"Honeymoon jar"

@mna No need to push people away - don't prove an untrue comment true

Yeah, Jackie, nobody is saying that at all. I'm not sure where your last comment is coming from. Nobody is picking on specific traditions (or at least not in the last couple pages - there were a couple of people earlier on that did blanket statement "dollar dances are tacky" to which, YES I do disagree - that is really awful of them to say that). The last few pages are about doing something cultural/traditions for the right reasons. The original post wasn't about culture, it was about asking for money.

Yasminaldv - I love you too!

I've been lurking on this post-I just want to provide an example of how brides here are totally accepting about things that are real cultural traditions-a couple of brides were on here from Polish heritage who do the apron money dance.

People on WW did not have any sort of problem with it because it was cultural. But...honeymoon jars aren't "cultural"-they are just a "cute" way to ask for more money from guests who already bought clothes, traveled, and brought a gift that probably cost more than $40.

Lol at Jackie changing her avatar to rings and "ByeFelicia." I guess I'll never know about the honeymoon jar culture now!

@MayBride I was really curious. I guess it will remain a mystery!

Oh I'll provide the link for the 3rd time since, I see reading might be a bit too much to scroll previous comments. Its just so easier to pick on users when we don't have all the information, I know! Sorry I changed my information, its just, this place, sincerely, gives off a not so trustworthy vibe.

http://weddingtraditions.about.com/od/ReceptionRituals/a/Wedding-Money-Dance.htm

What can I say, you know how to make a girl who feels passionate about culture and tradition sure feel out of place and unwelcome.

@Jackie That article is about money dances, which we've said ARE cultural! No one is disputing the cultural importance of those to some people! Everyone was referring to a honeymoon jar which is so so different!

This is an incredible accepting community and we welcome all users from all backgrounds, budgets, cultures, and traditions.

How is this tacky, but a money dance isn't tacky? Just wondering how that works, as they are both essentially the same thing... Except with the honeymoon jar, people are allowed to participate or not anonymously. I personally don't see anything wrong with either option.

That link @Jackie is about the money dance, which is cultural.

Our concern/questions are with the cultural aspects of a honeymoon jar, which is what this main thread is about. Where is your link for easy reading with that?

Most of us agree that yes money dance is cultural! Pp are asking about the culture behind the "honeymoon jar". Which is the title is this post - and is not part of any culture we have heard of...

@Amanda Money dances, when done for non-cultural reasons, can definitely be tacky. There are TONS of cultures where it's a real tradition - Polish weddings for example (which I've been to and experienced myself). From what I've learned from couples on here, most people that do them don't feel comfortable with it, but do it because it's something their parents, or grandparents, aunts/uncles, etc. expect. While I would never do it, I understand why some people do. It's time they spend with their guests, etc. The money isn't specifically intended for anything.

A honeymoon jar is literally just set up asking people to give you money. As many people have said, honeymoons (like weddings) are nice to haves and something you should do only if you can afford it!

Money dance can be tacky if it isn't part of your cultural tradition. Honeymoon jar is tacky all the time because it isn't part of any tradition, and begging guests for more money is tacky. Many families love the money dance for different reasons - from just spending time with the couple, to embarrassing the hell out of them! ETA fixed typo

I'm a bit new to the forums, although I did do a lot of lurking before I got married. The tradition can be regional as well, I just got married in MN and the "dollar dance" is normal here (Every wedding I've been to locally has had it). Although it originated with the cultures that settled here in the Midwest, it sort of morphed from what the original tradition was (apron dance or shoe dance) into just getting a chance to dance with as many of the guests as possible. We both decided to do it because we both are of some German heritage.

Hi Felicia! You realize that you are just as, if not more, condescending than others, right? You came onto this thread talking about something completely off topic (this is about jars, not dances) and still can't seem to stick to the topic. You'd rather continue to rave about dollar dances. How's that working for you?