Cash bar vs open bar

The ground is custom in certain countries. Pillows are custom as well. Hay bales can be options I.e. Ranches, farms.

@JessieJV I love it how you get all emotional when people refuse to listen to you and agree.

I wouldn't use hay but to each their own.

An opinion held by many is still pure opinion.

I adore Jessalina and her opinions and moreso her smarts about etiquette. I am highly emotional. It's a regional thing, I am sure.

Wasn't going to say anything but then I got to the tax bracket comment. Really? No.

And I do agree you don't need to drink to have fun, because I don't drink, but my guests do, so I will be providing FREE alcohol for them. Open bar all the way

Yours guests should not have to get their wallets out at your reception. Period. It is silly to me that it is even a debate, seems like common sense and common courtesy.

But honestly I think OP has probably heard enough here to make her decision!

You guys keep saying "drink" but you really mean alcohol. Providing drink refreshments and alcohol are two different things: no one is having guests steal water from a bubbler outside the venue: there are other options to drink besides alcoholic ones that can be provided to guests.

@Caila: if you can't properly host a wedding, then why not push it back? That way you can save more money. If that's not an option, just go to the courthouse & save yourself the hassle.

Oh no.

You will not get any support on here for a cash bar

Noooooo

'Providing drink refreshments and alcohol are two different things: no one is having guests steal water from a bubbler outside the venue: there are other options to drink besides alcoholic ones that can be provided to guests.'

Yeah. I'm not interested in your free lemonade.

I don't agree with any option that transfers my expense for a party that is a completely optional to my guests.

I've asked them to be there and celebrate with me. I will accommodate all of the people who came.

Exactly what Kittyprawn said. People are taking time out of their lives to attend. I can't believe you're making them pay for it. You are not queen of the world, and no-one cares about your wedding as much as you do.

ETA: To OP, Lindsey and Jessica.

I just gotta ask when MA got this reputation for cash bars?? I have never been to a wedding with one. Even my grandmother's 80 birthday party was open bar

The art of hosting has died with this generation. My parents never let anyone leave their house with out offering a plate of food and something to drink. It was common courtesy. It has nothing to do with money cause my parents were not well off when I was growing up. I'm not having a extravagant wedding but I am making sure those I hold near and dear come and have a hot meal and something to drink. Including adult beverages. It is the least I can do after they took time out of their day, traveled and were gracious enough to give me a gift.

Keisha for the win.

Keisha, I've been wanting to say for a long time that you're so bang on with your etiquette. You were raised right!

What I am doing at my wedding is I have an open bar for an hour then after that it is a cash bar. Every where I was going to visit said to do just a 1 hour open bar because after that it will just get crazy and get out of hand.