"Honeymoon jar"

Tacky or not it's at your discretion I personally am having a dollar dance it's been done alot in my family over the years and it's never been considered tacky by my family we have family that lives in Florida and are going to travel to the keys for 1 or 2 nights to tent as our honeymoon so as you can tell my honeymoon is a minimoon

We also have children so a long honeymoon is not in the works

I vote no. Your guests brought whatever gift they felt suitable. If I attended a wedding and brought cash anticipating a money dance etc and one wasn't done, I'd put it in the card box or give it to the couple. I personally say no to money dances, honeyfunds, and tip jars unless the tips are advice.

Jar or cardbox would work I think you know your guests better than any of us WW users do lol. I'm thinking of doing a cardbox but I know for a fact that my family wouldn't turn up their noses if I decided to use a "jar" or whatever instead. Also, it's completely optional for people to put whatever funds they'd like in there. I don't think it'd hurt anyone. Lol.

Best of luck with your wedding and wedding planning.

Nope. Nope. Nope.

How you look trying to justify why honeyfunds, and dollar dances aren't takcy...and the GOLDEN SHIT AWARD GOES TO! YOUR BEGGING ASS!

Catastrophic Fail!!!!

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To anyone who would say its trashy and unfair, what about a couple who cant afford even a decent honeymoon? Not everyone here has the same budget. If you know your guests well enough then it would be well! I know that 3 of the weddings Ive been too have a money basket and a money dance as well. I get a sense of entitlement from some of the negative replies. Lol

There's plenty of people here who can't go on a honeymoon. There's plenty postponing a honeymoon until a later date so that they are able to afford going on one. A honeymoon is never a necessity or requirement.

@heather planning a wedding isnt a requirement either when one can just sign papers and call it day. Its a tradition that every person deserves to experience, and alot of people at weddings show up as plus ones that may havent broughten anything but still want to contribute. Just because culturally, some people haven't experienced weddings with money jars, baskets, or cages doesnt make it wrong.

@Jackie no it's not a requirement. However you aren't asking your guests to pay for your wedding either. You do what you can afford. You can afford a big wedding and honeymoon. Great! You have a big wedding and wait for you're honeymoon or don't have one, that's fine too! Want a big honeymoon but can't afford both? Then you either have a smaller wedding or do like you say and just sign the papers and call it a day and then have your honeymoon. You don't make other people pay for something that you feel entitled too.

Jackie, I'm unable to have a big honeymoon immediately after the wedding. Instead, FH are saving up afterwards and going to Europe next year.

Start saving money for the wedding, get a realistic budget, and you won't be in debt. If anyone gets me gifts or money its a bonus. The true gift is their company.

Money jars, baskets, dances, GoFundMes, and Honeymoon Funds are all tacky. Its tacky to assume your guests don't know how to give gifts and/or open their wallets further.

...you realize they probably bought clothing for your wedding, plus potential cost of feeding themselves and staying in a hotel... They are spending a fortune just to be there. I would be appalled if someone asked me for cash. Plus, nobody carries cash anymore it's all plastic.

Jackie:

My parents JUST went on their honeymoon last month. They've been married for 40 years this April. They've never been able to justify the money until right now.

Going on a honeymoon is a luxury. A wedding is a luxury, and YOU pay for the wedding/honeymoon that YOU can afford. Weddings don't have to be expensive. I did mine for under $4000. It was simple. No frills. We went with what we knew we could pay for. (My mom actually ended up paying for it, but we weren't sure at the outset of things if we'd have any help, so we planned small.)

DH and I had 1 night in a hotel room, because my mom was able to get a room for free for 2 nights. (I stayed there the night before the wedding with her and my sister).

We have some savings right now and are trying to tuck money away until WE CAN AFFORD to go on a honeymoon/vacation/anniversarymoon. We didn't ask our guests to fund our honeymoon.

THAT is what is tacky. As a guest, I am going to be giving you a gift, monetary or otherwise. If I see a honeymoon fund jar, I'd be a little pissed. The money I'm giving you in my card isn't enough? The juicer, or vacuum, or bed sheets, or roomba, or whatever off your registry isn't enough? That is just gift grabby.

@Jackie - "Entitlement" because we think a honeymoon jar is tacky? FH and I are having a small 40 person wedding because we're paying for it ourselves with our hard-earned money and that's all we can afford. We're not taking a honeymoon at all. No plans to. Why? Because we can't afford it. Are we having a honeyfund of any kind? No, because we think they're rude.

I love seeing newer users on here getting saltier by the day when they continue to see crap like this.

Jackie, no. No one "deserves" a wedding and a honeymoon. Everyone deserves to be able to get married. You do what you can afford and save your money like a normal, reasonable person for the luxuries you want. You don't expect your guests to fund them for you.

I don't know what it is about weddings that make probably otherwise rational people start thinking all these things should be given to them because they're getting married.

Ladies, ladies, I see I struck a nerve with alot of you. Sorry other cultures traditions offend you. Because I know other cultures are scary, tacky, and you know, just not what you guys want.

http://weddingtraditions.about.com/od/ReceptionRituals/a/Wedding-Money-Dance.htm

I say entitlement because I though I would give the ladies here, the benefit of doubt they couldn't understand what may be tacky to them, could be cultural tradtion with some meaning to someone else. I know not all of you have attended an example thats why I say, haven't had the "priviledge" of attending one.

And its not a form a begging, its always a choice, but go ahead and squash other cultures tradition on begging, cause its different than you planned.

Oh @lauren do you know the definition of salty? Cause I'm defending a tradtion and everyone else attacks, but yeah I can see why some new users don't want to introduce themselves with an open community like this. lol

I can also see some ladies are upset cause they choose to wait for their honeymooon, but get "salty" and the thought of someone else having it together because they planned tradition gets them a boost. And no one mentioned Honeyfund from my side either. I think that site is terrible asking for percentage. lol

I don't really hate you because I don't know you, but I hate your idea.

In what culture is it acceptable for a newlywed couple to ask for guests pay for their honeymoon...? Just curious.