she told me that he's bringing her as his guest. Later she mentioned if she can't get a baby sitter she's taking her 2 children..

I tried to explain that wasn't such a good idea since they are unexpected to be there and even though they are children the couple will still have to fork out the money for them.

Happy to say we are no longer friends (this is not why)... Just glad thinking about it... she'd end up bringing who knows who to my wedding if invited... :-D

Just be careful that people don't get it into their heads that an invitation is transferrable--we had FFIL insisting that we should be able to accommodate FH's cousins' SOs because his uncle, who was invited, had declined! a) 2 > 1, but more importantly, b) You are not allowed to SCALP wedding invitations! They're not like admission tickets! So I would definitely clearly put the names of the people invited on the invitation itself.

Mines are similar to the others.

__ Seats have been reserved in your honor.

___ Yes, __ of __ will be able to attend

___ Regretfully, we are unable to attend.

Its something like that, I cannot remember the exact wording.

Thanks guys!

Thanks everyone.. i'm sure you guys recalle my post a few weeks ago about people wanting to bring folks...

I haven't send mine yet but at the moment I currently am just making it clear on the inner envelope when filling that out that only they are invited. If you choose to add people they will be getting a call from me about it. I am actually think of emailing my few friends I am concerned with this happening with and explaning the things with budget and such so they get it.

Tara: I'd be careful with that strategy--I don't blame you for wanting to make sure it's clear, but you run the risk of upsetting people who wouldn't have been so rude. Maybe just comment that "someone" wanted to do this and you can't believe anyone would think they get to add people to their invitation? That way it's very clear how you feel about it without coming out and saying, "I think you are rude and will try this."

Tara, that is what we did. We didn't put the number of people invited on the RSVP, but we left a blank for them to fill out number attending. The outer envelope clearly articulates who is invited "Mr. and Mrs. Smith", "The Smith Family", "Daniel Smith and Guest", etc. As RSVP's come in we check to make sure that they have not put more people attending than were invited. If they do, they will get a call.

I will also be calling everyone the week RSVPs are due to confirm who is coming and who isn't.

I'm so screwed because I ordered mine - and I'll have to fill in the numbers for them. Hopefully it won't be the nightmare I'm envisioning...

Cabell, You wouldnt have people SCALPING wedding tickets if you werent having your "Magic, make everyone want to dance wands"!! LOL. I couldnt resist the opportunity that presented itself! I was LMAO at you 'scalping' comment..

In seriousness, Thank you for posting this b/c I havent really thought about it.

As soon as my girl told her cousin about the wedding he was like "oh I'm going to bring such and such with me". My girl was like WTF!?!? Believe it or not some don't 'get it'. They think it is a free for all and anyone can just come. NOT!

Heidi: Ha! But the wands aren't even common knowledge! :p But yeah, like Dai says, some people are amazingly clueless. Sigh.

I love these ideas. I will take heed to these as well.