Cash bar vs open bar

Your guests shouldn't have to pay for anything at your wedding. You're the host.

@Alyssa-I've never been to a cash bar or dry wedding, they are practically unheard of in my area. My mother went to a cash bar wedding 30 years ago and talks about how cheap it was.

I have been to weddings with limited bars, beer and wine only, or beer, wine and signature drinks. All were fun. Cash bars are the bogeyman of what's considered a cheap arsed wedding.

@Jacks, no. Actually, I didn't. But apparently half the people on here did. So maybe a post JUST for that is what I meant. But thanks for assuming I didn't read ;-)

@unawarepandabear my guests don't actually need to be informed since they know my history of drug and alcohol abuse. My FH and I have been clean and sober for 18 months. Those who want to drink can bring their own. As for most and by that I mean 38 of our 42 on the guest list, they are also recovering addicts. They also drink non-alcoholic beer. So yes. We will be covering their non-alcoholic drinks. The other 4 can bring their own. Shall I name the other 4? My father, my brother, my FFIL and FMIL. I'm going to go out on a limb and assume none of them are going to be terribly offended to provide their own.

ETA: Keep judging. I'm hosting just fine for the group I have in attendance ;-)

To each their own!

@Nonna- yep. Yep she did.

Thank you Sarahlina

I sense a pattern...

When I started wedding planning, my dad was hell bent on a cash bar to cut costs even after I told him it's tacky as fuck and FH's parents are paying for a full bar and they don't drink! However everyone consider this OP may not realize these things and is entitle to her opinion. My dad has never been a formal wedding guy and asked if he could wear jeans to a wedding sigh...so the cash bar question for him was truly a question. But if you do a cash bar please tell your guests ahead of time! I went to a wedding and thankfully I had like $20 and realized it was a cash bar. But lots of guests don't carry cash and their venue may not take debit cards!

@HANNAH that's why I always plan to give cash as a gift; if I find out it's cash bar, I'll have some cash to use.

No guest should have to open there wallet at a wedding

Lmao @Sarah, I was just typing that what you said in your first comment!

These comments are HILARIOUS.

I'm totally against Cash bars. I want everyone to enjoy their night with plenty Liquor

Mrs.mck I wish I wouldve thought of that!! Lol

What would you expect them to do, PennysMom? I never carry cash and probably not to a wedding. Would they need to run out to a gas station for an ATM?

Just as classy as charging friends and family for a drink.

Personally if I had no cash, I wouldn't drink. I wouldn't take what I was giving as gift....but that's just me. Just because someone doesn't do what you think they should have doesn't mean you should be a jerk.

Lol yaaaa, if I had no cash, I'm not just going to "not drink" at a wedding. I'd leave soon after dinner, if even that late. Going to a wedding means I probably took time off work, definitely ordered an uber to take us to the wedding, got a hotel depending on location, did my fancy hair and makeup, put on a nice dress and heels, shelled out money for a gift or cash, and expected dinner, drinks, and dancing. Unless it said otherwise, which is not common in my area. Thankfully, knowing my friends and family, a cash bar would never happen. The three people on this post who think cash bars are crazy if they think I'm not going to enjoy a glass of wine or four at an adult PARTY.

Cash bars are RUDE. Guests should never have to open their wallets!!

You need to suck it up and do an open bar. Even just having hosted wine or beer is totally fine.

If you cannot afford a bar, have an afternoon wedding (like 2pm) and just do a quick cake and punch reception afterwards in like the church reception hall.

Cash bars are RUDE. Guests should never have to open their wallets!!

You need to suck it up and do an open bar. Even just having hosted wine or beer is totally fine.

If you cannot afford a bar, have an afternoon wedding (like 2pm) and just do a quick cake and punch reception afterwards in like the church reception hall.

When you people say cash bar...do you literally mean cash only?! What kind of establishment doesn't accept credit cards?!?!