Engaged after a month????!!!

:-) thanks hun, it just i heard so many couples on here was together for so long before engagement. I felt like outcast lol. Yea less than a month I would worry lol. Like I said give it time and see what happen in few months. Maybe she will leave him or she does really like him.

Statistically speaking marriages that begin sooner than 2 years after the relationship started have a much higher divorce rate.... so even if they make it that far I wouldn't worry about him sticking around for too long.

Honestly, I agree with PP. Maybe talk her into having a big wedding so it takes her awhile to plan... maybe that will help her get some sense knocked into her before the big day

Well huge divorce rate is also for people that live together before marriage as well. Every love story is unique and some relationships does work even if they got married quickly. It is rare through.

Holly cow... I'll admit that it took me awhile to act responsible but as soon as I had my daughter, the act was manditory to get togather.. I'm not trying to be rude or judgemental but I could not imagain bringing men to meet my child without a concrete belief that this one would be the "one".

I find this a very sad story.

We were engaged after 3 months. Im not someone who stays in a relationship unless I see a real future and a year and a half after we met we are very happily married and have survived more than most relationships. But less than a month when she is someone who has jumped from one guy to the next that is very sad. Especially when she has 2 little ones I find it disgusting of any parent to constantly bring new dates around their children its not fair on a child to get attached to someone only to see them replaced straight awaywith the next date

See, I am like you Aussie bride. I never wanted to settle down and never had a serious relationship. Just dated here and there ya know? I don't get serious with any guys unless I see the future. I did enjoy being single and I wasn;t even looking to settle down nor find a man. But the sister who go through men all of time and rushed to get engaged, that is something I would be a little concerned about. I agree about children :-( My FH and I want to enjoy our marriage that we don't want kids for five years. But when parents are divorced, they need to be more picky who to date for their children sake :-(

FH got engaged after 10 months, but knew we were getting married after two weeks. I wouldn't say it's the length of time (Although that's a bit shocking) but her record that's disturbing. And yeah, I agree this is no good for the kids.

And to answer your question, we "knew" we were going to get married after 2.5 months, got engaged at 7 months and will get married at 2 years. However we are both well into our thirties and have been through a couple of longterm relationships (never married), to know what we were looking for.

Thank god you did not cosign that loan. You would have regretted that for years to come. It sounds like shes still a kid mentally and still has a lot of maturing to do. there is a good chance the wedding will be canceled in some time. She has never committed to anything, no guy, no job. I find hard to believe that she'll commit to a husband.

Maybe she was asking as a joke when she was drunk? You said she asked via text so you might not have known.

Sean and I have been together for *almost* 4 months. I am moving in within the next few weeks, and apparently a ring is around the corner. We plan to be engaged for about a year.

Back to the original topic - I strongly agree with Megan that your sister probably does not have such good feelings towards herself. Throughout college, I was ALWAYS in super serious relationships that never lasted. Each one I was so *sure* was the one, but after a few months everything fizzled out because I just couldn't hold up the act of trying to act like the person I thought they wanted me to be. Once I realized that's what I was doing (and how exhausting it was!), I just dropped the whole act and swore off guys for as long as I could. Then came Sean... and here we are!

This really isn't fair to her kids. They have got to be so confused and lost. They're just starting to bond with one older male figure, and then they leave (hello abandonment issues) to be replaced by someone new, and on and on...

Never co-sign a loan. I refused to co-sign for a car loan for my daughter. Do NOT do it.

If someone cannot make it on their own, well. Also, do not lie about your credit (although do not divulge anything to them). You have nothing to be ashamed of, if your credit is good and their credit is bad.

As far as finding "Mr. Right" that fast....yes it can happen. My ex and I met in April of the year we met, got engaged in May and married in November. We were married for 10 years. We divorced, but remained friends. Our daughter is now getting married and we are working like a great team, with his current wife. All is good.

I think that maybe she is using the fact of marriage so that you can trust her with the loan. I think maybe she thought it would be better sounding if she told you that it was going to be a long lasting relationship in order to get you in that comfort zone of figuring out how she can afford to own that trailer, It makes her look like she is trying to take responsibility of her life. Better yet maybe she is seeking a little attention as well, because she may see her life for what it is and see you as the responsible one and feels as if she wants that same lifestyle. In her predictament, i think 1month is too short and not serious.

Sass...i wish she were drunk...i called her this morning just to double check and sure enough its true.

After reading many of the posts, it occurred to me that the world has changed?????

I am not a saint, and I have been a bit of a sinner...but so many of you really young brides have had more sexual partners than I have had...and I was in the music business (with major rock stars).

Guess I cannot understand the "relationship" thing now. Do all "relationships, more that 2 days old, mean I have had sex with him?" Just asking?

Sounds like she was drinkin some moonshine!!! wooooow.....#thatsalligottasay....i'ma pray for you & her, hoping she dont take you over the edge.

-shes 25 (2 yrs older than me) and no preggers had 2 by time she was 20-

Yikes! My daughter knows how I feel about that...have a child before 30, I brought you in, I can take you out.....alas, while wearing an orange jumpsuit. ;-)

Seriously, I cannot fathom having a child, let alone children, before 20! Hell, that was when I was out traveling the world and having FUN!

Geez!

Kathy, I am old fashioned as well and I am almost 25 years old, never fit in my generation. My FH is a virgin until marriage and I sadly made a mistake at age 19 but decided to wait until marriage before I met my FH. It is rare now today. It is normal for my generation to have sex with someone you are with. I seriously feel I fit more in 1800's lol.