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Devoted February 2013

Friday wedding?

DIY-WA, on December 6, 2012 at 5:57 PM Posted in Planning 0 20

We were buying supplies for our favors the other night and my fiance said out loud what one of my biggest fears is 'we won't have that many people who will come to a Friday wedding in February, we are probably buying way too much'. That's one of my fears. We've had almost no interest from our save the dates and we have a lot of out of town guests we are hoping can come. What have you ladies experienced? Do people even come to Friday evening weddings?

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Latest activity by Keriayn, on December 7, 2012 at 4:58 PM
  • Angie B
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    Angie B ·
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    We had a fri evening wedding and had no problem with guest comming. I think a fri starting out the wknd actually makes it better. Our ceremoney did not start until 6:30 so people had time to get there however most people took off all day or half a day but those that did work still made it in. Now we did not have a lot of OOT guests only 2 that was farther than an hour away.

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  • Combay
    Master April 2013
    Combay ·
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    I hope the OOTers make it, but if not, I have plenty of local folks that I couldn't invite due to budget limitations.

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  • Courtney
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    We didn't hear a ton from people when we sent our save the dates and our count was perfect. I would personally have no problem with a Friday wedding!! No work on Sat, so why not?!

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    Master June 2024
    Tina~Bo~Bina ·
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    Yes people come to Friday weddings.

    The people who really matter and who want to be there will come even if your wedding is at 9 am on a Tuesday.

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  • Just Reenski
    Master December 2012
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    We went to a Friday wedding a month ago that started at 4:45PM, and they had roughly 100 guests that attended. Granted, there were fewer at the ceremony than the reception, but people were there.

    Did the STD's say it's a Friday? Are you beginning a little later in the evening, like, no earlier than 6? If people have warning and you aren't asking them to take too much time off work or fight too much traffic, then there's no need to stress. There may be some people who aren't able to make it since it's a Friday, but I don't think you need to worry for ALL of your guests.

    I'd say maybe start chatting with the OOT VIPs to ensure they'll be able to make it. If you need to do any rearranging (or returning), these convos will help with that.

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  • Mrs. S™
    Master October 2011
    Mrs. S™ ·
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    What do you mean by "no interest from STDs"?

    People go to Friday weddings, and people go to weddings in February. But I knew about my OOT guests and their plans. Do you talk to those people regularly?

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  • Tiffany
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    Tiffany ·
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    My coworker had one and it seemed like everyone from my job went. I think she had almost 200 people (not sure how many she invited). I think it depends on how many people are local. Its a lot easier to leave work a little early than to take off for some people.

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  • Carole M (a.k.a "old tart")
    Master October 2011
    Carole M (a.k.a "old tart") ·
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    If they were given enough time to plan, those that want to be there will be there. However, a later start time is a good idea.

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    Yes. We do them almost every weekend when we're in season. Hey, people go out on Friday night, right?

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  • Ann
    Dedicated November 2012
    Ann ·
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    I got married on a Thursday evening and almost all (with the exception of a few out of towners that I didn't expect to come anyway) came to the wedding. Our ceremony was scheduled to start at 6:30pm and we delayed it for 15 minutes due to guests stuck in traffic, but it all worked out. We made sure to start dinner right away when we entered the reception instead of first dance, so guests that came from work wouldn't be starving.

    Alot of local guests chose to take the friday off after our wedding. I said I gave them a great excuse to start their Christmas shopping early by taking Friday off.

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  • Amy
    Devoted May 2013
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    We're also having our wedding on Friday. More than half of our guests will be coming from across the country, so they'll have to take off anyway if they're planning on coming. For those who are local, I'm slightly worried about rush hour traffic since we're starting at 5:30, but there are so many other details to worry about that I've pushed it out of my mind. Like others have said, those who want to be there will make it a point to be there.

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  • Kari  Taggard
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    Give it a little time. People are focused on the holidays now. I bet you would start to hear after the first of the year.

    Regards,

    Kari

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  • HoundMama
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    I have been to many Friday evening weddings and actually, they are more heavily attended than regular Saturday ones. I think it's because having it on Friday evening creates the "long weekend" effect. Also because most people just got off work and they are ready to have a GOOD TIME!

    Weddings are not like any other party either. People will make exceptions for weddings, take off work, travel and whatnot. I think your fiance will be pleasantly surprised in the end.

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  • Jamie Q.
    Master May 2013
    Jamie Q. ·
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    I think if you have a lot of out-of-towners who are traveling far than you have a right to be concerned. But that also depends on if you told them well in advance that it was a friday. Not many people give "interest" from a save the date besides possibly mentioning they recieved it. I didnt go to one last year because I found out with the invitation it was a friday- i was just told it was the third weekend in April so I assumed that Saturday. I lived 2 hrs away and had no vacation time by the time I found out so I had to miss it. So advance notice and the start time is big too. Also, expect that many people will miss the ceremony and show up at the reception. I hate doing that so that was another reason I didnt go to the wedding.

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  • Kay
    Super December 2012
    Kay ·
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    If you have a lot of out of town guests traveling far than it might be an issue of them getting there in time, but i don't see why people wouldnt come to a friday wedding, those most important and closet to you will come no matter what day of the week it is

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    Devoted February 2013
    DIY-WA ·
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    Thanks ladies! It's been weird...those we sent save the dates to really didn't say anything and those we weren't inviting are the ones who have been asking about it. We included anyone who knows us both and has been a part of our lives in the last 7 years. Trying to keep the attendance to about 75. We did not include those who only know one of us or who we haven't seen in all that time.

    It's such a weird thing because I want those who are important to us to be there but you feel obligated to invite other people to not hurt their feelings but then they don't really care about your wedding or that it's hard to estimate for favors etc not knowing if they'll come or not. I know our wedding isn't nearly as important to anyone else but people get hurt if they aren't invited and seem to be indifferent if they are. Ugh!

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  • Mrs. S™
    Master October 2011
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    Right, but that's why you should buy things like favors when you get RSVPs back. That's the only way to know how many you'll need.

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  • P
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    We are having a friday evening wedding and i'm not worried about it at all. we think the opposite is going to happen and have too many people.

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  • Rachel S.
    Master September 2013
    Rachel S. ·
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    We're having a Friday starting at 5:30 (I know I know we should do it later) but we're getting married outside and we want the ceremony/pictures done before the sun completely sets. I'm not worried about it- we're giving plenty of notice, and the VIPs knew about it and okayed it long before we booked it!

    As far as not getting a response from yuor STDs...I think that's normal. Whenever I get a STD i don't really say anything (unless I'm talking to them/run into them) then I'll say "oh those were so cute" "we're so excited" etc etc peolpe probably just put it on their fridge and forgot about it until it gets closer

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  • Keriayn
    Devoted September 2013
    Keriayn ·
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    I am having a friday wedding ceremony is at 3. Wedding is in September STDs going out Feb1. If it is an incovience for anyone too bad its my day one less mouth to feed. i know that sounds mean but i really dont care if anyone shows up just as long as me and jeremy are there together

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