Heavy Hor Devours Reception

^ (Cont) Did my guests leave satisfied? Yes.

Kk - Only because telling someone to add a sash is indicative of an elitist viewpoint. Because Glenn and I are total snobs who like to sit around in our Monopoly Man costumes and have money fights.

I love my monocle

Glenn, I thought you were going to let me wear the monocle this time! Moneyfight and caviar at six? I'll bring the bottles of Cristal (which we pour out to our homies, since we can always afford more with our fancy lifestyles).

@Glenn. My wedding is a Monday.

Is that wrong too? But the reasons for having it on Monday, versus Sat/Sun is probably selfish also. Even though there's an coastaboat race happening that wknd. That won't move for my wedding. (How selfish of the annual boat race, right??)

I wanted it Wed July 4 but that got vetoed by friends and my parents. (Who would travel for a Wed wedding?)

While I don't except to be cuddled, I sure didn't expect to be attacked for my wedding plan. I have discussed this wedding with my parents, his mom, the grandparents, and the few friends we actually want there. They are all a-ok with this plan. They know my/our financial situation & what is affordable.

As for as "expecting to be fed at the rehearsal", that's not what I'm doing. The traveling people are invited to dinner the night before but not the wedding rehearsal.

If you notice, the forum scared away the original poster. She probably won't back

What does your FH think? I would actually look at the cost difference between having a meal and having 20 different choices. Do you have to go with one set company, or could you shop around for better prices with another place?

I personally wouldn't mind not having one specific meal. I normally eat more of the small food because I always worry my meal won't taste good haha. I would just watch the timing because it is right around dinner time.

I normally don't like to comment on some of the strange drama around here, but sometimes it seems like some posts don't actually answer the questions being asked. They just pick one point and blow it up instead of actually giving a full answer. Some people don't take the rest of the advice seriously because of the way it is given. When 50% of the post is very sarcastic, it really spills over the rest of the posts and it is hard to tell which part is from real experience. =) Yes, this is the internet, I know!

You are doing a DW so I'm a little more flexible with the day of the week on those occasion, but in general a Monday wedding is beyond rude and inconsiderate. The fact that you even THOUGHT about doing it on such an important day as July 4th has me flabbergasted but I guess I shouldn't be surprised.

And if she can't handle the forum then how is that my issues or concern? If she wants everyone to lie to her and have a bunch of people telling her yes over and over then she's in the wrong place because we are going to tell you the truth in an attempt to HELP. Of course people like you and she are so set in their ways that outside opinions are just taken as being mean and negative.

Meghan, I'm sure your wedding will be amazing! I guess we both view this the same way: we'd rather invite everyone who is important to us and have a less elaborate dinner. For crying out loud, it's just food!

I'm just wondering why you care so much what Glenn, a random guy on the internet, or anyone else here thinks about you're wedding.

Didn't you say your FH told you it was the right decision? Didn't you say you discussed it with both sets of parents and grandparents..? You've made it clear that you and everyone else thinks its a good idea, so then stop worrying about what people on the internet think about it..

I'm almost 99.9% sure no one here is coming to your wedding..

We all gave input and you, in such a sweet caring way (sarcasm), let us know that we're wrong and you're going to do what you want anyway, so I PROMISE you coming back to argue and justify even more isn't going to help the situation.

Just sayin'

Jennifer T, I am not by any means serving and elaborate dinner, but I am serving food, unlike Meghan.

When I planned my wedding when it came to the reception my guests were my number one concern. They were there to help me celebrate and share in my special day. I wanted to be sure they were taken care of and had plenty to eat and drink so they could enjoy their night. I had a modest budget, I've seen some brides spend that much just on their dress. I shopped around until I found a venue that could provide what I wanted for my guests. Because I shopped around I was able to do a few little extras as well like a chocolate fountain (I was shocked by how affordable it was). I also chose to only invite people that were close to me and should be there. There were casual acquaintances on both hubby and I's side that would have been nice to invite but we decided it was better to have a smaller reception but be able to provide our guests the best possible evening. Our guests had a wonderful time, plenty of food and were dissapointed when the evening came to an end.

Can you guys please just get this straight..

The word "elaborate" is defined as: Involving many carefully arranged parts or details; detailed and complicated in design and planning.

Not one person has said that has to be the case for the food. Elaborate meal =/= Enough food for your guests so they're not freaking starving.

Okay so to summarize Amy's orginal question:

1) You have a guest list and its growing by the day: Other than being concerned for your stress levels and the rising costs I don't care how many guests are at a wedding, have as many as you'd like to include, but remember that after a certain number of guests it will be physically impossible for you to greet all of them.

2) Open Bar: Great decision! Alternative decisions to negate the rising guest list include hosted beer and wine reception with a champagne toast or beer, wine and a signature drink. Please provide all guests with non-alcoholic beverages free of charge no matter what your budget end up being.

3) Heavy Hors d'oeuvres for dinner: I love appetizers. However, if you are doing heavy appetizers it better be really filling and the service better be good. Alternate options include: Stations, plated dinner and buffet dinners. The goal is to provide tasy food that satisfies. Talk to a caterer for price quotes.

@Meghan R, if she doesn't come back, it probably has more to do with the fact that you hijacked her thread and made it all about you and less with what has been written in response to her question. just sayin'.

I think everyone is getting overly sensitive because they don't like the answers. A lot of good stuff was said here. I went to a wedding that started at 5pm and had a cocktail reception following the reception. If I didn't eat prior, I would of been hungry. A lot of people were hungry and trying to go find places nearby to eat. I mean yea, it is a precious day and only happens once, but please think of your guest as well. If you want them there, treat them right. If the shoe was on the other foot, you would be an unhappy guest. Think about it for once.

^YUP

Also Ashley I see that you are in Illinois. If you want an affordable option not ridiculously far from the city of Chicago check out my reviews and you'll see what venue I used. Great prices and great open bar included and the food was yummy. Feel free to pm me with questions or for more details on what food we got from there. A friend of ours who attended the wedding loved it so much she is using the same venue.

BBC

I did not mean to hijack her thread.

I am bowing out. I hope the OP comes back and reads the ideas that people posted. Or starts another thread.

I don't care what people think about me on this thread. But you can't attack someone like you did and not expect that person to not respond.

Good luck to all the other brides.

I think someone who doesn't care generally DOESN'T respond, but I could be wrong about that.