Cash bar vs open bar

You don't need to worry about tax brackets when you only invite the amount of guests that you can afford to host. Hosting means guests don't subsidize your wedding. Easy.

Think about it this way. You're inviting people to your wedding. In order to attend they may have to; find babysitters, take time off of work, travel, pay for hotels, meals, attire, a gift (if they choose), etc... You're already asking a lot! You seriously want to ask them to pay for their own drinks too? Sorry, they should be provided free of charge, no matter what they choose to drink. We had budget restrictions too, that's why we did a beer, wine and champagne option. We chose two beers, two wines and one champagne.

You don't know my guests... they will prob be dancing and mingling in the parking lot before the ceremony even starts.

I LOVE when OP singles out the 2 people who agree with her and ignore the advice is at least 25 other people. You asked for advice from internet strangers. A lot of us are on this forum quite a bit and see the question all the time. So yes, it gets old. And if you just want validation of your opinion, why ask a question at all? You clearly have made a choice.

Also, for some reason someone always brings up that those of us having open bars must have deep pockets. Most of us have saved and made sacrifices and most aren't getting help from anyone else. It's doesn't mean you're rich if you have an open bar...it just means you have tact.

Oh, Vivian, I have no peanut gallery (that I know of). I don't need one. It is cheap, cheap, cheap, cheap, cheap, cheap, cheap, cheap, cheap, cheap, cheap, cheap, cheap, cheap, cheap, cheap and nuclear ballsy to ask your guests to pay for their drinks at your big, fancy party. If you don't know that, oh well, I'm not attending your event, but I feel bad for those who do (unless you're into full disclosure, and full disclosure is exemplified with this invitation verbiage: "Soft drinks, cash bar, dinner, and dancing to follow" Are you bold enough to print that on your pretty wedding invitations? Thought not...but why not?).

You are not reading though my posts correctly or fully . I never said anyone was selling anything for profit (not sure where you got that from?) But you don't know anything about how i feel about my family and I don't need you to be "sorry" for me, I take great offence to that ( which I know you were trying to get at). Keep the low blows to yourself. I have no part in that side of the family but it would hurt my dad in the long run. I have been blessed with my moms side of the family and great family friends but my dad is stuck with what he has.

I'm obviously not the minority if 90% of all the weddings I have been to were cash bar, and if people on this site also agree. I am only having 160 people at my wedding, I can afford an open bar if I wished to.

Lindsey, people form opinions here based on the information given to us.

Well, I think she must have realized since she hid her comments.

there's a difference between background facts and shaming my DNA.

(which some of the things she said were inaccurate)

Vivian, you're not allowed to call people bullies. I'm sorry, but I need to flag your comment. It's not cool no matter who it is that you're name calling.

The problem is that when we say "no, bad idea" then people honestly want to know why it's a bad idea. Calling an idea rude is not being mean.

Lindsey, again, if you're uncomfortable with conclusion that people draw, you might want to think about how much you're sharing with this very large population of posters.

If they were facts, it would be fine. but spreading lies and calling me inbred is on another level.

Lindsey, apparently inbred is ok, but bully gets a flag. Lol.

Lindsey, I'm not going to debate that with you. That wasn't the point of my comment.

One thing though, please don't misquote posts that are hidden/flagged, it's not fair to the poster.

The moderators will be able to review all of the comments, including the hidden and flagged ones.

@Lindsey I didn't see the inbred comment and you're right, that is not okay at all. That said, you did come to a public forum and ask for opinions. The majority of people have shared one opinion and you are only appreciative of the minority group who likes your idea. It's very frustrating to be asked for advice and then when it is given, be told you're a horrible person (paraphrasing).

@Vivian you have given your fair share of low blows on this post as well. It hasn't been one-sided, and while the "no cash bar team" has done some name calling, you too have done a lot of that.

Go figure. I never honestly thought cash bar was an issue. like until hours ago.

I never heard of people taking money out of cards or leaving a wedding or being upset about it.

ever. in. my . life. and I'm 29 years old and have been to many weddings and been on these forums.

Sarah, I never called anyone Horrible, Sarah. I never even called open-bar wrong or called anyone any "names". i just gave my background (briefly and pretty vague) about SOME of my wedding guests. I never talked down to others who had opposition in my views.

Just to clarify, there was no use of the word "inbred" as relates to Lindsey that I saw.

Lindsey open/cash bar is one of the hot topics in this community. There are certain subjects that people disagree on and this is one of them. Remember that the posters here represent a large cross section of population. Just because you've never heard complaints or seen eye rolls doesn't mean it didn't happen or that everyone is happy paying for drinks.

@Lindsey that's why I specifically said paraphrasing because I didn't see you say that. My point still stands that you asked for opinions, got them, and only really went with the people who liked your idea. That's really frustrating.

I'm paying for pop and beer. Anything else is on them

I'm not the OP, so no, I didn't ask for opinions

@LuckyAK yeah. That's a thing. Imma be on the WWAD post. Haha