Does it really Matter how long your engaged???

I do believe there is a such thing as being engaged too long. However, I do understand why you waited to push the wedding back. Your reasons are valid, and honestly I was blessed that my parents could pay for the wedding, but if not then my FH and I would have been engaged longer. It does cost to have a wedding and furnish a home so you have to do what is comfortable for you. So it really does not matter what I or anyone thinks. Do what is best for you and your FH. People are going to always have something to say no matter what so keep pressing

Everyone will always have their own opinions. Sounds to me like you have your head on right. Weddings are expensive. There are a lot of brides out there that fail to realize what kind of price tag comes along with their dream wedding. Wedding debt is something you never want to deal with when you're supposed to be enjoying the first year of your marriage life!

Engagement lengths depend entirely on the couple.

I was engaged for 1.5 years, my hubby and I paid for the entire wedding, and we dident want to take out loans or put anything on the CC

I do think there is such a thing as being engaged too long but I don't think a little over a year is too long at all. besides you are moving into a new house! That's wonderful and an important part for starting a life together.

Good luck with everything! Enjoy the house decorating and being engaged!

I agree that there is a such thing as being engaged for too long. I know that every couple is different and have their reasons but "too long" for me means 3+ years.

I think that you and your FH are doing the right thing by taking things a step at a time. If your family pushes you.....then simply ask them for their checkbook to pay for the wedding lol!

Thanks ladies. I say all the time no matter the time or place there will be people who will always have an opinion whether its one I agree with or not. That is why we made the decision that was best for us because this wedding will be entirely on us financially. And we want to be able to live afterwards without the added stress of DEBT!

LOL... I like that attitude Singing Diva! I bet the pressuring will stop then.

I feel like with all there is to plan, a year long engagement is pretty normal, if not on the short side... I had a friend who got married in 6 months and who just couldn't understand why we were engaged for a year. Umm, because we want to have fun planning and get the wedding we want, and places are booked over a year in advance? and we didn't have money to worry about, if we did, it would have been longer!!!

ignore the morons, you're doing it right, I can't see ANY reason to rush it. not one.

ps: My brother was engaged for 12 years before finally getting married. there IS such thing as a 'too long' engagement, but ONE year is not it!!! lol!

@Tracy S. I think being engaged too long can happen, but I think you guys are doing the right thing, closing on a home is a big thing and cost wise it makes since to give yourselves time to plan a beautiful wedding. My FH and I will have been engaged for 1 year and 5 months come wedding day, and the time is really flying by.

@ Tracy, all i can say is DO YOU baby girl--

I got engaged December 6, 2010...We're not getting married until August of this year. That's roughly 4 month shy of two years. We chose to do it this was because A. we were transitioning jobs B. we're paying for everything in cash ourselves and C. we wanted to enjoy being in the moment of being engaged. We didn't/aren't stressing ourselves financially. I agree that you've got a good outlook on life planning and that you should follow your heart and do what's best for you and yur FH. Best of luck!

I think you've got your priorities in order. We're settling on our first house next Friday and getting married in May. We would not be able to do anything though without the help of my parents (very blessed!) so just focus on doing what makes you and your FH happy. The nay-sayers will soon learn that you don't care what they have to say.

According to a little infographic I saw on pintrest the average US engagement is 17 months.

I think some engagements can be too long but yours doesn't seem that bad.

I really think it depends on the couple and what their wishes are some people like long engagements and others do not...to each their own. Do whatever makes you happy...congrats on the house

I will have been engaged 3 years when I get married. I believe however long u want to b engaged is ur choice. If u r happy with it so should ur family

I think most engagements are about a year--hence why all the wedding checklists have tasks for each month in the year before marriage.

And honestly, I don't understand the idea of an engagement being "too long." If a couple gets engaged, but then one of them simply refuses to set a date for years, that could be a concern of the other one. However, if both agree on a long engagement, I don't see why it is anyone's business but theirs. Someone who wants to speculate on whether someone else is "really" engaged--due to the lack of a ring, or a delay in the wedding--seem to me to have way too much time on their hands.

I agree with most of the ladies on the topic. People are ALWAYS going to have something to say. You can never please everyone!! It is your life and you run it how ever you please.

Thanks ladies. I agree 100%

I think if you have a plan in place its fine. is just sad when people are engaged for a long time with no concrete plan to get married. if you just bought a house and want to save up, DO IT! its what FH and i did (minus the house part). we are going to have a little over a 2 yr engagement bc we needed to save for the wedding we wanted.

and btw can i just saw how HOT your man is?! he looks like a model!!! and your beautiful too

This is your life and as long as you and FH are happy, it's no one's business to tell you that your engagement period is too long. I will be engaged 15 months by the time our wedding is here. We wanted to allow enough time to save money to pay for everything ourselves without any debt. I also wanted to allow myself enough time to plan so that I would not be stressed out or rushed.