"Honeymoon jar"

Oh there is a link for education and reading, how fun!

Yup @richard Self awareness selfishness for defending a cultural idea and someone else's idea of having one, even though I have posted more information had you kept reading as well. But go ahead and judge other users, since you are so open and care about others.

Wishing you the best on your wedding day.

http://weddingtraditions.about.com/od/ReceptionRituals/a/Wedding-Money-Dance.htm

WTF Wednesday never fails...

"Sorry other cultures traditions offend you. Because I know other cultures are scary, tacky, and you know, just not what you guys want."

Wow. Ignorant statement. *shakes head*

I don't think entitlement means what you think it means. Entitlement would be thinking that your guests should give you more money, in any way, shape, or form (dollar dance, honeymoon jar, or Honeyfund,) when they're already shelling out to be there and give a gift.

Oh, and we're having a destination wedding we're paying for OURSELVES and not asking anyone for anything. If they choose to bring a gift, great, if not, at least they'll be there. So yes, we'll be on our honeymoon immediately following the wedding.

It's amazing what planning and saving will get you.

Just as ignorant as calling another someone else's choice tacky, did you miss the whole point, I get it

you guys want to be right all the time, and you like the getting "likes" and posting pics but geez, people really take a moment to think about the implications of your actions, I'm defending something

Im not even gonna do, and you're go to responds, are

sarcasm

memes

calling out brides for tackyness

and playing gang up on the newbies but ok I'll be your

village idiot to make things seem ok for you. Hope your wedding was great @yasminadlv and hope you continue to have happiness in your life

Entitlement to make a judgement on someone elses traditions by calling them tacky when you never experienced them. And whose to say those brides aren't saving up for their honeymoon, its just a tradition. Have a wonderful wedding @mna

@Jackie: It's extremely rare that a person chooses to do one of these things out of culture. When they do, they usually state such as a pp did.

You're the one declaring these cultural instances should apply to everyone, which just makes you look ridiculous. 99.9% of the time, on American culture, it will be considered rude and tacky, period.

If this is your family tradition..go for it. If this is not a family tradition.....don't do it, it's tacky.

@mna

awww where did I declare everyone should do it? All I suggested is to maybe, not look down upon

a cultural tradtition, not that everyone should do it. I believe the couple has the right to do what they wish on their wedding day, free from judgement. Crazy idea to put less stress on brides, I know lol Maybe to some guests, but like weddings inside mexico, it will be the norm, I know people cheered for it when I went to a wedding down there.

A honeymoon jar isn't cultural as far as I know. It is tacky.

A dollar dance is cultural. That being said, it would ONLY be acceptable to do a dollar dance IF it were the culture of the bride/groom and family(ies). You can't borrow it because it's convenient for you or because you "need" more money to fund your vacation, renovation, etc. I would be extremely hesitant to introduce something cultural that required audience participation, and I would *NEVER* require the audience to participate - especially if not *ALL* of the audience members are of the same culture.

While it can be neat to see how another culture celebrates, it can also be extremely uncomfortable to try to fit in and to participate.

So there it is. Do a dollar dance, if these things are true for you.

Jackie, I agree with mna's interpretation of your comments so maybe you came across in a way you didn't intend.

Wrong again. A couple ONLY has the right to "do what they wish" on their wedding day IF there are no guests. As soon as even one other person is involved, the day is no longer just about the couple, but also becomes about properly hosting their guests, which includes not subjecting them to begging tactics if it isn't a valid cultural part of their heritage. That's like saying I should totally make my guests pay for their places at my wedding because "it's my day and I'll do what I want!!" THAT is the mentality that creates brides who think it's okay to beg, use guests as props, and skimp on food/drink/alcohol at their reception because they think the day is all about them.

The thing is, that the money dance might be cultural, but putting out a jar asking for more money to fund your honeymoon is NOT. That is tacky, and rude.

If OP were asking in this post about the money dance, your comments about it *possibly* being cultural might be appropriate, but that's not what we're talking about here.

She is asking to set up a jar, asking for MORE MONEY from her guests.

If she had mentioned ANYTHING about this being a cultural thing, it would be different. But she didn't, and neither do the vast majority of the people who post about this kind of thing.

If its not a cultural tradition for you, its SUPER tacky to ask your guests for money. SUPER tacky.

#sorrynotsorry

@Jackie The OP asked for everyone's opinions on a honeymoon jar, which they provided. A money dance CAN be a cultural tradition, but I'm not aware of any cultural traditions that include a honeymoon jar.

This is the first time I've seen you, so Welcome to WW! Happy to have you! These discussions come up a lot, and almost everyone here is

totally accepting when things happen for a cultural or family reason. However, that doesn't make them as less or more tacky!

ETA - Entitlement doesn't have anything to do with judgments of others. It's thinking YOU deserve or have a right to something/everything.

Ladymonk, I love you. Great minds.

So what you are saying is, some traditions, belonging to families that who are proud of their heritage, are fair game to pick on because it doesn't change who you view them as tacky?

oohhh this is one of those websites. Welp, maybe the real mistake is coming here thinking this would be an open and accepting community. I'll just do the old, log out feature. Don't want to get involved in this pitchfork mob! lol, I truely wish you all the best hope you have successful marriages.

@Jackie That's not what I'm saying at all! This is an extremely open and accepting community - stick around and you'll find out!

Also, seeing something cute on pinterest (i.e. honeymoon jar) and wanting to do it vs. something that is part of your cultural heritage is extremely different.

This is a very sincere question - is a honeymoon jar part of your cultural heritage? If so, what culture? I really am curious and I think this would help to educate all of us here a lot more!

Still waiting to hear which culture has honeymoon jars...

@Jackie: Ohhh, so you're one of those posters who doesn't like it when people don't agree her ideas are just awesome?

Bye! Try The Knot! They'll love you over there!!