Did you send invites to people you know won't come?

It doesnt hurt to send them invitations but if you really dont want to don't... I have 2 brothers in which 1 i havent spoken to in 12yrs and the other in 2yrs Im not sending them invitations either my mom is gonna tell them way closer to the wedding day that I am getting married.. so that they cant make plans to come... but hun its up to you I know some brides that say if they havent talked to you in a year you not on the list...

If you want to invite them go ahead, even if they do not attend they may be flattered that you invited them. I would not invite anyone assuming they will decline though.

I invited a ton of people I know won't come, because it's a DW wedding. I think it's nice to know you are thinking of them.

We sent invitations to people we know wont be able to attend just out of respect for them. I dont think it will hurt anything unless it will mess up your guest count or something.

We invited people we knew would probably not be able to come because they were people we really would have wanted to be there if they could (small DW). This led to a couple of happy surprises--people who actually can make it even though we thought it would be impossible!

Since we always knew this was a SLIGHT possibility, I very intentionally did NOT invite some people who probably wouldn't have been able to come, but would have been a disaster on the off chance that they did. I think everyone has a few family members like that...

So basically, my rule of thumb is that it's fine to invite someone you don't think will be able to make it IF you would really want them to be there. As some people have said, they may be really glad just to have the invitation (and might be hurt if they didn't get one, in fact). Just don't risk anyone you're COUNTING ON not coming... because if they're invited, you never know.

Yes, we still had to send invitations to those that we knew werent coming, his family is in canada so we knew most of them wouldnt come. Only 2 of the families that we invited are coming.

We sent a few to people we knew ahead of time would not be able to make it. Everyone of them was happy they got one even though they can't be there, they did RSVP and a few of them went in peoples scap books so that was cool.

My FH insist we do, but I dont really want to send as I believe it is a waste of time.

I've sent some invites out to people that I know won't be able to make it, but like Cabell said, only to the ones that we would be happy to have at our wedding. My FH has a grandmother in her 90s that lives in retirement home on the other side of the country, we don't think that she can manage dealing with the airports and traveling but we still sent her one because we knew that it would make her happy to know that we were thinking of her. I also have an aunt and a grandmother that are in poor physical health and can't manage to fly out here, but we gave them invites too.

I know a few of my guests can't or won't come, but I think they will appreciate the invite anyway.

I am going to send invites to people I know wont be there too. Granted it is mostly family but I would LOVE it if they showed up. I dont want feelings hurt if they dont get one. My cousin sent me an invite to her wedding knowing I wasnot going to be able to come. I was just very hapy to get one.

My FH is wanting to send invites to family he knows won't come but I too think it's a waste of time and money. But I understand why he wants to do it.

Im sending them to people I know wont be able to come. It lets them know that they are an important part of my life. I have no problem spending a little extra to let my loved ones who live in England, know that they were thought of.

I think its ok to invite them. I have invited lots of people that I know won't come but its is because the wedding is in my hometown and my FH's hometown is 8 hours away. But we live in his hometown now. I didn't want to leave people out or family friends out so we invited them anyway. I know most of them won't come, but if they decide to make the trip, just more people to make the day special! Everyone wants the day to be special for you.

We invited a few people we are still close with and on good terms and such that we knew wouldn't be able to make it because I want them to know they are important to me. Some people do it as a way to get gifts and save seats at dinner...I respectfully say that is HORRIBLE! I felt the opposite. I didn't want people that I knew couldn't come (b/c of travel costs in the first place) to feel pressure to buy a gift!! It's not about that to me--it's about the company and love of everyone you care about. If you don't feel close to certain people, don't feel pressure to do it. Just think about why you're even considering these people and the motivation to invite/not invite. Do what you feel comfortable doing!

I haven't sent out the invites but will send them even to people I know don't really get around much (older age) just so that they know I was thinking of them.

Maybe send announcements but not invites? Personally, if they were didn't make it for your sister's funeral (so sorry about your loss, btw) then if it were me they wouldn't be invited to the wedding. I know it sounds harsh.... but I just don't think I would do that

Announcements are another possibility--we're sending out announcements to a lot of people we couldn't invite to the wedding because of size restrictions.

I have invited a few people I know won't be able to come...but like PP - they were all people I WANT to come...and really hope the advance notice will allow them to make it. But you will end up with surprises anyway - some people I was SURE would come aren't coming... :-(

I pretty much knew that none of my mom's relatives from North Carolina would be able to attend, but they are her sisters and brother, and my cousins, so we still sent them the invitations anyway. Its a nice thing to do. If they aren't people you speak to regularly, then I don't know if you have to invite them. Its really what you feel is best.