Guest purchased gift from registry, but never sent it. What do I do?

How do you know she is the one who purchased it?

Does Amazon tell you who purchases what?

Since she didn't come to the wedding, I wouldn't say anything. Sucks that you might be out a present, but to me, it's not worth a potentially awkward situation.

Hmmm... maybe you could buy it, and then when/if you get it from her, it will either be within the returnable timeframe, or you could regift it to someone? Depends what it is, I guess! I am thinking, if they were no shows to the wedding (which stinks!!), they may be embarrassed enough that they shy away from giving a gift at all. I guess it depends how close you are!

Yeah, what was the present?

NO don't ask anyone anything about what gifts they bought! Maybe they liked it so much that she or he kept for them self.

I have a similar situation something was purchased a months back and I never received it so I am thinking it is going to be a gift from that person at the wedding. I would assume at this point if it had been sent and she did not receive a thank you note maybe she would have asked about it to see if it was received. I would feel funny asking them, but hope maybe they will notice they never got a thank you and verify if you received the item.

(To answer others' questions Amazon shows you what has been purchased and buy who and even has a page for thank you notes that lists the item, then the persons name, then their address.) For me it would depend on how close you are. Our wedding was small enough that pretty much everyone there with just a few exceptions I would say something. I would likely phrase it as something along the lines of "I got a notice from Amazon that you had sent _______ off the registry to us. I wasn't sure if you had had it directly mailed to us or were going to bring it sometime, but it hasn't arrived and I wanted to check in case it was MIA and we needed to contact Amazon about it before time ran out." The person may not know that Amazon informs you of who bought what so mentioning that might help it make sense of how you know and that way it's just you making sure everything is ok and that it isn't lost.

I would personally let it go. I would also go ahead and buy it myself if I really needed one and ff the original gift does turn up it can be used as a gift for someone else.

How long ago was the wedding?? Maybe she's still sending it.

@Reggie thanks for that information! Since OP dropped away -_-. I wouldn't ask them. Are you close with this person that you would see them? They probably still intend to give it to you just haven't gotten around to it. I have guests who told me they got us a gift but left it at home and planned to send it later. Still haven't gotten those gifts. But I'm not going to ask them about it. They're adults.

Yes, as other posters have mentioned, Amazon registry has an awesome feature that lists out who bought what gift and their name/address. Super helpful for Thank You notes!

I personally don't know what I would do in this situation. I probably wouldn't say anything at all.

Technically (although this would suck), guests have up to 1 year from the wedding to give you a wedding gift, so I would wait and not say anything!

Wow, guys, that was fast!

Yes, as others have said, Amazon provides you with a thank-you tab that tells you who bought what.

I just want to clarify that this is not necessarily about the gift. Like I'm not sitting here saying "HOW RUDE WHERE IS MY GIFT?" I'm simply wondering what to do. I know that if I tried to send a gift to someone and it never arrived, I would be upset if they never got it. In fact, even if Amazon didn't replace it, I would purchase it a second time and re-send.

Maybe I just answered my own question. What would I want her to do in this situation? I'd want her to ask just in case it did get lost so that we could fix it. We're good friends and I'm not upset at all that they didn't come - they would have had to travel, and I understand that sometimes, you just can't go out of town even when you planned to. Things happen. I think we're close enough that we can talk about it. After all, are we just not going to talk to each other ever again because neither of us wants to mention that they weren't at the wedding? That would be silly!

I just wondered if there were any delicate ways to do this that I hadn't thought of or any hard-and-fast etiquette rules that applied (like having a year to send a gift - thank you, Lynnie!)

I would also really hate her to think that I received the gift and just never bothered to thank her. I mean, if she were on this forum asking "what do I do if I never got a thank-you note?" what would y'all tell her?