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According to WeddingWire and in my opinion to etiquette
If you have an engagement shower bridal shower or bachelorette party it’s because someone decides to throw you one and they will organize it you would have input on the guest list but definitely only invite people who are invited to the wedding
I would say like everything else these things are definitely regional and if your area says that you throw all your own parties and invite people who are not coming the wedding because you want more gifts then go with it if it makes you feel good
It is not necessary to have an engagement party. However, we threw one....yes, for ourselves. It was a small casual get together with our bridal party and a few close friends. We supplied the food (chili, because we had it in the fall...and we live in the country), and a bonfire. The purpose of our party was mainly to be like "Yay, we're getting married" and for our bridal party to meet each other. It was NOT a gift giving event. If you really want one, there is nothing wrong with having one. Also if you really don't want to go through the trouble, there is nothing wrong with not having one. It is a party that can either be thrown for you or (in my opinion) is okay for you to throw yourself, as long as you don't expect gifts of any sort. We didn't specify engagement party on ours either though...it said "I DO Chili & Fire." And their were no formal invites sent out, just a FB event invite and text message.
I skipped the engagement party... Its so many things that are part of tradition but I opted out of a few..... Especially if you are throwing it yourself and your paying for your wedding. Save that money for your wedding and honeymoon....