Extremely uncomfortable wedding

What a nightmare. I keep refreshing!

Omg waiting for the next...

Around dessert, which only about a quarter of the people ordered, they passed around a collection jar and asked for any donations we might feel like making. That is not a joke; that is a thing that happened. It got passed along about three guests with no one putting money in. Then someone dropped in a few coins so loudly that I could hear it in the big jar. It continued on like that; I don't think there was any paper money in that jar when they got it back and I saw more pennies than anything else.

Paying the bill was just really uncomfortable. People silently put money on the table and one couple took bills out of a blush envelope that had clearly been intended as a wedding present at one point.

This is obviously an extreme example of what not to do, but - for real - do not pass on the cost of your wedding to your guests. I went intending to at least put on a friendly face and fake-smile through the evening, but you can't fight the collective mood of an entire group of people who feel like they're being treated badly.

The entire evening felt gross and I wish we hadn't gone. I do wish everyone had done better at putting on a glad face for the couple, but we were so obviously their last priority that it was hard to fight against the stink of unhappiness in the room.

F5 F5

what a shit show.

Oof this sounds bad. Waiting for more!

ETA: got to read the other half. That sounds awful! My jaw literally dropped when I read about the donation jar.

Yikes!!

What in the entire fuck.

This is...ughhhhhhh.

Just....wow!

Wow. What a terrible experience as a guest. And a donation jar too? Grosssss

WOW. I don't even have words for this. How incredibly rude.

Holy shit, I must have missed your original post, but HOW does anyone think this is appropriate? Making guests pay for meals AND asking for money on top of that?

Wow.... thats awful.

I think the change in the jar is the funniest- that's hysterical- and awful.

Tell me someone rattled the jar- so all the change slid around in it rattling.

Thank you for the update, Delfina. That sounded like a shitshow. How did the couple respond?

Wowww this sounds like a prank reality tv show, not real life!

Ummmm Tryptophan!!!!!

Did that make you feel better? I'm sorry that happened. I remember you saying something about this before. I know you traveled a long way for that. You're a trooper I would not have gone.

Just out of curiousity @Delfina, how did you know the couple?

That's a wedding horror story...

@Jo that's the ultimate act of petty. I would have died laughing.

Omg that just sounds awful

Yikes, sounds bad! I can't believe they passed a jar around