Extremely uncomfortable wedding

Oh no kinda selfish

The collection jar is really over the top. I can't believe they had the nerve to do that after making people pay for their meals.

Yikes!!! Thanks for the follow up. That sounds so awkward.

I would love to hear from the couple to see if hindsight is 20/20 or if they stand by their decision.

I can't handle awkward situations at all so I'd probably be dying to leave ASAP if I were a guest to that wedding. What an awful way to treat your guests. Paying for your meal is bad enough, but the fact that they passed around a donation jar, even after they picked up on the unhappy vibe of the crowd, takes the cake.

Could the mods make this a sticky at the top so everyone can know what NOT to do at a wedding? This is unreal

Sounds like the bride got her ideas/validation off one of the entitled /clueless Facebook groups we hear about ! It's your day so you do you ! Etiquette is just your opinion ! I'm not paying for you to get drunk on my dime ! Ad nauseum.

This would have been so uncomfortable. OMG. and the jar?! What on earth...

Wow!! That truly is terrible! And the coins in the jar! Hilarious!

What in the ever loving fuck! Asking guests to pay for their plates, asking guests to pay for admission, telling any guest how much it cost to host the guest, even saying the word "cash" to any wedding guest is like rule #1 of hosting a wedding! This is definitely the WORST wedding I have ever heard of!

Mad props to you OP for going AND giving a gift. Hopefully, they will learn from your class as to how to treat others.

This is awful! I remember your original post! Asking for donations after?! This is beyond terrible. You are so patient!

This makes me so uncomfortable to read......how gross.

This is like a WW SNL skit.

Delfina, can you save this somewhere so when people ask about cash bars/ honeyfund jars you can post this?

The only way this could be worse would be if the venue had Parisian-style pay toilets.

@Jessica water and grapes??? That was it?! Holy fuck that sounds awful!

Wow--and I thought the potluck wedding I went to where I had to help set up the decorations was bad....this one wins!

I wonder if the bride eventually got that this was not appropriate behavior and if she'll make up for it somehow. I can't wait to see what the thank you notes look like...

That had to be so uncomfortable having everyone watch as the donation jar got passed from guest to guest. Each guest was on display so everyone would see whether they chose to out something in the jar or not.

I can't decide if all the guests being open with each other about their disapproval of how this was hosted was good (at least everyone knew they weren't alone or crazy for feeling slighted) or if, like you said, it made things worse because it made it impossible to disguise your contempt for the situation from the couple.

That was painful to read. Thanks for the update Delfina! Sorry you had to sit through that, yikes!

I was reading this shit show to FH and I said about the one couple basically taking their wedding gift back he just goes "I can't really say I blame them. That's fucked up."

It's seriously bad enough they made you pay for your own dinner, but to pass a collection jar? I'd say really loudly "oh, sorry, can't contribute to your sex vacation. All my money went to paying for my food." I'm surprised most people didn't leave right after the ceremony!

I really really hope someone spoke up to them about how terrible that was. I personally would have gone and not being any cash, ordered food and stuck them with the bill lol