Bridesmaid: Is she out of control or am I worrying it about it too much?

Ouch! those look like they hurt!

But whats done is done and most piercings you cannot take out.

Ouuuuuuuuch! Honestly, I wouldn't say anything. I'm assuming your BM's will be wearing jewelry? Most people probably won't even notice.

You say nothing, can't really dictate to grown adults what they can do with their own bodies. Most people aren't going to be so focused on her they forget about the B&G...

Those look painful....it's your right to ask her to leave out the collarbone ones it's YOUR day. Just find a way to ask her politely (I know that's easier said than done). If I were you, I would be asking her to leave them out.

I honestly don't think people will notice because they'll be looking at you. If you're concerned as far as pictures go, they can probably be editted out of the photos. Its not something to get mad about because it is her body and her decision.

Lol For me I dont do piercings or tattoes so i would say "whoaaaaaaaaaaaa that is a lot", but for others who have them, they might not think the same thing. However I think the decision rests wit you here, if you think it is too much and the way u picture her in her BM dress it wont look good, then I suggest you speak up so she doesnt get the impression that you dont mind. Since they are piercings, I am thinking they can be taken off for a day right?(please correct me if i am wrong).

So like i said if it really bothers you and you dont think she is helping you create the vision you have for your wedding, inform her and see what she says but just dont let it get to a stage where she is all covered up in piercing and she says "but you never said anything"

Most people wont even notice...they are all looking at you anyway...people that talk to her may say something but they wont take away from your day

I would leave it alone for now, a lot can happen in a year.

OMG.. I didn't realize I would get so many responses so soon!! Thank you all for your advise. I don't think she can take them out the day of the wedding. I wouldn't ask her too, I've asked her prior to slow down on the tattoos and she did this. LOL.. So much for asking. She told me I had too many rules cause I asked her not to make those smirking smiles, but to be natural and show her real smile. she's a pretty girl I just think this is too much.

I was talking to one of my vendors. She use to be a coordinator for 15 years. She told me not to worry about it. That maybe it's not that bad. I guess I need to call my Coordinator and ask her what does she think. Maybe its just me. I just don't think this is appropriate for LIFE. LOL Well at least I wouldn't do it.

I think you're all right. I should let it go. But I will chat with my coordinator and see what she thinks. We have 16 months til the wedding. I just scared what she might do next.

You should never ask your bridesmaid to alter their hair coloring, cover tattoos, take our peircings, nail color, etc. you asked her ot be in your wedding b/c shes means a lot to you. you prob knew before you asked that she was a little excentric. Acept her for who she is! she is already wearing a dress you chose, she should not have to alter her appearance. I am a bride but have been a bridesmaid 10 times and would have been offended if someone asked me to change something about my appearance.

I thin that over a year from now it won't be an issue. . .either they won't last that long, or by that time, you can ask her to take them out for the day.

Oh myyyyyyy-- that looks painful-- geesh louise

Oh...wow. i'd put money on the fact that she won't still have all those a year from now. They look painful and annoying. how in the heck is she going to wear normal pants with those hip piercings?!

I wouldn't say anything yet. She's an adult, and she chose to get the piercings. Your wedding is over a year away. Her piercings should heal by then, and she should be able to take them out for a short amount of time without having to worry about them closing up. At that point, I think that it's okay for you to ask for her to only wear the same jewelry as the other BM and no collar bone jewelry.

@Sarah S. I am not picking out the dresses. I am allowing them to pick out their own dresses to match their personalities & style.That's just it, she isn't eccentric. She's been doing all of this since she's been in the Airforce (a year). She has freedom that she's never had before in her life and I think she's going bonkers. This is not her personality, but I get what your saying. I wouldn't want anyone to change me either, but I would think twice about being a BM and getting another Tattoo. I'd wait, but that's me. But thanks for the advise.

@Julie I was thinking the same thing. A year from now she will be ready to take them out.

@Andrea, Thanks. I don't know much about body piercings. I know my nose piercing took a while for it to heal and what not. But you can barely see my nose piercing. It's tiny. I am ok with the piercings.I don't think asking her to remove the ones on her collar bone would be too much.

I wouldn’t worry. Your guests attention will be on you & your groom no mater what. But if they stick out in your photos ask your photographer to airbrush them out.

I think it's appropriate to ask her to remove them for the wedding day. She will have to remove them pretty much daily anyway- so it shouldnt be a big deal. I hope she realizes those piercings are against uniform in the military... Because she will have to remove them every time she wears her PTs.

Honestly if this isnt typical behavior for her and you're close, i'd say something. I mean she is your neice. I'd be like..wow hon, you're going nutty with the piercings... take a break before you give your mom a heartattack.... and laugh it off. As for the wedding, i wouldn't worry, i mean you never know a friend can show up in Hooker boots for all you know, lol... but if you're just worried about her, then gently bring it up and ask whats made her interested in all these different piercings? Im all for them, have had MANY, but not the collar bones, lol.. OWIE

Also, most of the time those type of piercings reject. I doubt she'll still have them by the time your wedding rolls around.

I wouldn't worry about anything overshadowing you on your big day. One of my BM will be 5 months preggers, one has a full sleeve tattoo with a naked mermaid, a zombie heart on her sternum, a pair of birds on her collarbones, and butterfly wings on her back. My MOH ears are gauged out 1/2". Also, half the groom's BM, my FH, my FIL, and my dad will be wearing kilts!

I just think it'll make for awesome wedding pictures of all my crazy friends. I cherish them as they are!

@Lesli WOW.. You really put it into perspective! That's going to be an awesome picture. I can't wait to see this!

@Sabrina Thanks. I believe that is my main concern, what is really going on. I know my mom is going to have a heart attack when she see them all. She flipped out when I got the top on my left ear pierced. I was 22! She always freaks when I get another tattoo. I don't want to think I am telling her what to do, but I don't think she's thinking stuff through. I asked her to take a break on the Tats cause the person that was doing them wasn't real artistic. They are too big and odd. LOL So we will see what happens. Thanks

@Meghan, I didn't think she could wear them every day with her uniform. Thanks for the advise.

@James... Thank you. I will keep that in mind.