Bridesmaid: Is she out of control or am I worrying it about it too much?

I wouldnt say anything yet... your wedding is not till 2013 so you still have some time.. maybe she will take it out on her own by then... but if not, I would definitely ask her closer to the date to take it out

I only skimmed all the responses, so I'm not sure it's been suggested... but perhaps a nice shawl or bolero can be used to cover up?

I wouldn't worry much about it. I know A LOT of people that have those, and after it's healed, it's not that bad at all

but don't make her take them out...[unless it gets infected] those things have to be anchored...so whats done is done and that sucker [the piercings] is stuck

I can't get over how painful they look lol i do like personality in photos though, so i'm all for her keeping them in

I wiouldnt say anything your wedding is a little over a year away. In that time she may have decided to remove them and let the wholes close up for by that time decided to wear the more subtle studs.

Jeez... I wonder if she would be allowed to keep those being in the Air Force and all... Looks painful! I would just wait it out. I wonder if they are removable once they heal. If so, I would just ask her to take them out the day of or maybe she'll pick a dress that will cover them.

I've seen a lot of that happen. Young people in the military going nuts because they're on their own and can do what they want. I've seen lots of really dumb tattoos because of it.

FH was in the navy for 20 years and his nipples were pierced. A lot of the other people in his unit also had piercings. As long as they weren't visible in uniform it wasn't an issue.

Now, as far as her bridesmaid dress goes and how she will look in it...That's really her call on what she does to her body. I know it's a worry that she may throw off your vision but in the end it's about the person and not what they look like.

One last thing, OUCH!

OMG that looks so painful!!!!!!!

All Good Responses. I am glad I did this. I love weddingwire.com all of you have actually given me piece of mind. Thank you all.

And yes OUCH!!!

You really have to baby those surface piercings. How can she be active in the Air Force and be careful of those? I'm thinking by the time your wedding rolls around next year, they'll have already rejected and it won't be an issue.

And if it makes you feel better... my co-workers son joined the service and after basic training, he decided he was a satanist. He has pentagrams, bloody goat heads, and "HAIL LUCIFER" tattooed all over forearms. Just keep in mind that your nieces piercings can be taken out one day... but that idiot is branded for life!

Wow Beth. That's crazy. She got some crazy looking tattoos too.

The most recent it is the nicest. It's on her foot going up her leg of roses. But most of them are not attractive. I feel for your co-worker. How is that working for her? Has to be a scary thing.

But the piercings I don't know how she is going to be in the Air Force for 12 yrs with that all on her body. I hate to say this but I hope they reject. I think that is the only way she will learn from it.

Thanks for the advice.

I just googled this to confirm my thoughts.. and you cannot remove dermal piercings which is what the collarbone and hips are then put them back in.. They must be surgically removed..

"Following a surgical removal of Dermal Piercing jewelry, there may be scarring in the area. The wound however, heals properly. If you are not content with your Dermal Piercing jewellery and want to remove it after a time period, be prepared to carry a scar" http://www.primehealthchannel.com/dermal-piercing-pictures-procedure-infection-healing-and-aftercare.html

So she won't be able to remove them for the wedding. I wouldn't be too worried though because once they heal they aren't that noticeable esp if you are wearing a necklace.. My friend has them.

As a piercer, I can tell you that surface piercing aren't as easy as just taking them out for a day.

Not to mention that it's her body, what she does to it shouldn't be a problem for you wedding... It's like being mad because you don't like her hair cut. Get over it.

Nalaani, Those arent dermals. Those are industrial barbells like you get in your ear cartilage. I agree with Meghan that being in the Air Force, she will have to get used to removing them alot and should for your wedding.

I think if she's old enough to be in the Air Force then she is old enough to decide what she wants to do with her body.

I agree with missturnbow2b

@Nalani N. Thanks for the info. That's some interesting stuff.

@Abby F. Great thanks for your advice (sarcasm), I'm not mad and it's not a hair cut. And getting over it is something I've already done if you read the comments.

@Now-I-am Mrs. Clark Thanks

Again folks thanks for the comments. Choose your words very carefully. No need to be negative about what I think. Respect me and I will respect you.

Don't say anything. If you do don't make it about your wedding, just ask her why she wanted to do it. Show a genuine interest instead of harping on her. And if you don't like the way it looks get her a sash for your pics.

I'd leave it alone. Not only can you not control what other adults do to their appearance, but it's clear she's going a bit mad from freedom. Kind of a delayed adolescence. So if you push the subject, she'll either flip and start a family war, or run out and find new things to pierce/tattoo/dye pink. Her freak flag is flying now, but most likely it'll be at half-mast within a year.

I know that the make clear plastic piercings for things like the belly button and for piercings on the face (mys sis has a piercing above her lip and wears the clear plastic tip to work). Anyway, why don't you ask if they make those for the collar bone piercing and if she would be willing to change into those for the wedding (or even atleast for the ceremony and pictures), then she can put the other ones back in.