It's very important to my FH that in our vows I promise to love and obey him. I have been on the fence about this for months. It doesn't seem like it should be that big of a deal, but I'm just not sure if I can promise to obey him. You obey your parents and teachers. I don't really see him fitting into the catergory of people I obey. On the other hand; I really want to incorporate things that he has an opinion about. And this one is big to him. Thoughts?? Please help!