Cash bar vs open bar

Good luck with this question.

Nope. Guests shouldn't have to pay for things at your party.

And it's not like paying for drinks somehow magically prevents people from getting drunk. I got drunk on drinks I paid for at the bar plenty of times in college....

Oh god. Here we go again. No.

You must be new here lol.

Yeah. This isn't going to go well for you. To avoid angst, delete this post. Open WW on your web browser (preferably on a computer). Search the word "cash bar". Then read the CGs. Then lurk for a little while.

Cash bars are not okay. We get this question everyday and most regular posters are over it.

Ugh. YOU decided to get married and invite other people. THEY should not be responsible for paying for any part of your wedding because you're being cheap or a bad host. Open bar all the way.

@OP- didn't you already post this a few days ago?

Working at a venue, I can tell you that cash bar isn't very popular with our weddings. If you are worried about cost, a beer, wine, soft drink, and maybe even a signature drink is a good, cheaper route to go. For the weddings I have worked, many will do a cash bar for the last hour of the reception, but not for the entire time.

I understand what all of you are saying and I appreciate the (kindly worded) input.

However, if my guests don't want to attend my wedding, the most important day of my life, then you're right! They shouldn't be on the guest list in the first place.

This day is about the love me and my FH share, and nothing else. Defiantly not the alcohol.

No. No. No.

No.

Nope.

Why would you want to control your guests? I loved seeing my guests drunk. I knew they'd had a good time.

Seriously? Last time you wanted to know the best way to ask your guests for money. You are failing etiquette. Please lurk more.

And OP if it's about just you and your FH, go to the dam courthouse by YOURSELF. Why ask a question if you know what you want to do?!

Ok bye.

All that will do is cause them to leave early and create an uncomfortable environment. If your rationale was right, would people buying drinks at pubs leave piss drunk? When being hosted, they shouldn't be expected to pay.

So no....no cash bar.

Lol first you posted about a honeymoon fund and other nice ways to ask your guest for money and now you're posting about this smh. Good luck with your wedding!

Please don't. Another way you can save money is to not invite guests that you can't afford to host properly aka cutting the guest list. Or have a beer and wine option, signature cocktails or just champagne. & please don't delete this post. It will help others with the same question.

Sure if you want to have a talked about wedding for yrs to come, and not in a good way at all. And as for this being the most important day what about when you have kids? That is the most important day. Grow up and host properly or cut your guest list to have at least wine and beer.

Just don't.