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Do you check in with each other before making a big purchase?

Kelly, on December 18, 2018 at 11:05 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 143
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Do you check in with your fiancé(e) before making a big purchase and vice versa? Never, always or sometimes?


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Latest activity by Traci, on December 15, 2019 at 1:16 AM
  • Alexandra
    VIP June 2019
    Alexandra ·
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    Yes, always! Unless it’s a surprise or a gift or something along those lines Smiley winking
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  • D
    Super September 2019
    Dana ·
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    It depends on what you are describing as big ! I just bought us a trip to mexico and its a surpise so no. But usually if its over $500 we consult each other
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  • Jennifer
    Master September 2018
    Jennifer ·
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    Yes if it is over a certain amount.

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  • Angerra
    VIP August 2019
    Angerra ·
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    Yes, we definitely talk to each other about all big purchases. Like the other ladies said, unless it's a surprise or gift.
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  • A
    Expert August 2019
    Ami ·
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    Yes! This was huge when we joined accounts. Generally if it’s over $50 we at least let other know we plan on buying it.....unless it’s a gift.
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  • FutureMrsKC
    Master January 2019
    FutureMrsKC ·
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    Not always. We have separate bank accounts and a joint account. As long as our bills are paid, what he does with his money and I what I do with mine doesn't need an "ok" from the other. That said, we rarely make big purchases and I tell him everything I buy anyhow.

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  • PurdyAikey
    Super January 2019
    PurdyAikey ·
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    Usually I TELL him, but we each have our own money, so I don't ask permission unless its coming out of our shared savings, and as long as the bills are getting paid and there is food in the fridge I quite honestly don't care what he spends his money on and vise versa.

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  • Alyssa
    Super July 2019
    Alyssa ·
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    All large purchases we have had we made together so there wasn't really anything to check in with.
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  • M
    Super October 2018
    Michelle ·
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    Depending on how big it is, yes.
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  • Nemo
    Master August 2018
    Nemo ·
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    Always! It is our money and it would be unfair to not check with him. Unless it comes out of our "fun" money, which is our personal account and is similar to an allowance.

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  • Kelly
    Legend October 2022
    Kelly ·
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    That's great! I feel like if it's shared money, I would let them know as well!

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  • Kelly
    Legend October 2022
    Kelly ·
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    Totally agree! If it's your own money, you can spend it however you would like!

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  • S
    Devoted May 2019
    Sarah ·
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    Yes, always. I give him a run down on what I spent from our joint account at the stores, just out of respect. But I don't really shop that much, aside from grocery shopping
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  • Arkilia
    Super November 2021
    Arkilia ·
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    Yes, we discuss every purchase that we make, just to make sure it's something we really want and need or I'd it's just an impulse buy..
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  • Kenisha
    Champion June 2019
    Kenisha ·
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    Uhhh, I don’t believe so. We have separate accounts and then a joint account for bills. We have the same days off so we shop together. For example, we just bought a 72 inch TV 📺 Had I not been there, I wouldn’t have expected him to check in with me. He used our Costco credit card 💳 & we’ll split the bill.
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  • Becca
    Super August 2019
    Becca ·
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    Right now we have completely separate accounts so he has no reason to check with me. Once we are married, we will have our main account for billing and such, but we agreed to have our own separate accounts for our own money to put whatever agreed upon percentage of our paycheck on. That way, it doesn’t feel like I’m buying him Christmas gifts with his money. If he buys a big expense with his own account then he in no way needs to check with me. But if he makes a huge purchase in our account meant for billing, I would hope he would at least run it by me first
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  • Saraí
    April 2019
    Saraí ·
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    Exactly this!

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    Sometimes - but only if it's a really big purchase! We have more of a monetary limit in place, so check-in if you're spending over $X

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  • caitie-lyn
    Dedicated January 2020
    caitie-lyn ·
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    Always, unless it would be some type of gift. Any big purchases we've made we've gone to the store to buy it together

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  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
    MrsV1027 ·
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    Depends on the purchase. We have our own spending money so if it's something that I can afford on my own I usually just go for it.

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